My gosh, this is literally sexual harassment. And believe me they do it to all kinds of girls not just pretty girls. These men see all women as objects.
I understand why it can be difficult to stand up for yourself... like seriously what the hell are we supposed to do? I suggest you take some self-defense classes and next time they do that just give em a slap or a punch in the face. Or a kick in the nuts if they crossed far beyond their boundaries.
I might have teased girls a bit in the past, but your experiences sound more like bullying. I'd advise you to build up your self-confidence somehow, like through a course or something like that.
Another way would be to try to have friends or buddies telling those guys they should not behave like that.
Just read your details and have to say, there's nothing you can do about it but just stand up for yourself. You will be called crazy, not as pretty as you think you are, and get ready to have some women defend men and turn on you. Or just get fat ugly, have low self esteem and people will leave you alone. The world is sick and miserable.
Time to hang with a tougher crowd, don't be alone as you can. Times this happened to me in the past my friends stood up for me. But, I have been usually quite with guys and more out-going with girls. You need to change your image some how because they aren't going to change their attitude. Do something like a self-defense karate class and stand up for yourself. You'll need this strong attitude through out life, even into the workplace.
I'm usually alone because all my friends have significant others and I'm still struggling to get over a past failed relationship. If my friends were there I can honestly say they would probably fight them. Im friends with a group of eight guys and I've told them whats been happening right along and now whenever I bring up even the slightest things they get all defensive. It's just me having low self-confidence. I mean it's even really hard for me to muster up the courage to talk to random strangers let alone tell them off.
Yeah, I'm sorry. You need to work on your confidence truly. No one can and should take your worth to be trivial. Maybe change your look and attitude to be more unapproachable. This worked with me, it even confused my own family, like why was I being rude? But, I wasn't really, just standing up for myself but deep down they knew I was within my rights to be different, also I did it within limits. There are various self-help books, audios on building confidence. I think try befriending one of your guy friends to go places with you making it obvious that you are just friends. You will find different people in Martial Arts classes that can help. I actually signed up the instructor was a guy with a warm personality, also lots of other girls in the class. However, I didn't follow up as it was just for fun and I got busy with work related matters. But if you have the time, that or go to the gym, get toned, just feel good about yourself!
Also, Heather did these things happen before or after the break-up, I might be paranoid at times lol but in some weird instances dismissed exes tend to react cruelly, if it happens more often by the same guys speak up loudly, "watch where you are going" if you think it's a act for revenge etc get help... I might be paranoid but somehow I care about you.
I think you might be an easy target so people walk over you. This stuff sound terrible you need to learn to stand up for yourself when someone wrongs you.
I don't think anyone should have to go through these kind of things.
They're so bad they almost sound made up.
Don't take crap from people when they bully you. Focus on that fir inside and the them to back the hell off or turn the other cheek and walk away.
Jerks. Look, quite a few guys, especially when they're young, are legally retarded. That is why they will drive 200 mph and kill themselves against a tree. Etc.
With regards to standing up for yourself, it is understandably scary. The best thing you can do is to just act proportionally. Guy that grabbed your ass? You could report his ass to the police. Unwanted ass-grabbing is illegal.
You need to stand up for yourself and not be walked all over. This behaviour will continue to happen if you don't do something about it. Bunch of jerks from all that I read.
First of all my humble apologies for u suffered at those ass hole's hands (unfortunately they are also men who tarnish the image of men in general) Now Take a stand if it happens Have confidence in ur self and that should reflect in ay u talk, walk, conduct urselves I have seen people target those they deem weak or those they think would not retaliate back
All I can say is I'm sorry. Sorry on behalf of these idiots who call themselves men. Sorry for the constant and blatant misogyny that you've had to face day in and day out. What I can tell you is that, you should not let this slide anymore. There are many wonderful and strong women here at G@G. Talk to them about how to deal with these idiots. And again, apologies for our behaviour.
