Should I apologize for texting him?

[Anonymous]

Should I apologize for being too much and intense emotionally basically or should I just lay low for a couple of days

Apologize and don’t text again

Lay low don’t text again even if it was too much

[bigc150]

Don’t apologize, but lay low for a little, and if nothing happens, then it’s no good

[Asker]

I already texted and apologized this morning dude !!

[Asker]

Didn’t say anything but I’m not texting him again

[Asker]

We will talk again

[bigc150]

Well good luck then, but if you want to keep talking to him lay low just to be safe

[Asker]

Yea I’m laying real low it’s just we wel together and I’ll probably see him on Tuesday and I don’t know how to act

[bigc150]

Easier said then done, but don’t try to act to nonchalant or too nervous just act casual

[Dos_santos]

Decrease your talking and massages that been sent to him and he will ask about you

[Asker]

Yes this is what I’m gonna do but we work together

[Dos_santos]

Pretend that you are less interested in him than before but do not cut the connection with him , make him feel like he his a normal person to you , don’t ignore as well , and try to enjoy your life away from him you will see that he will try to be closer

[Ms_Ronaldo]

Never apologize for who you are! Never ever!

[Asker]

I was just expressing myself and saying I like him then I sent another text asking why he’s hot and cold and he shouldn’t act like that then I sent another text lol saying I wanted to be with him I don't know why I sent so many text sometimes when I’m tired I just don’t think rationally

[Asker]

It was in the middle of the night and I woke up thinking wtf did I do that for

[Ms_Ronaldo]

Haha, probably because you wanted answers. And you are intitled to have the answers to those questions. But maybe next time you can beter talk to him about it than texting :)

[Asker]

Yea but they were very wordy messages too 😂😂 like big messages. I’m not gonna apologize but I do need to talk to him in person cause he says more in person than I text but he never answered me so I’m wondering if I should apologize but it be like the 5 text I sent him I really just wanted answers because we were friends with benefits but then confessed we cared about eachother

[Asker]

So then I started acting crazy cause I’m really confused

[Ms_Ronaldo]

Yes, I think you should explain, not apoligize :)

[Asker]

I explained no answer lol I just need to chill I’m being crazy

[Professor_Zoom]

I need a bit more context.

[Asker]

What happened was I felt love for him after we had our talk and we confessed we care for eachother and I then messaged him this “ I am serious about you I have always been. Ever since I met you , I’ve wanted you. I think about you all the time” He told me he doesn’t know what to say when I message him things like that and he usually doesn’t answer me because he can’t express himself but even tho he told me that durin our talk we had I messaged him again mad that he never responded to that message and said if you don’t like me you can just say it. I then message him again afterward and said that if he wanted to be with me I wanted to be with him. The next day I apologized for everything and being too emotional with him since he has issues with this and I know he doesn’t mean to not respond and that I was sorry

[Professor_Zoom]

It may be a bit too much. I think you should apologize. Only because that all sounds like too much too soon. You both said you cared about each other. He hasn’t said that he’s madly in love with you. Especially since you work together. This can turn into a very unpleasant situation. I suggest talking in person. Say that you’re sorry for coming on so hard, but it’s because you like him so much. Be willing to lose this battle. Put it out there that if he’s still interested, that you don’t mind dialing things way down, going slow and just having a good time with each other. But if not then you’re cool with that too.

Regardless of what happens, you have to learn to chill with laying out your feelings like that. You save that for after you’ve been intimate with someone for a while. Even then you have to know when to hold back some.

[Asker]

I did apologize I said I was sorry and sometimes I don’t have a filter and I’m not trying to force myself and him to do anything he doesn’t want I’m soooo embarrassing 😞😔😞 I did text him the apology because I couldn’t say it to his face I’ve asked him if it was too much if i act too much and he will say no he just doesn’t know what to say or express himself but then I don't know I felt I went crazy af

[thinker_]

what did u texted him?

it depends on that

[Asker]

I already apologized lol

[Asker]

I was just saying how I liked him a lot in one text then asked him to be with me

[Asker]

Then I switched and said he didn’t like me then apologized for me being emotionally messy

[Asker]

Lol he never answered but it’s okay everything is confusing for both of us rn

[thinker_]

Okay

What happened at that time
Are you depressed too?

[Asker]

What happened was I felt love for him after we had our talk and we confessed we care for eachother and I then messaged him this “ I am serious about you I have always been. Ever since I met you , I’ve wanted you. I think about you all the time” He told me he doesn’t know what to say when I message him things like that and he usually doesn’t answer me because he can’t express himself but even tho he told me that durin our talk we had I messaged him again mad that he never responded to that message and said if you don’t like me you can just say it. I then message him again afterward and said that if he wanted to be with me I wanted to be with him. The next day I apologized for everything and being too emotional with him since he has issues with this and I know he doesn’t mean to not respond and that I was sorry

[Asker]

And I am depressed he knows this and he told me” don’t be depressed you have Me” but when we aren’t together he doesn’t even bother text me or talk to me barely unless I talk to him

[Asker]

So I’m confused and he doesn’t know how to show feelings and puts up a facade like he doesn’t care so it’s like does he really not care or is he faking and it confuses me

[thinker_]

Are you sure he is not faking?

Or is in relationship?

Or likes girls generally?

[Asker]

I’m not sure if he’s faking he’s not in a relationship and he does like girls

[Asker]

He seems genuine when we talk but it’s like he said he doesn’t need anyone he said he’s closed off

[Asker]

That even his family don’t know why he won’t express anything at all

[thinker_]

Would you mind chatting this over?

[thinker_]

Cuz it would be easy then

[Asker]

What do u mean

[thinker_]

Discussing over direct messages

[Asker]

Okay sure

[Anonymous]

Don't apologize.