Ok, this is actually really not all that complicated. It's especially not complicated because you're both women.
Your concerns are perfectly valid and reasonable. You are right to take the basic precautions you're taking (wanting to ensure the voice matches the profile, meeting in a public place first etc.).
Guys these days have been forced to understand that women need to be careful because there are a lot of creeps out there. That's why, generally, guys don't mind at all when a girl does things (like wanting to talk on the phone) to make sure that everything's cool. Guys all are able to appreciate, that you have no way of knowing that they aren't a creep who means you harm.
There is absolutely no excuse for another woman to not be able to appreciate why this is so important to you. That is hard to believe to be honest. I've known a lot of women (bet you have too). Can you imagine any of them, refusing to talk on the phone under similar circumstances? No. Because every single one of them would know and understand why it is you NEED to talk to them on the phone before meeting.
This is sketchy as fuck.
The way I see it is: Push the issue. Push it hard. Make it absolutely a condition of agreeing to meet. Period.
There's no good reason for a woman to do this. Ever. But if somehow there is, surely she won't stand on her principle (or fear of talking on the phone or whateverthefuck) if it comes down to you walking away if she continues to refuse.
You need to be willing to walk away. You are beyond dumb if you meet this "girl" without talking to her on the phone. Especially now that they've been all sketchy about it. You really have to demand it. (and it's totally not even weird for you to do so)
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I totally get where you’re coming from. I’d personally pull back after that and move on. Or maybe make it extra clear that talking on the phone or video chatting is an important thing to me, and give one last chance to do that before moving on.
As to the why, it could be a variety of reasons. Too shy, doesn’t like talking on the phone, catfishing, etc. But if it’s important enough to you, the other person should accommodate.
I’m sorry but in 2023 there’s no reason she can’t call you, there’s just too many options available even for free. This leads me to feel like she’s catfishing or being dishonest in some way. I know she sent you pics but those aren’t hard to get, especially from an average person who’s face you wouldn’t recognize. I’m not sure what the point of doing this would be, but some people are just lowlifes who have nothing interesting happening so they create another more exciting life. I had a friend who was catfished by a girl for almost 5 years, it was so pointless and stupid.
Hmm... it seems like she's hiding behind her texts. How did you meet her? Are you sure she's not a guy pretending to be a woman?
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something fishy going on I hope you have not sent money
wow you really are dumb. it's so obvious even a blind man can see it.. it's really a guy catfishing you
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