Why won't he talk to me in person instead of Text Messages?

[gloria]

so there's this guy i like right now were sorta friends i guess because he just got out of a relationship and he's so quiet so its hard to talk him about anything and i don't wanna get too personal but at school we barley talk in person but whne it comes to other people he's all loud and outspoken and then when it comes to me he's all kinda quiet? i don'y get it

[youareyouronlyenemy]

Okay, so the way I see it, there are pretty much three basic possibilities:

1. He REALLY likes you, and he's super shy about it. Maybe he just doesn't know what to say because he gets all tongue-tied.? The best way to gauge this would be to look at his past relationship. Was he quiet with her at the start of the relationship? If you think that this is the case, maybe you need to just help him feel comfortable around you. Choose non-pressure situations, like group activities, to sort of ease into the relationship. When he starts easing up around you in person a little more, maybe you can step up the relationship a little.?

2. He genuinely likes you as a friend, but he's sort of gun-shy about jumping into a whole new relationship right now. Have you asked him about this or told him how you feel? If this is the case, just give him time and he will come around when he's ready.

3. He's really just not that into you. Yeah, this option would suck, but it is a possibility. Maybe he's embarassed to be seen with you in person.? I really hope that this isn't the case (and I'm sure it's not), but there's always a slim chance. Because some guys go through this really immature stage when they're in high school (and some never really outgrow it) where everything in their life revolves around how it either helps or hurts their reputation. If all he's worried about is his reputation, go find someone who's worth your time.

Hope this helps and makes sense lol. I'd really have to know more about your relationship history though to give a more accurate diagnosis of the situation.

[smexyjuinior]

oh I know he's nervous around you I get that way a lot too