My boyfriend acts distant after sex?

[Anonymous]

Why does this happen?

i find that after we have sex and he cums, he takes his sweet time to clean himself up and just leaves me laying there in silence. Then when he’s done he jumps up and won’t wanna cuddle or do really anything that involves me, and he even joked sometimes and says “well you can leave now” and he sometimes says “get out of my house” as a joke and laughs afterwards, but I just don’t know. He eventually will want to do these things again but like an hour or so later, it’s like right after sex he doesn’t want anything to do with me and tries to avoid me, even when I’m the one over at his house! Don’t get me wrong I can tell that he loves me and we have everything good going for our relationship, but just this one aspect messes with me. Why is this? Guys, do you do this often or?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else noticed this? every single time a woman talks about something of a major redflag, she adds in this little disclaimer ''Don’t get me wrong I can tell that he loves me and we have everything good going for our relationship'' or something similar.

This is why redflags go unnoticed.. our ego is protecting us from something. Once you figure out what that is, you will know the answer. How you feel when you read this response is also a clue...

[jessture]

Google what the refractory period or prolactin is... and start respecting how mens hormones work...

[Asker]

Do you think that’s why this happens? He’s just temporarily uninterested because he isn’t sexually interested and that’s what drives a man or something? Feels like I’m being used

[jessture]

Right after sex a hormone is released that completely shuts a guy down. It's why we want to sleep, not say much, and generally just lay there for a bit

[yofuknutz]

That line may work in the olden days but not today way too much compilation to be playing that scenario. Damn yo, finger her pussy!

[Anonymous]

That is quite unusual. I have never had this problem with a partner. My boyfriend loves cuddling after sexy time. He is the one who insists on it most of the time. Perhaps your boyfriend experiences post sex "depression". That is what happens to some people. You are mentally on a high during sex and when it stops, all your hormones and dopamine drop again and that can cause negative feelings in some people.

[yofuknutz]

But he has to learn how to deal with it

[HitGirl_007]

That doesn’t sound nice :(

I actually was with a guy that love to be close and cuddle thereafter and it was so nice

Maybe just have a chat to him about it some time. Not at the time as that won’t work but some other time. He may not have a clue you feel this way x

[Aenetoo]

It's called frog syndrome. I read about it years ago. A guy has sex with u, then needs time alone. He has to process his emotions. So he jumps away.
Either that, or ejaculating causes him physical pain. That happens too. After he cums, he feels like he has to pee. But can't. Prostate. Kinda like a woman on a bad period. Stay away from me!

[avalonbob]

He's an asshole. After sex, he should cover you both, cuddle you, whisper loving things in your ear, get a towel, cuddle some more, and who knows, if both are up to it, maybe go for a slower second round. Find a more experienced lover.

[yofuknutz]

You speak for personal experience maybe we should teach him

[azzntittiz]

I would dump him, had two guys do this, dumped them.

[kingofthellamas]

Hormones. Post sex your hormones are telling you to be closer to your mate. His are telling him to find the next mate. Your fighting human nature.

[yofuknutz]

Polygamy? Could that work?

[Anonymous]

Yeah it’s weird but we often feel like that right after, it has nothing to do with you but right after we orgasm I always notice that and wondered why when I really cared for the person but right after I feel like just leaving

[Anonymous]

He’s just keeping you around for convenient sex. He doesn’t actually care about you. He’s just willing to put up with the dates and talking and stuff so he can fuck you.

[yofuknutz]

That could be the case

[Anonymous]

Guys basically go to minus -50000 sex drive right after orgasm.

[Anonymous]

most women do too. in fact if a woman has been pleasantly satisfied, she wants ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with a man. TRUST ME

[Bismarck_96]

He probably needs to see a specialist

[yofuknutz]

It could be mental

[Anonymous]

Wtf..

[RIVERTAY888]

on a gulit trip