Women are not intimidating, the reason why men struggle with women especially when young is because women basically represent the key to reproduction, so if you get rejected it means you're not good enough as a man to be allowed to reproduce.
It's not just beeing rejected by one girl but not beeing respected and beeing seen as worthy by nature or the world or whatever. That's why it can be hard for guys to handle at first.
But it has nothing to do with you ! You are not intimidating. Guys just have to get used to dealing with fear and learn to not give as many fucks that's all. It takes some time and some guts and drive. But you have nothing to do with it you're just a girl.
When a guy approaches a girl he's not just dealing with the girl but he's beeing tested by nature but don't confused that with you having some kind of intimidation powers it has nothing to do with you it's a evolutionary thing.
Unless you're a MMA fighter there's nothing intimidating about you.
@UnaKaizen Whatever you say
The combination of being a careerist AND have very high plans for life in general:
"Let's buy a mortgage way above our means (because I must have a garden). Let's have at least three kids and put them all in riding classes!"
In short, a highly expensive want-it-all lifestyle which guarantees that you'll never have any spare time save for perhaps one hour of TV before you collapse from exhaustion, every day. That's my general nightmare.
However, women who have high careers but are sort of minimalist and down to earth outside of work are the absolute best! (but they are rare)
Isn't that more a case of you possessing the common sense to not want to live beyond your means, than actual intimidation?
@1derfulguy Fair point.
Ok then, I'd say that successful and gorgeous women intimidate me more because I anticipate it's more likely they are that which I described, high maintenance (which doesn't have to be money per se, but time and effort). Another thing is that you just don't want to be scrutinized by someone who's too impressive. It makes you be a bit more on guard.
It's probably no different from women if you gave them the choice. What would be worse between being brushed off and dismissed by an average or even somewhat unappealing dude, or someone who's highly charismatic and seems to have it all made?
I bet they'd say the second is worse.
My ex used to be intimidating by my sociability and the fact that I'm 'too talented'. Being mature is intimidating enough for school students/teenagers tbh.
@Stylish27 good thing he's an ex!
@Stylish27 wow.
Looks and brains, coworkers usually get scared by the second
When they're looking good and I'm in my bummy state
Edit: why can't females answer? Some of us like women too
I’m sorry. Of course females can answer too. I should have thought about that.
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I'm 5'7, and growing up with tall attractive girls as friends, taller girls were always a no for me. My friends would tell me it was creepy when short guys would be interested in taller women.
I think money was another one. My parents were very controlling about everything growing up. Money always was saved for school and extracurricular activities that they thought were important. I wasn't allowed to have a car, so it was hard to tell a girl that I didn't have a lot of stuff, but not because i wasn't capable of obtaining it. I was always dressed well though, but it didn't seem to attract women.
Dressing well is defo attractive. It just can't stand alone. It's more like the icing on the cake IMHO. E. g. if you had the choice between getting in shape and getting new clothes, I would choose getting in shape.
@1derfulguy I'm in amazing shape. I bodybuild too, now
Cool
Not intimidated for females or how tall she is.
What makes you a fling and not girlfrind material has to do with your attitude.
If you are behaving like a walking issue you normaly fall in to fling, for instance lack of trust worthiness, high maintenance, one way, drama queen, lack of creating different emotions with in him, lack of two way conection on a deeper level, missmatching internal how we are, people pleaser, acting instead of being yourself, mental ill, lack of respect, communication issue's, haven't found yourself, insecurities, low self respect...
It can be him.
It can be a lot of thing's that makes it to lead one way or the other.
How they share so much information with their friends. Ie, sexual partners etc.
Also the women who are able to just make friends and be social around anyone and everyone, not sure why, it just is.
So pretty much “confidence”?
I guess you could say so, confidence doesn't exactly go hand and hand with being social, yes it's linked, but not exclusive as I would say.
I also find women who are like myself in not looking happy, are frowning most of the time when they're alone, it gives off a scary kind of vibe sometimes lol, if that makes sense.
I think that literally the only woman I've ever found intimidating was the Russian bitch in Kick Ass 2.
I've never found women intimidating in real life and I honestly find it ridiculous and a bit offensive that so many of you actually think the issue is that you just "Intimidate the poor little men" rather than acknowledging your faults.
Improve yourself first before blaming others. Cheers.
I can honestly say I have never said I was intimidating, I've only ever had guys say I'm intimidating & come across stuck up. The problem is even people who have gone on to be my friends (female) have said this until they get to know me. I'm actually a really shy person. I'm confident within my own right, in company I know but new people make me get really anxious. So I then try and project confidence, on the rare occasion I've been my true self others have said I'm taking the piss and pretending about how nervous I actually am.
