My boyfriend's best friend bullies me?

[Anonymous]

She has been bullying and threatening me for the last 2 years. I tell my boyfriend but he doesn't believe me and she bullies me whenever he turns his back and is not paying attention

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

This reminds me of a previous question. ( link ) In this case my answer is the same there as it will be here.

"Well I don't know if he's cheating you, but clearly he's playing favorites and somehow you're LOSING? That ain't right. You gotta stand up to him and put your foot down. You tried playing nice, and he's not listening to you. You. His fiancee! I think you need to stand up, sit him down, open the discussion with "we need to talk" and draw a line in the f***ing sand. Tell him how tired you are, of all this sh*t Tell him that he needs to start treating you better, and start listening to you, or it's over.

Seems extreme, I'm sure, but frankly, you think he's cheating on you, so there's no trust, and secondly, he doesn't believe you, so there's no trust there either, and finally he's taking favorites of another woman over you, a woman who is disrespecting you and bullying you. This is not right. Your relationship has gone to hell, and I don't see it getting better. So, I say give him one last big chance, to cut the sh*t, and right f***ing now, or it's over.

This is not cool. I do not envy your position. Still I think you can do better. So at best, give him one last chance. An ultimatum, and if he doesn't go for it, just leave.

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I stand by my advice. Stand up to him and give him hell, draw a line in the friggin sand and if he's not listening, then just leave. If your fiancee really is willing to listen to this girl over his own girlfriend, then he is NOT the man you want to marry, because even if you get that far I guarantee, your marriage will NOT last more than a couple years tops.

Stand up and do something or just leave. Stop whining and crying about it and just get up and do something.

NOW!"

If your situation is any different then please tell me. If you've tried any of this, let me know.

Good luck. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she might see as a threat. She occupied a place in his life, and you're pushing her out. Personally I don't see why she should act like this, as things are bound to change when someone enters a romantic relationship.

I agree with Toban Frost. You have to make your boyfriend see, in no uncertain terms, that this is affecting you. Don't let him just brush it off.

[Ramonaaa]

Try to explain things to him. Try to show him when it happens. My boyfriend needed more than 6 years to really see it and take action, but it was worth it. If your boyfriend really will never believe you, then (at least for me) it would be a deal breaker eventually.