What does it mean when a guy says you’re “fuck-material” but not “wife-material”?

[maiave]

🤔🙄

[Miristheiss]

Probably that you are physically attractive (the idea of being intimate with your body is pleasing) but you have traits or qualities he doesn't want in the person he totally gives his heart to and would want to commit to forever.

Are you a stripper, have lots of tattoos, do you do drugs, do you drink and party a lot and have lots of casual sex... etc? These are extreme examples on things that could bump you out of someone's "wife" category.

Any hint on what it is about you that caused him to say this?

He probably wasn't "husband" material either though was he?

[Js138]

How do tattoos contribute to being "fuck material"? That's absolutely absurd. Your other mentions of being a stripper, doing a lot of drugs/ partying, and engaging in casual sex are understandable... But tattoos? Tattoos say nothing about a woman's character. They in no way make a woman more promiscuous, unreliable, or untrustworthy. Its a form of art. I know a ton of "good girls" with tattoos, and it's becoming more rare to find a girl with no tattoos!

[Miristheiss]

@Js138
You must have tattoos otherwise why would you have such an emotional reaction to "possible" reasons... things that could be a possibility, not some law of the universe. "If" he doesn't like the way tattoos look on women than he may not want to marry her but still think she has a nice body.

You are taking things too much as a "law" rather than just some "possible" opinions this guy could have.

[Js138]

Just pointing out that having tattoos isn't even on the same plane as the other things you mentioned. Being a stripper or promiscuous definitely says a lot about a woman's character, and that I can understand. And yes, I do have tattoos... But I don't drink/ use drugs, strip, or act promiscuous.

[Miristheiss]

@Js138
I figured. Than you must accept the reality that for some... not all, you've changed the way your body looks permanently to where some that would have found you attractive before will now no longer find you attractive. Some guys like tattoos but there are many who do not and you've kind of intentionally shrunk the pool of guys that you could be with.

I don't know anyone who would not want to be with a woman because she doesn't have tattoos but plenty who would not want her long term because she does. Someone has to be willing to look at that for the rest of their lives, some won't to. Maybe they could look at the rest of your body for one night but wouldn't want to look at the ink for a lifetime.

Hey, this guy may love tattoos on women, that is just one possible option that could be out there. Maybe you have a different faith than his or you have no faith and therefore although he may like you he knows it couldn't go all the way to marriage.

[Miristheiss]

@Js138
Didn't the guy give any clues at all? You must have some vibe as to what qualities he may want in a wife or what it is that puts you two in different categories? Is he someone you just met or have you known him for a while? What is YOUR guess?

[Js138]

I guess every guy has different qualities that he likes for in a wife, but i myself have never been turned down or treated disrespectfully by a man simply because I have tattoos. I think a lot of "being wife material" has more to do with your personality and your general outlook on life. Like sharing the same values, being trustworthy and reliable, and a generally positive person. I accept that there are probably men out there who don't like tattoos but I haven't run into any. I'm 35 years old, got my first tattoo at 16, and its never been an issue.

[Buckzor]

Means he'd have sex with you, but doesn't find your personality good enough to marry you.
Simply put, to him you're sexy but wouldn't want to spend his life with you, meaning there's parts about you he doesn't like, which don't matter when you're just fucking.

[maiave]

Yeah, except he doesn’t know me.. We barely even spoke and then I heard him saying that about me

[Buckzor]

Strange. Probably saying that cause he doesn't know you, or maybe he's put off by something he's seen from you so far.

[maiave]

Yeah, maybe.

[potatoisme]

That in his opinion you're only good for hookups but not for an actual long term serious relationship
Which means he would fuck u and leave

[Livinglogical]

That he'd screw u but if he had to spend a long time in a room with u after, he'd rather kill himself.

[nickyBBB]

That you are probably a sl*t and not a keeper, someone without anything but a good body 👌🏼

[maiave]

Why so crude I mean?

[nickyBBB]

What?

[maiave]

He’s never talked to me before, why would he assume that?

[nickyBBB]

Maybe you show some cheap behavior or sleeping around? 😕 or just dress really "sl*tty" so he assumed you are that type of girl and said that...

[maiave]

Yeah maybe.. well if a guy looks at me and thinks he has me all figured out then he wasn’t anything to have anyway

[nickyBBB]

That's very true, find someone better 🙃

[grinwoody]

That's stupid, if she is giving off slut vibes, then good men will avoid her. So she should continue doing what she is doing and just attracting men that will use her. Not good if she is looking for a stable relationship (which she should be)

[maiave]

I’m not giving up any “slut-vibes”, that’s the thing

[maiave]

Fuck you you’re pathetic

[wilco999]

Based on the conversations on here and how aggressive you are, maybe its not because you act like a slut but he can't be arsed dealing with someone who is so high maintenance?

