Honestly, he may just be overly cautious. He may be unsure if you will work out, he may be keeping it in the event you two break up. Because feelings can change, he may think you’ll break up with him. Some guys are rather insecure.
You could talk to him about it. Though I’d advise approaching it cautiously. It’s common knowledge that most guys were raised to be more stoic so he probably wouldn’t tell you if he did have any doubts or insecurities. More so because a lot of guys have learned that ex-girlfriends will use anything they learn about you against you later. Or even current girlfriends during a fight. So if it’s regarding that, you may want to try engaging him by expressing yourself as well. Open up regarding your insecurities and thoughts. If he does feel the same way about you, and he trusts you, then he’ll be able to talk about it. If he sees you trust him that much, he may well reciprocate.
However, it’s possible he’s had bad experiences before from trusting someone, so trust issues are hard to work through, you’d have to be persistent.
Despite the societal perception, according to studies guys feel things just as deeply of not more deeply then girls when they are younger. But, due to social standards, they are conditioned to turn it off. It is a common concept in psychology, you brain can “rewire” itself due to actions you take. For example even if a guy is sensitive, if he forces himself to be stoic long enough, the brain will rewrite itself making stoicism into his actual personality.
In reality, most guys don’t cheat, a lot of them are simply cautious about commitment and relationships in general. Especially regarding deep intimate attachment. Due to being burned in the past it’s a learned response.
Not really a straight forward easy answer I know.
If he was cheating there would be distinct signs. It would be more then just tinder, he would likely keep his phone and laptop password protected and keep it from you. He’d make sure you didn’t have access to his things. He would also be easy to catch in a lie. Tell you he is one place, but you find out later that wasn’t the case. Usually by self admission. People aren’t actually as good at lying as they think.
Unless he is a psychopath, or a sociopath, and then you have other worse issues. 😱
I’m actually a psychology major with a minor in sociology so I’ve spent too much time reading studies. 😂
Hope it was at least a little insightful.
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Sometimes it's really difficult to delete some sites. Or if u av'nt been together long he may be thinking you could dump him so maybe he is keeping it just in case. It's more likely that he is waiting for someone to contact him who will be able to make all his wishes come true. I don't know but if you are in a exclusive relationship then he should get rid of anything that would put doubt in your mind , shit if he loves you and your in a new relationship he should be laying in puddles so you don't get your feet wet. If you have doubts? . When all is said and done a woman instincts are razor sharp , listen to your instinct x good luck x
He took away his ability to use it. I doubt he's going to go to the effort to download it every lunch break and then delete it again. Besides until there's a ring on your finger you may not be his last girlfriend and even then, you could still get divorced lol. Relax he deleted the app that is good enough.
Most people don't delete them sites, they just uninstall it. Don't be worried unless your best friend or someone close to you tells you that he is active and talks to them. If you really worry that much make a fake account & see if he stills uses it. I did that with POF on my baby daddy 🖕
I've been in a relationship for over two years and I only deleted the app and hid my profile, but I didn't delete it. Doesn't mean I am using it now or that I am thinking of using it in the future. Uninstalling the app is enough. You shouldn't be worried about it.
Some people think that deleting the app means they deleted their account too. Very common error. Same thing may have happened to him where he didn't realize he didn't deactivate his account when he uninstalled it.
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In the day and age we live in, deleting a profile or account is not easy, sites want to retain as much info on us as they can.
I don't think you need to be worried. If he has deleted the app he's not accessing the profile. But if you are worried, then try to figure out what is worring you. Are you worried he will cheat? Or are you worried he's keeping the account because he isn't going to stick around?
And playing devil's advocate for him now. I would say unless you guys are getting serious there isn't a reason to delete a profile. Again if I delete the app I'm not using it I'm not cheating. But if we break up I can jump back on and update my info. If you have any more questions I'd be glad to answer them.Who knows why, but if you keep pestering him about it I'm sure it's going to be a constant topic of argument. I wouldn't worry so much, because even if he deleted it in front of u, what's to stop him from making another behind ur back. All you can do is trust in what he says, and that he will be a faithful person. Some things are just out of your control, and you can't let it affect you as a person and how you normally are with him. Now if you find he's still using it behind your back, than it's a problem.
Lol dude. This guy I met on pof deleted his profile for me and we didn’t even meet. Dude he better delete tinder. If you guys break up he can always make a new one. Him having a tinder profile is disrespectful to you!!! And who knows, someone can message him, he’ll see it and it’ll catch his eye and he’ll be tempted and worse comes to worse CHEAT. MAKE HIM DELETE IT!!! YOU RUN HIM, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND! Know your worth! Lol
I wouldn't be worried about it. I would've done the same thing. Deleting takes more effort, and it's not like he's checking it anymore. I think you're just over analyzing this. It's not like he's gonna install it in secret and get back on. Don't worry about it
I've never deleted mine, not sure I'd even be able to figure out how, I also just delete the app. That should be good enough for you, don't stress over it.
Maybe he doesn't know you can delete it? I didn't know and then i got with mt current boyfriend and he told me that you cna uninstall AND delete it. So i installed, deleted and unistalled again haha
Any chance he just deleted the app thinking it would disable or delete his profile?
I honestly wouldn't think much of it.Getting yelled at being pissed he just wanted it off his phone so he could stop the bitching. That didn't happen so for him to delete it he has to reinstall to get bitched at for having it again. Because bitching at him works so well he can just as easily make a fake account. Your not going to stop him from doing whatever either leave him or except your not going change him
Stop being selfish. Se5ting up these profiles is a pain. Statistically, relationships end. He'll delete it when you get engaged. Until then, there's no problem with having a precaution.
Being happy in relationship doesn't automatically mean that he decided that you are his last girlfriend ever... how long are you together?
Yea that means he is still messing around on there and cheating , so u better think again if u want to call him your boyfriend and start calling him your ex
Because he's allowed to have measures of independence, as is everyone, and that's just how he's showing his. It's a personal thing. I wouldn't think too hard about it.
So what if he is just deleted the app, boys generally dont think deeper of doing everything so perfect ! Deleting the app means he dont use it now.! Still if u think he shld first delete his profile then ask him to, he will delete that too !
He may assume uninstalling it actually deletes it. Or he may not know how to delete it
Maybe he just doesn't know how to delete it and was like screw it just uninstall it and forget about it XD.
He's keeping it as a backup you need to tell him if he's happy with you to prove it by deleting his profile. If he's not full of shit he should delete it easily
Ask this question directly to him that why he need tinder if he is happy with u... Ask him to delete it and u have concerns over his this attitude...
Yes u should be worried because there is a good chance he might be cheating on you.. if he truly loves you he would have deleted and uninstalled it an no time
Are you saying he still has an active account just not the app on his phone?
Maybe he's not aware he needed to cancel the account or he still thinks he can use it. So if thats the case he doesn't love u yet
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