How can I stop being so nervous around a guy I like?

[Anonymous]

I’m so embarrassed when I talk to him as I get so flustered.
I start stuttering and feel like I talk in riddles because I get so nervous.
I really like him and I’ve never been like this with a guy before.
Any tips on how I can stop feeling this way?

[Just_a_sponge]

Being Nervous is a good thing actually! You probably REALLY like this guy, and the nervousness is because you've never felt this way and you're coming to realise how great this could be. If you're nervous around him just try and be honest, and ask if he'd like to get a coffee or drinks sometime. The best way to help yourself here is to be fairly clear about it because of the implications of this offer I suggested.

Women tend to be drawn to general intellect, so I am taking the assumption the guy in question is fairly intelligent. If he reads between the lines (which he might). You've pretty much got a pre-date. Talk, get to know him, etc, then ask him out to dinner!

If the original proposal doesn't work, then try catching him around where you normally see him and get more acquainted with him. After a few weeks try something different like a fun time out paint balling, then do the 'pre-date'.

And before you know it, he could be yours.

[schmoopy]

It's natural to feel a little nervous when you're attracted to someone. After all, you're putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to potential rejection. But there are a few things you can do to ease your nerves and make the experience more enjoyable.

First, remember that everyone feels nervous in new situations. It's normal to be a little anxious when you're meeting someone for the first time or going on a first date. Try to remind yourself of this and stay positive.

Second, take some time to get to know the person better. Talk to them in person or online, learn about their interests and hobbies, and find things you have in common. The more you know about them, the more comfortable you'll feel around them.

Third, try to be yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not just to impress the other person. Be honest and genuine, and let your personality shine through.

Fourth, relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself. This is supposed to be fun, so don't make it into a big deal. If things don't work out, it's not the end of the world.

Finally, remember that you can't control how the other person feels, so just focus on enjoying yourself. If they like you, great. If not, that's okay too. Just keep being your awesome self and you'll find someone who appreciates you for who you are.

[Asker]

thank you ❤️

[Guy__]

I get hypnotized by the people I like and speak slowly etc. isn't it called sexual tension? Imagine him doing the same and then sitting in the awkward silence. isn't it enjoyable?

[The_Uncivilised]

Remember that he's just a guy too - he farts, shits, burps, snores, pisses and pukes just like you do, and that it's normal to be nervous so just try and enjoy the ride a little. If he's socially apt he'll see your nervous anyway.

[UniquelyBasic]

Just embrace it