Not all of us throw that label around.
I find it really intimidating when a beautiful woman is nerdy, smart, self-deprecating, and self-aware.
Beauty, social skills, and status. Most the intimidation would come from performance on the guys part, not from the woman. Is he seen as creepy? Is he seen as out of her league? Is she impressed? Will she reject him? It all comes down to impressing actively rather than enticing passively like women tend to do.
Really successful women can be intimidating because they might expect a guy to be better off than them (the whole dating up mentality), which he might not be. Really attractive women can be as well if they get a lot of male attention.
Really, "intimidation" just comes down to a guy's perceived ability to "compete". If he feels he can then he's not intimidated.
Can I just say something. Say for example you meet a woman that you really like, she's pretty, successful and looking for love. For the most part yes a woman wants a man that's financially stable (that means not job hopping) and a guy that's confident has interests, shows interest in her but is RESPECTFUL!
So many guys have it all down but treat women like an accessory, you literally feel like your either in a relationship of convenience, in one with many other women and sometimes both.
I can't speak for all but those of us that treat men well look for that in return.
OP women are not intimidating on any level in any way. guys don't pursue girls we don't like; that could mean she's not physically attractive enough, she talks too much, she's annoying, she's too masculine, etc.
Or it could be that we like her a lot and just completely shit the bed by missing signs, being too nice, being too available etc.
Intelligence... I ve never met anyone more intelligent than me let alone a woman... I have this huge ego against women.. But at the same time if a girl is really smart and intelligent it gets me horny too.. It's kinda weird.. She is my type of girl.. Its like an adrenaline necessity of mine lol
I can usually argue with anyone for hours in a good manner or bad even without knowing a single thing bout the topic... I just play it smart and learn but it during the argument... So its probably my cognitive thinking.. And I'm pretty arrogant bout it too.. So I'd be threatened by a women who is more intelligent in that aspect... And turned on beyond my control at the same time... I don't know if that makes sense
Not really intimidated by tall women, 'cause they're often a bit awkward. More intimidated by women who are just clearly higher-status than me/out of my league/have more friends than me (not a high bar). And why wouldn't I be? They could mop the floor with me. They will have already rejected tons of guys more attractive than me.
Intimidation will not stop a guy from seeking a romantic relationship, but still a sexual one. Overall intimidation is largely about the fear that the woman in question is above our league and that our attempts to woo her would not only be hopeless, but presumptuous and offensive.
The #metoo bullshit. The fact that a woman can have you removed from your own home and locked up for years based on nothing more than an unfounded accusation,. Those are good enough reasons to avoid women all together. Or at least to never let them know your name or address when you pump and dump them. Robot sex dolls are looking better and better with each passing day. Women have made themselves toxic to be around.
Being taller than me with heels is one.
Second one is tooooo many guy friends. Some is fine. A lot is mind boggling.
I also do not like girls with too high numbers.
I like open girls about their sexuality, but not one who’s fucked 10 guys.
The ONLY thing that intimidates me about women is that they have a hive mind and society "protects" them at all cost, therefore most women will use this to destroy a mans life when she doesn't get her way, wants to play the victim, wants revenge, etc.
i don't really find anything intimidating about a woman in particular. but i find it intimidating to approach a since girl who is among a group of people
The only thing about women I find intimidating is the fact that they can call rape and have anybody believe them even though it might not have happened.
Only 9s or 10s intimidate me, and that's because I know there's no point in talking to them because I'd want to date them and they aren't going to be interested.
^^This.
@TheUsername27
Right?
Other than the obvious of confidence and appearance. I would say sexual prowess. Some men like a woman who knows what they want and in some respect I do too.
Yeah a tall lady would have been scared me to death somehow. I'd prefer short girls (since I am tall anyway haha JK tho). But if a girl tries to flirt and approach me in a hasty way then I'd try my best to get away from her asap.
Honestly, nothing. I don't get intimidated by a girl in such a way that I would say I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship with her.
That's so far away from my thought process I seriously can't wrap my head around it.
Nothing intimidates me about women.
There is a huge difference between being intimidated and having insecurities. I wish some girls on here knew that.
And men ^^
I don't wanna wish, lol. I just know.
They always act like boobs are no big deal, but I know they are. I don't trust people who do that with such obvious things.