Wow lol that’s crazy especially at your age the fact these guys you are describing are acting like they are 5 . I don't know what to say but call the cops if they harass you
Ok so that's called sexual harassment. Tell the guy that and if he ignores you call the cops. I'm sure it'll wipe the smile of his face. At Starbucks toy should have said something to a manager. Businesses usually don't want to get a bad reputation from allowing that kind of behavior.
... I’m sorry to hear this. May I know where you are from?
I’m not sure how to properly stand up to such behavior so frequently in a way it won’t end up just being worse... since it’s just attention grabbing and desperately wanting to get something from you.
You said the answer, you don't know how to stand up for yourself Whenever you feel offended or harassed, put a bitch face, show them that you don't accept any of what happened and you'll do something like calling the cops or your buff boyfriend Be bold, be strong, and be brave
Curious question though, where tf do u live? Sounds like a zoo of thirsty animals there where u don't really belong And how do you dress? Showy or modest clothes?
Because it's worked for them in the past. It's the sad truth that some women are attracted to douchebags. They wouldn't act that way if it didn't work more often than not. Mind you, I'm condoning it, I'm only explaining why some assholes are assholes.
i think there just trying to get you started so they can take you out or maybe just flirting and you need to respond them accordingly if you stay put then they would assume u liked it so they would do it more
Probably because they assume that attractive girls get rainbows blown up their asses on the regular that it wouldn't hurt them to have their egos knocked down a peg.
You need to learn to stand up for yourself. It sounds like those guys have hidden their insecurity behind narcissism as some guys do so they probably think what they're doing is fine. But it isn't, stand up for yourself and tell them off.
You have to enforce your personal bubble with stares, elbow, foot and a strong and firm voice. If they come to close tell them that. Stand your ground, get aggressive and bitchy. We ain't toys to play with. Dude playing with your hair? Turn quickly around and tell them to fuck off (you can use other words if it's too much to you). Don't play nice
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My gosh, this is literally sexual harassment. And believe me they do it to all kinds of girls not just pretty girls. These men see all women as objects.
I understand why it can be difficult to stand up for yourself... like seriously what the hell are we supposed to do? I suggest you take some self-defense classes and next time they do that just give em a slap or a punch in the face. Or a kick in the nuts if they crossed far beyond their boundaries.
I am so sorry you have to deal with those nasty stupid future/current rapists.
Seriously, I would record those guys and share the video on social media, they need to be shamed and punished for harassing you.
Be safe, and maybe ask a friend to go places with you because to experience all that out right harassment... so sad.
I might have teased girls a bit in the past, but your experiences sound more like bullying. I'd advise you to build up your self-confidence somehow, like through a course or something like that.
Another way would be to try to have friends or buddies telling those guys they should not behave like that.
Because you are not setting your standards high enough, the men who use you and treat you like objects are usually below your league.
Just read your details and have to say, there's nothing you can do about it but just stand up for yourself. You will be called crazy, not as pretty as you think you are, and get ready to have some women defend men and turn on you. Or just get fat ugly, have low self esteem and people will leave you alone. The world is sick and miserable.
Time to hang with a tougher crowd, don't be alone as you can. Times this happened to me in the past my friends stood up for me. But, I have been usually quite with guys and more out-going with girls. You need to change your image some how because they aren't going to change their attitude. Do something like a self-defense karate class and stand up for yourself. You'll need this strong attitude through out life, even into the workplace.
I'm usually alone because all my friends have significant others and I'm still struggling to get over a past failed relationship. If my friends were there I can honestly say they would probably fight them. Im friends with a group of eight guys and I've told them whats been happening right along and now whenever I bring up even the slightest things they get all defensive. It's just me having low self-confidence. I mean it's even really hard for me to muster up the courage to talk to random strangers let alone tell them off.
Yeah, I'm sorry. You need to work on your confidence truly. No one can and should take your worth to be trivial. Maybe change your look and attitude to be more unapproachable. This worked with me, it even confused my own family, like why was I being rude? But, I wasn't really, just standing up for myself but deep down they knew I was within my rights to be different, also I did it within limits. There are various self-help books, audios on building confidence. I think try befriending one of your guy friends to go places with you making it obvious that you are just friends. You will find different people in Martial Arts classes that can help. I actually signed up the instructor was a guy with a warm personality, also lots of other girls in the class. However, I didn't follow up as it was just for fun and I got busy with work related matters. But if you have the time, that or go to the gym, get toned, just feel good about yourself!
