Why doesn't he want to talk on the phone or video chat?

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All we do is text and I asked if he wanted to talk on the phone and he says he's not good at talk to people on the phone. Why? Could he be nervous?

Kitty22012 · Accepted Answer

I HATE talking on the phone/video chatting if texting Is an option. I hate my voice/face. I have extreme anxiety and am very self conscious. I feel like he might hate my voice/face, think I sound/look ugly and solely on that decision dump me. But if they ask if I will do those things I usually tell them immediately about my discomfort, and they usually understand. That's for me anyway, but it could be different for him. Ask him. I'd suggest saying, "Why don't you want to talk on the phone? Is there an issue? Just curious." Perhaps that'll help.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

He could be insecure, but if he wants things to progress between you both he'll need to video chat and/or talk on the phone. Texting isn't a good way to communicate with someone long-term. It's important to see their face and hear their voice

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Some people don't like speaking on the phone or video chatting because they run out of words to say or topics to talk about and they don't want to get awkward... With texting, they feel more at ease.

ImagineSketchy · Accepted Answer

Well speaking from my own personality, I don't enjoy talking to people on the phone unless I know them and know the things they like to talk about. I've met too many close minded individuals that also aren't opinionated. They dont think outside of the box and they bore me. I would rather not be on the phone because I don't want to sound like I'm bored of them (which I most likely am), and video chat... I don't know. I guess I would be better with that than just on the phone with dead silences. I like silence, but the dead ones bother me.

RadCanadianMan · Accepted Answer

I don't talk to people over the phone. My time is valuable and I'm usually busy with something else so I'd prefer being able to glance at a text and reply when I'm free.

If someone talks on the phone with me it's usually just to find each other in person lol. Most of your life doesn't require real time updates. Just tell em when you meet in person that way you have more to talk about!

the_esculater · Answer

He is probably anthropophobic. You can Google this, Wikipedia explains it in depth. It's less likely he is a catfish, cos those are willing to throw you a bone or give you a seemingly convincing excuse. If he didn't give one, it probably is a psychological thing. He may warm up with time.

Manu520 · Answer

There are so many people who like to share thoughts non verbally than verbally. This might be because they can't talk to you face to face and they are worried about how you react for the things that he says. While he is texting he will have all the time to stop saying anything before he send it, if he feels that it might hurt you or it might be awkward he will stop sending, wherein while speaking he don't have that option. Once the word is out of his mouth he don't have the option to correct it.

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't have to be nervous, some of us just prefer face to face. I don't like talking on the phone much either. I like to see a persons face, and bodylanguage.

I find it interesting that any time a girl does not get their own way, the guy is either nervous, insecure, shy, or some other negative aspect.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

The thing about communication is that everyone does it differently. Some people will feel comfortable communicating in this way or another, but others may not. It could be he doesn't communicate so well on the phone or video chat, so he may feel more comfortable through text or talking in person.

Dalesmith · Answer

Sure, it could be that or maybe he's just shy, some guys are like that when it comes to chatting they can chat for an hour or more but if you call to talk they'll be nervous and won't be able to think what to talk about and the phone will end in 5min 😂 I tried the same with girls but all of them said "no, I'm shy" or "no I'm not decent right now" or "I don't want you to see my room, it's not messy it's a maze"

Bas96 · Answer

Maybe he isn't really much talkative or something. Maybe he doesn't like talking because it could be awkward. Or, he's just being cautious since the secret service is listening in haha

lastchancemotel · Answer

He doesn't do well with empty silences, either that or he doesn't want you to hear what's going on around him... I'm leaning heavily on the first one at like 85 %

Ken-Kaneki · Answer

he's shy af most likely i have that problem, i dont want to do something stupid or something on cam😂😂

Browneye57 · Answer

Some some time together for reals - one on one - IN PERSON. Then decide if he's worthy of further investment in your time and emotion.

Guys just aren't all chatty like the girls - this is what girls are best at.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He could be someone else like a catfish and don't want reveal who he really is. Worst comes to it he could have low self esteem about video chatting.

Joelski440 · Answer

it could be nerves, with texting he has a little more time to think of a response. video chat, on the phone & even face to face there can be that dreaded awkward lull in the conversation.

NightlyCreature · Answer

He could not be the person he is saying he is, if he refuses to let you see him, I should take that as a warning sign.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

You found the exception and not the majority. I prefer talking...

M-ikaela · Answer

Some people just hate talking on phone. I dont dont talk with my boyfriend on phone either, we talk through discord

nemsis19 · Answer

even he is fake or shy or he thinks you are better then him

Casuhde · Answer

Think about it, what would be a reason you wouldn't wanna call someone? Nervous, aren't interested that much, just always busy... never know but you should ask him about it rather than letting it get to you.

theventrsomeone · Answer

It could be that he's married and can't be seen on the phone. How do you know him

monkeynutts · Answer

Phones can be awkward, you can't see the others face. Don't stress about it, unless it will affect your relationship.

Clyde_123 · Answer

Maybe he's a catfish. there's so many reasons maybe he is shy, prefer texting.

Anonymous · Answer

im the same. i hate phone calls. i need time to think when i communicate. email and text very much enjoy my preference.

Anonymous · Answer

I am not sure about the phone thing other than maybe he is afraid he will screw up, but video chat is absolutely mortifying I mean a picture you can hide things but when its live its a lot more difficult

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

If he does that then his girlfriend will wonder who he's talking to

Joe_1 · Answer

Maybe because he's not good at talking on the phone with people. Annndd he could be self-conscious of his voice or face (with video call)

Ivo38 · Answer

He is probably nervous and doesn't want to fuck something up if he says something that he considers "wrong".

Cannuk22 · Answer

Yeah could be or also could maybe not be who he says he is.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Catfish?

imstillhere64 · Answer

Some people don't like talking on phones

pinayfit · Answer

Have you met him in person?

HereIbe · Answer

He's been lying to you about who he is.

MrMaxwell0720 · Answer

I believe he is just nervous.

thesaneone · Answer

maybe he is nt somebody he's telling u he is

bardi · Answer

no he is fake.. lets talk on the phone

razor97 · Answer

he's ugly looking probably

David_Bayer · Answer

He want to see you and hear you.

ashiakaleo · Answer

Catfish maybe lol

Dominace100 · Answer

Maybe.

CrazyFranz · Answer

He is shy probably

Sheri123 · Answer

I chat with u

Why doesn't he want to talk on the phone or video chat?

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