I will never be intimidate by women or men. Taller, more powerful whatever that just empowering to me. No sexual thought what so ever either.
Um extremely feminine women perhaps. I prefer women much rawer, in the sense i dont want them lady-life and always concerned with how they look, how they have to walk, talk, etc.
Self defense and karate skills are a hard deal breaker for me. When I was in college I was kneed in the balls by a girl who had taken a self defense class. She put me in the ER. That's why I'd flat out dump any girl who was into martial arts.
My exes would be scared for no reason when all o wanted her hugs, and love, and teddy bears 😭😭😭💔 why would I attack someone that I love?
All I wanted was***
@CubsterShura I don't think you understand the meaning of my last post? She was fighting me!
I get it. I know girls that have the ability actually do it. But why would your girlfriend, who obviously loves you, would attack you?
@CubsterShura It was my girlfriend's older sister. She didn't love me and she didn't want to have sex with me. That's why she kneed me...
Then you should leave her anyway. Good that you did. But you can't say that all women who know martial arts do it.
Hence the username?
@CubsterShura Not all women who are into martial are violent, but many who spend their time and money on martial arts taring usually have anger issues towards guys. That's one reason why this is a red flag for me...
That and if she has decorated her walls with ballsacks.
@1derfulguy Yup! I've known a few women who would like to start a collection...
When she starts sizing up your junk, that is when you run.
False assumption. In my place violence towards women is very common and women are not safe outside at all. This is why I learn martial art cause God forbid what if I'm ever attacked and all I have is me only?
@CubsterShura That's cool (that you learned martial arts.) Which one?
@1derfulguy Taiji
@CubsterShura Niiice. Always kinda wanted to learn that. You Chinese?
@CubsterShura Taiji, like yoga, is more for meditation, balance and muscle tone. Those moves, done alone, won't train you to fight off a violent attacker. For self defense training to work, you'll need to get into a program that includes either live sparing or at least hitting the pads using full force. The girl who kneed me had that type of training. That's why I went down.
@1derfulguy no.
@castratedwhiteguy we learn wushu as well.
@CubsterShura wushu is more in line with what you'll need.
Yep. Actually it's my own fault that I couldn't learn it much. When I started out I was taught taiji. Later on when they started to teach wushu I was already more grown up and even now I have too much pressure of studies. So afterwards I could not continue the class anymore. I still go, but very less. I could save myself from a random annoying guy, but I'm not sure if I could beat more than one guys all bigger than me. I need to get back to class soon lol believe me our city is crazily unsafe for girls.
@CubsterShura The problem with Kung Fu styles like wushu is that they take years to master because they teach you so many things, like forms, that don't work for real world self defense. You could shorten the learning curve by years by just switching over to kickboxing or to a women's self defense class. That's all you really need to know in order to survive in the city that you live in. A girl with the right training can pack a enough power to take down an untrained guy, and I've got the medical records to prove it. That's why I'd never date a girl with martial arts training. Because, when we argue, I need to know that I'll be the strong rational peacemaker - not the one being carried away in an ambulance because my girlfriend happened to be karate crazy man hater. I once read a news story about a marine who got into an argument with his wife. She never told him that she was a black belt. The bitch put him in the hospital. Better him than me. That's why I stay away from karate women.
I know but tbh with the level of studies and stress I wouldn't be able to give time to any kind of martial art class anyway so really no use if switching to others. I wish to go to China for higher studies, maybe there I would be able to learn wushu. I am not willing to learn anything else now, especially because I made such great progress with taiji in the first two years.
And believe me, even if I was a karate black belt I would NEVER do that. I just don't find the point of using it against those I love.
@CubsterShura I'm glad to hear that. But relationships change over time. The fact of the matter is that if you ever do get attacked it will probably be by a loved one. That's why you need to be aware of the violent capabilities of your spouse or dating partner. No violence is acceptable in my relationships. And many karate women are geared for violence.
No. That's misusing your skills.
@CubsterShura I agree! Fortunately, most American women who are into karate end up marrying guys who are better at karate than they are. I've done some reading on this subject and I've learned that most American women, who spend years in the martial arts, first got into it because they were raped when they were younger. That's why I think that most western karate women have serious anger issues and are damaged goods. Although Oriental women, like yourself, seem to be much more rational and less angry.
Maybe. But I do have one more theory about it.
@CubsterShura What is your theory?
I would tell you in private. Later when I will have time to explain!
@CubsterShura That's cool. Looking forward to your PM.
nothing. i don't know why women apparently use that word to explain why they've been rejected but i can honestly tell you, that i never felt "timid" around a woman...