Also, Heather did these things happen before or after the break-up, I might be paranoid at times lol but in some weird instances dismissed exes tend to react cruelly, if it happens more often by the same guys speak up loudly, "watch where you are going" if you think it's a act for revenge etc get help... I might be paranoid but somehow I care about you.
I think you might be an easy target so people walk over you. This stuff sound terrible you need to learn to stand up for yourself when someone wrongs you.
I don't think anyone should have to go through these kind of things.
They're so bad they almost sound made up.
Don't take crap from people when they bully you. Focus on that fir inside and the them to back the hell off or turn the other cheek and walk away.
This doesn't sound like a gendered thing except the first one.
Jerks. Look, quite a few guys, especially when they're young, are legally retarded. That is why they will drive 200 mph and kill themselves against a tree. Etc.
With regards to standing up for yourself, it is understandably scary. The best thing you can do is to just act proportionally. Guy that grabbed your ass? You could report his ass to the police. Unwanted ass-grabbing is illegal.
You need to stand up for yourself and not be walked all over. This behaviour will continue to happen if you don't do something about it. Bunch of jerks from all that I read.
First of all my humble apologies for u suffered at those ass hole's hands (unfortunately they are also men who tarnish the image of men in general)
Now Take a stand if it happens
Have confidence in ur self and that should reflect in ay u talk, walk, conduct urselves
I have seen people target those they deem weak or those they think would not retaliate back
All I can say is I'm sorry. Sorry on behalf of these idiots who call themselves men. Sorry for the constant and blatant misogyny that you've had to face day in and day out.
What I can tell you is that, you should not let this slide anymore. There are many wonderful and strong women here at G@G. Talk to them about how to deal with these idiots.
And again, apologies for our behaviour.
Wow lol that’s crazy especially at your age the fact these guys you are describing are acting like they are 5 . I don't know what to say but call the cops if they harass you
Wtf.. do wolves raise the children in your area? What town do you live in where strangers treat eachother like that?
That's the best assumption about their parents lol 😂
Ok so that's called sexual harassment. Tell the guy that and if he ignores you call the cops. I'm sure it'll wipe the smile of his face. At Starbucks toy should have said something to a manager. Businesses usually don't want to get a bad reputation from allowing that kind of behavior.
... I’m sorry to hear this. May I know where you are from?
I’m not sure how to properly stand up to such behavior so frequently in a way it won’t end up just being worse... since it’s just attention grabbing and desperately wanting to get something from you.
You said the answer, you don't know how to stand up for yourself
Whenever you feel offended or harassed, put a bitch face, show them that you don't accept any of what happened and you'll do something like calling the cops or your buff boyfriend
Be bold, be strong, and be brave
Curious question though, where tf do u live? Sounds like a zoo of thirsty animals there where u don't really belong
And how do you dress? Showy or modest clothes?
Because it's worked for them in the past. It's the sad truth that some women are attracted to douchebags. They wouldn't act that way if it didn't work more often than not. Mind you, I'm condoning it, I'm only explaining why some assholes are assholes.
i think there just trying to get you started so they can take you out or maybe just flirting and you need to respond them accordingly
if you stay put then they would assume u liked it so they would do it more
Probably because they assume that attractive girls get rainbows blown up their asses on the regular that it wouldn't hurt them to have their egos knocked down a peg.
You need to learn to stand up for yourself. It sounds like those guys have hidden their insecurity behind narcissism as some guys do so they probably think what they're doing is fine. But it isn't, stand up for yourself and tell them off.
You have to enforce your personal bubble with stares, elbow, foot and a strong and firm voice. If they come to close tell them that. Stand your ground, get aggressive and bitchy. We ain't toys to play with. Dude playing with your hair? Turn quickly around and tell them to fuck off (you can use other words if it's too much to you). Don't play nice