[grinwoody]

She is very masculine, I expect comes from a broken home.

[maiave]

I’m really not aggressive at all... you can’t decide someone’s personality off of a website on.. I’m not high maintenance and he doesn’t even know me and you don’t either

[wilco999]

That's why I said "based on conversations here"

[zombiebabe]

it means he just sees you only good enough to f*ck and not for wife material

[InfoBot]

Most likely said by a guy who couldn't get you for either or by a guy looking to appear like a stud to his little group of boyfriends.

It's like some scrub saying that he'd take a Ferrari for the weekend but would only buy a Bugatti. In reality he drives a used Ford.

[WalterRadio]

I use the terms throwaways and keepers (for a relationship, not necessarily as consideration of marriage).

These are two different standards. There is a lower standard for throwaways. For me, a throwaway just has to be average attractiveness and not have an STD. I don't have to actually like her. I usually don't tell throwaways my real name in case they turn out to be crazy.

For a keeper, she has to be quite attractive, very smart, and I have to really like her a lot.

[TonguePunch]

Well, I haven't heard that one but Id guess he means he would have lots of sex with you but that would be it. Something along the line of "I feel chemistry, you are hot af, seem like you'd be great in bed, but I can't think of other things to do together"

[FemWorship]

Poor you?
Guys like that are one night stands or sex slave of the month club
never there when you need them
Other guys see you too much trouble to defend against other guys attracted like moths to flame later on... e. g. lazy or pussies
Then the idiots that only know what they saw growing up as "reality" and everyone else outside that mold = not "wife"

Your reply = thanks, this appraisal saves me a lot of wasted time (on you), goodbye

[SanePerson]

It means that he has no respect for you as a person and your value is only the material pleasure in the moment. It's a cold and horrible thing to say but in some cases women are smoking hot airheads and other more plain women are wife material.

[SA1Qahtani]

It means he's a fucking hypocrite. He shouldn't be sleeping with her, if he thinks less of her.

[USA1960]

100% correct.

[Derwizardmo]

Depends on what he is critical of about a mate. Maybe he doesn't think she would be faithful... or he might think she has a smokin hottt body but she fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down... Who knows? Dont worry girls. We can't read your minds either. ..

[sawno]

You are pretty enough to fuck and really have a good time with, but when it comes to it he doesn't see a long term relationship happening with you. Likely because of the kind of personality you put out not matching what he is looking for.

[MarcoAurelio]

He is being rude and trying to hurt you, don't pay attention... It doesn't exist that "fuck/wife-material", you are human, not an object

[Patrickjv]

I can't be bothered to find out what all this basic bro ape slang means.

[Tushnim]

Means it's about time you kicked their ass and sent them packing. If a guy said that, he means that you're nothing more than a booty call for him as far as he is concerned regardless of what you feel.

[Fantastico16]

It means he only loves sex with you.. You don't have much to offer or he don't have any emotions for you and only loves you bcoz of looks and body.

[AlphaStyles]

It means in his eyes either your behavior has lead him to believe you are not a wife type you are just a good fuck toy or he see's you as a sex person rather than a wife type

[Anonymous]

Wife material girls are also fuckable. But girls who are only good for fucks are like sluts. There is a difference between a slut and a virgin. So it is something like that. Virgins wait for sex only after marriage but sluts can be fucked any time.

[Leo3572]

That you look good enough to fuck you but that men won't like to marry you. Maybe cause of your personality or your intelligence. It's rude to say that.

[sassycassy87]

He could never see a future with you but definitely could have sex with you

[StillKonfuzed]

Wife material is someone who is supportive , understanding n caring with a hot body, n fuck material is someone with just hot body!
These type of girls have nothing to offer than just sex!

[maiave]

But why would anyone say that without actually getting to know you & your personality?

[StillKonfuzed]

Thats because people love to jump to conclusions instantly. The subconcious mind starts doing the calculations at the first glance and the concious mind jumps to conclusion with the gathered actions\behaviours! People love to judge n place things into categories.😂

[sachin2110]

It means he is just using you for sexual course but when it comes after sex you are just waste or useless.

[RohitLakra]

Fuck material : one night stand type or short term dating
Wife material : someone worthy of long term relationship type

[baegirlbae18]

You're basically an object to him. He just wants to use u for sex

[Nahid1234]

Low key you’re hella intelligent.