Nothing! Certainly not confidence. Only weak boys tremble before women.
Unless we are speaking of a bossy bitch or a crazy psycho bitch, who flails around, is violent or aggressive.
Taller not as bad as so short have to place her on a box for a kiss
Falling in love only to have heart broken seems to me the #1 fear, which takes sure thing sex with it
Usually they're far more articulate than me. They can talk with such ease, and I often can't.
Guys are simply not intimidated by women. Period. Unless you're a blackbelt and threatening to kick his ass. :)
I disagree.
@1derfulguy Then you need better game. There is simply nothing about any woman that would 'intimidate' me.
There may be other descriptive words, but intimidate? Pshaw.
I commented because you made a blanket statement. As far back as I can remember, whenever I have been attracted to a woman, I have felt like a broke person outside a really expensive store. I can window-shop, but that is all.
I don't know if it is "game" I lack. I mean, I know I lack that, but it feels more like I lack something to offer. I can try to get by on "charm" and tricks and leaving various embarrassing facts about my life out of the conversation, but I always know she'll find out eventually. After all, the whole point of relationships is to get to know each other better.
The feeling doesn't change, regardless of how much of an effort I have made with my life. When my life is a mess, I feel unworthy, when it is in order, I still feel unworthy.
@1derfulguy Dude, you need help. Go here and read at least the first two years' blogs by Rollo:
www.therationalmale.com
Next, hit the gym. Hard. And get a job where you can make a LOT of money. Both of these things are irrisistable to women. With this effort comes confidence. You HAVE to have irrational confidence. Fake it 'till you make it.
Guys need three things to be a hit with the ladies:
Looks
Money
Confidence
You can get by with any 2, but all three is a winning combination. You're still young enough to work on 1 and 2, and by doing so you'll gain 3. And you'll have women throwing themselves at you.
And never reveal your weaknesses to a woman. EVER. NEVER appear weak, or indecisive, or anything but PURE ALPHA MALE. This is the burden of performance. Women will say they want a sensitive vulnerable man, but when he reveals that she loses respect. It's a giant turn off.
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE!
Thanks for your advice. TBH, I have read/listened to quite a lot of material at The Mating Grounds, which is a site set up to promote a book co-written by Tucker Max (of I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell fame) and Geoffrey Miller. Tucker Max has hooked up with tons of women, and Geoffrey Miller is an evolutionary psychologist who specializes in human mating (so to speak). Anyway, it's a great website, and I feel like I understand women a lot better since discovering it, and also understand the reasons why things are as they are, and the nuances of it. E. g. I know women are attracted to STRENGTH. Physical strength. Testosterone. Not bodybuilder physiques. More swimmer/crossfitter physiques. And they're attracted to wealth, but it doesn't have to be insane wealth. And obviously genuine confidence, because if you're confident, it means you have reason to be confident, and the reason is that you are competent. Basically, women are attracted to effective men.
@1derfulguy - YES. You have to be AWESOME. Girls like AWESOME guys. Just ask them!
Girls will come and go, they're a dime a dozen. But a true alpha male? A LION? Now HE is the prize. The girls know this - 80% of them are chasing 15% of the guys. You either have to compete or sit on the sidelines. There's a girl for every guy that tries his best. So just go out and DO IT. MAKE IT HAPPEN.
I just don't know if I can shake the feeling of being bad news. It just feels too deeply-embedded. It's not so much getting into a relationship with a woman I am attracted to. I think I could pull that off. It's not having her dump me when she finds out who I am. It's the "don't be vulnerable" part. I am super vulnerable as a person. Not like I will cry all the time, or some shit like that. It's just - I guess I don't see the point in a relationship if I have to pretend to be someone I'm not. I doubt I will ever be that masculine, confident, calm guy that feels good about himself and like he has something to offer.
Dude sorry to spam your wall. I guess I just figure you're more experienced than me, and then writing stuff down helps me think. Sorry dude. And thanks for your help!
@1derfulguy - a successful man makes himself so. It doesn't happen in a vacuum.
Confidence comes from being successful, from accomplishing things that make you feel accomplished - whatever that is.
Too many young people today lack passion, of any sort. They've been fed a disney-like line of bullshit about what life is, that everything will turn out good if you wait, and it's just not so. You have to EARN it. You get out what you put in.
So get busy pursuing your dreams and desires, your ambitions and goals. The things you want - GO FOR THEM. And NEVER give up. EVER.
