How can I avoid being nervous around him?

[Anonymous]

I was wondering how can I avoid being nervous around the guy I like? I know for sure that he likes me too because he's told me that he likes me too. The problem is that I'm really shy so I get really nervous around him. I get so nervous that sometimes I feel like I can't even think straight when I'm around him. We don't know each other too well so most of the time I don't know what to talk to him about. I hardly speak when we're around each other but, when I do start speaking, I worry about rambling on & talking too much. I also end up talking about school since I'm in college but, he's a bit older than me & I'm worried that if I just keep talking about school that I'll end up boring him to death. But basically, the biggest issue here is the fact that I get nervous around him & if I could just stop being so nervous around him, then I could probably find something better to talk to him about or actually say the things that I want to say to him. So, how can I avoid being nervous around him? Any tips or advice?

[Guytalks]

If you know you're going to be around him in advance you could drink a little beforehand (only a little!). It will relax you and allow you to be less nervous. Also, when you are around him just remind yourself how fun it will be to just talk and learn things about him. Try to keep a positive attitude overall, things will happen naturally, don't force things and congratulate yourself for being courageous and allow things to progress!

Feel good about yourself and good luck !

[akkenny]

I never knew girls could be like guys this way. But just look down on him find a way to feel superior. Personally I like when girls do most of the talking even if its about lame stuff its a good way to get to know them. all girls blabber lots. I usually don't know what to talk about with girls and so one of my friends just said say " hows it going" and theyll respond with a ten thousand word answer on their day eventhough theyve been up for only 2 hours..

[Asker]

That's part of the problem. When he asks me something like: "how are you?" or "how are you doing?" I feel like I'll start with 2 words & then I'll just start talking about things that he probably doesn't even care about. I just don't want him to think that I'm boring or that I'm

weird.

[akkenny]

he won't don't worry

[JennyInLove]

talk to him as if he were any other guy. Forget the fact that he's the guy you're crazy about for a while. It's not as easy as said, but believe me it works. After all, he's just a human and he probably is as nervous as you are just that guys are sometimes better at controlling their emotions. Just...take a deep breath and start talking about anything. If he likes you he will probably want you to keep talking for ever because he just wants to know you completely. Just relax.

[Anonymous]

have the EXACT same problem ! I was so nervous one day that I was walking towards him ,acting cool and calm and fell on my face ! THE SHAME ! (:

[Asker]

Omg girl. I know what you mean. I always walk towards him trying to seem calm & cool but at times I can't even look him in the eye because I feel like he'll see right through me & my act. lol :)

[Anonymous]

remember he's a person too. or think of him in his underwear.

[akkenny]

thats kinda weird...

[JennyInLove]

I would be more nervous that way lol