[baegirlbae18]

Thanks

[Nahid1234]

You’re welcome.

How are things? You okay?

[baegirlbae18]

Things are okay
How r things with u and r u okay?

[Nahid1234]

How is your Love life? Guys treating you how you deserve to be treated as? Not as a push over?

[Nahid1234]

I’m good, thank you honey.

[baegirlbae18]

Yeah they're treating me right and you're welcome babe

[Nahid1234]

Still with the same lad as before?

[baegirlbae18]

No changed. I'm with another guy now and my mum is looking to get me married tho😂

[baegirlbae18]

We still talk tho and still close

[Nahid1234]

I hope everything is okay.

[baegirlbae18]

Yeah everything is
How are your girls treating you?😏

[Nahid1234]

Hi, sorry I was eating dinner.

I hope everything is.

I have no hoes, side chicks and no backup girl.

I have no girl rn.

They aren’t talking to me so I got rid of them.

And I’m hoping to meet / catch up with a special lady soon.

[baegirlbae18]

Hope you get the right one
You will one day xx

[Nahid1234]

Thanks. Sorry by the way, I was just looking out for ya.

Where you met your new lad? If he is your lad.

And it is nice to know you aren’t afraid to leave a guy.

[baegirlbae18]

It's okay and that's personal 🤣 I wouldn't say it on here and yeah i know

[baegirlbae18]

Ofc I'm not afraid to leave a guy 😅

[Nahid1234]

Okay sorry.😊

[Nahid1234]

You’re a sweet girl and anyone you knows you in their life is very lucky.

[baegirlbae18]

It's okay and thank you

I'd say the same to u

[Nahid1234]

Good Night.

[baegirlbae18]

Goodnight

[angela4266]

damn you guys should just get married right now

[baegirlbae18]

Isn't it abit too late to reply to this😂😂😂 @angela

[MisterSir]

it means he thinks you're fuck-material but not wife-material

[CrazyyChick]

That you are not for a relaionship cause you are too easy to get but you are hot

[scooogy]

If I would say that, I would mean that the girl is far too distant, interested in her own life, not opening up to conversations.

[Merc1994]

Don't no if it is true, but he thinks you have nothing to "offer" beside having sex.
Don't wanna be rude, I just sad what I think it is.

[Merc1994]

*I just said

[metalman12]

Sorry to be so honest. Basically he thinks you are nothing but a good fuck and bring nothing else to the table. His opinion not mine don't know you

[magedz]

It means that he thinks that u will be so good at sex as u have a good body or something but not good for marriage cause he doesn't like your personality

[Lednnar]

If you come to ask this, i'll have to agree that guy...

[HolyLiving]

He doesn't want you to have as a long term partner.

[Delroy1995]

Your not girlfriend material but you look like you would be a good fuck, it might be the way you dress, talk etc or you have a bad reputation

[Nahid1234]

You're basically an object to him. He just wants to use u for sex

[dannyjett]

Exactly that, he would love to fuck you but would never wife you

[khopp]

It means your hot but he is not wanting you to be in a serious relationship with him

[Daddywolfe]

Just good for sexual pleasure and not to a his wofe

[Seppelson]

It means that you are hot but he would never trust you

[trippy01]

Leave him.. he want to fuck you and not make you his wife

[grinwoody]

It's means your a low quality slit

[maiave]

I’ve never spoken to him before so I don’t get why he would think that?

[grinwoody]

Appearance, reputation?

[grinwoody]

How many times have you been married or had a one night stand

[maiave]

The fuck? I’m 19, so 0

[grinwoody]

So you have never had a one night stand

[maiave]

No I don’t want diseases

[grinwoody]

Have you done anal?

[YoungManTryin]

It means you shouldn't sleep with him.

[whiteangel1]

Means he is a fuck boy...

[Aquatoy]

I thought that would be self explanatory.

[maiave]

Well so can’t figure out what he meant by that considering he literally never spoke to me before

[Aquatoy]

Oh man. He is very brave. I wasn't trying to be rude. I'm sorry if it came off that way.

[oldguyincanada]

It means he is not boyfriend or husband material.

[hasrett]

I don't know what requires explaining here.

[asuspiciousdoorway]

Means you're dating the wrong guy 😂😂

[Dxk007]

Exactly what it sounds like.

[dragon9669]

Trust me that's an insult

[Anonymous]

Dear god... how is this a question?

[maiave]

What?

[Opinion Owner]

He wants to fuck you

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It means exactly that.

[violentwalker]

He'd like to Fuck u but not marriage with u

[ShesAmerican]

yikes

[joshua4k20]

You are hot but not all together yet