A man creates his own reality - you've been busy creating yours! But you can change it if you desire it enough.
It's just that no matter how much work I put in, I still feel inadequate. Kinda like, you know those perfectionist girls who get top grades but are never satisfied. I'm not saying I get top grades, just that no matter how hard I work on myself, I think I'll still feel unworthy. I don't know. I've let it slide for a long time. Anyway, thanks for the advice. Really kind of you to bother to reply.
@1derfulguy - you don't want that kind of girl anyway, so just ignore them. The high-maintenance special snowflake bitches are not worthy - let them ruin someone else's life.
Just work on be awesome, and the right girl will happen along, and you'll actually be able to strike up a convo and keep it going. You'll see, I promise.
Sure, sure, I was just comparing my neuroticism to theirs. I'm not into super brainy girls TBH. It's okay, just not that interesting to me. Or, like, you know, those girls who want to let you know how smart they are. Yawn. Anyway, thanks for your kindness and encouragement. Take care man
A woman with a sarcastic personality is a complete turn off.
I'm not intimidated by women taller than me.
Out of our league?
Too many guys friends?
Better economically?(richer)
Taller is ok. But prefer shorter though
I live in a country where I don't speak the language yet, so language barrier for me. Other than that, nothing. I don't care about height, most women I date are between 5'5-5'9 and I'm 5'7.
If a woman owns a basement with many locks. You just know she's doing some shady shit there.
How much the government backs them up, how much disdain they have towards guys like me who don't look like Brad Pitt or Chris Evans.
I don't know that it intimidates me, but I really get sick of women who give me constant distrust and an attitude.
When she has really long nail. It scares the hell out of me.
Hahaha
You are fucking perfect that's why. You look, smell, taste, and act perfect so I don't know how to act.
The perfect ones, anyway.
If we are confident enough for a sexual fling, we're confident enough to have a relationship with her. It's just that we don't want a relationship with her
What intimidates me is that I don't feel I'm good enough. That is such a big insecurity that I have.
If she is objectively superior to me on a whole status agenda. Like makes much more money, is much more attractive etc.
But it's not intimidating, it's just that I know we won't work together, because at some point she will realize I'm less then her. So even if for whatever reason she will accept my initial interest, she will, rightfully, dump me in the long run.
Can so relate to this.
Height is irrelevant. I'll get nervous about rejection and I generally prefer dominant women who are willing to make the first move.
Intimidate me? Nothing, really. A lot of things about women put me off, but I practically never find myself intimidated by one.
A clingy personality. And I would date a tall girl if I liked her and she was open to that. Probably would get stares..
When she is a lot more intelligent and attractive than me.
I’m not exactly sure what it means to be intimidated by women. I just know I’m shy.
How cruel they are to other women. They might turn on me.
Confidence doesn't intimidate me lol. Why do women feel like they intimidate guys, a guy can just not like what you're doing. Doesn't make him intimidated.
Getting sick of this question. So many girls have asked it.
Cuz they wanna intimidate us lol. They wanna weed out the weaker men and look for the alpha.
@GracefulCharm Well, they can try! Being basic and unable to think of original questions isn't very intimidating LOL
I'm just saying this in general. Girls want to be respected. They realize when a man is intimidated by a girl. He will treat her with respect even if he finds her attractive.
RBF. I'm fine if a gal is a few inches taller than me (I'm 5'4").
Im not intimidated by any woman
nothings intimidating about a taller woman
Why would I care if she's taller? She probably cares, but I don't.
Guys who are intimidated by women don't pursue sexual flings.
(in a relationship) a girl that isn't submissive and a terriable personality
(not in a relationship) a terriable personality
It's not intimidation most of the time. Most guys don't really get intimidated by girls.
When she has a really big booty... I don’t know if I can control it...
I’ll try my best tho. I’ll put my face in it
nothing
i would approach any woman I'm attracted to unless she's a feminist because i will not deal with that bullshit again
who hurt u lmao
@SuperNovaRoyalty nobody but if i hear the words patriarchy or mansplaining or man spreading one more time I'm gonna flip
i thought man spreading was where guys sit with their legs far apart... there isn't anything wrong with it tho
Women who are aggressive can come across as intimidating.
Acting ability. I think women can decieve. maybe it's just my experience.
Whaaaaatatttttt? Hahaa yeah i understand that but it wasn't in the question. I just wonder if im being used lied to. Or set up if a woman is too nice to me
I like a tall and confident woman. But I do not like it when they look like they can lift a car.
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