Why is he so distant and moody with me after sex?

[Alex890]

My boyfriend of 8 years and I have had ups and downs lately. I went camping with friends for 2 nights and then on the day I came back, he went out camping with his friends for 3 nights. We did not see each other at all. While I was away I was thinking that maybe some distance would be good for us. He messaged me telling me what he was up to and that he missed me. I answered him with brief replies - I was busy with my friends. After the camping trips, he returns and is super affectionate and loving and close. It appears like he WANTS to be near me and listen to my stories from what's been happening in my life. He shared his stories. That evening we had sex. The next morning - this was out of habit - he woke up early and when he saw that I was awake in bed he came to lay beside me to chat. That rarely happens. I was happy. He went out for a bit and when he returned he was affectionate again. We had sex. Well, now the next day he seems distant and impatient with me. He was playing his computer games and was losing. He wanted to get a chore finished outside - we have dirt to take to eco station - and I was just simply asking him if we needed it for anything. Maybe build a planter box. He blew up at me and accused me of not wanting to deal with the dirt when I was just trying to think of ways to save money in the long run. Anyways, now he is pissed at me and acting like a complete child when I try to talk to him calmly about the matter.
This is not the first time that I have noticed a switch flip the next day after sex. I feel used. I feel like now that he is satisfied he does not need to keep me close. Is this a normal guy reaction?

[Yuushiro]

Ah, that makes perfect sense to me, but it's going to be hard to explain... how do I put this...

Girls tend to think about everything all the time. Guys tend to focus more on one thing at a time. To me it sounds like he was getting frustrated because he was losing at his video game, and then you started pulling his attention away from it. He was already in a bad mood and just made it worse, and directed it at yourself.
No, that's not your fault, and he should have been able to control himself.

About the planter box, sometimes saving money isn't worth the effort. For example, spending 2 hours on something that will save 20 dollars might not be worth it. ESPECIALLY if he just wants the problem to go away.

About noticing the pattern of him being grumpy after sex, it could have to do with a lowered libido, and thus him seeing you (and the rest of the world) in a less sexual manner.

I hope this helps.
I don't feel like I explained it very well though.

[Anonymous]

seduce him

[Alex890]

Why would I want to seduce a man who is talking to me in a negative way? It's like he takes it out on me that he lost his computer games. Not my fault.

[Opinion Owner]

sorry wrong question.
I was answering to some other question , must have typed on yours lol