Are men always keeping their options open? (Page 2)

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This is not meant to be disrespectful at all so please dont take it harshly. Its just a simple question. Based off of what I have heard (and I have NEVER once heard a man deny) is that men are very sexually and visually driven. Men will always check out women around them even if they are in a relationship or they will fantasize about wanting more from their girlfriend - wanting her to be freakier in bed, have a bigger butt or bigger breast, be nicer or more fiesty or sassy or what ever. Even if they ARE happy with the woman they have, they will always crave the freedom and the variety of other women. Even if they don't physically act on it, they will (from what men say) always be receptive to other women. I may be wrong, and I don't mean to generalize. I know for a fact that this isn't true with ALL women because I am a woman and when I was in a relationship with the one boyfriend I had in my whole life, he was more than enough for me. More than one time guys who were more physically attractive or wealthier than him approached me. But their was always a barrier up, I didn't give any man the oppertunity to prove himself to be better in any way. I shut out all men, I didn't accept new male friends, I got off of social media for the entire relationship and I fully committed and convinced myself that although there were other guys, I (at the time) had found MY guy and shut off every oppertunity for anyone else to come into my life. It wasn't something that my (then) boyfriend asked of me nor did he even know that I had done all of this. To this day he still doesn't know how committed I had been to him. But I think I blocked other men and completely stopped being on the market. Now what Im asking is, how often do MEN do this for their girlfriends? How common is it that a man will meet a girl and block other women who are prettier, smarter, richer, and more popluar than their girlfrien Do men tend to keep their options open more often?

AynonOMouse · Answer

I never let someone else try to get close if I am in a relationship. And the "trading up" thing is more common for women because they often want a man with more money. Especially if the guy ever loses his job, then she starts looking to trade up pretty quick. Not all women, but many are like that.
Guys don't eve care about wealthier women. Someone that works at fast food making minimum wage is just as good as someone that makes 5 times as much in a man's view.

Anonymous · Answer

"Even if they don't physically act on it, they will (from what men say) always be receptive to other women."

No. You were right up to that point. But no, just because you look doesn't mean you're receptive.

Men certainly wouldn't isolate themselves the way you did. That seems like you don't trust yourself to be near other men or something.

A man wouldn't do that. He'd just trust himself not to act on it.

thecheesypenne · Answer

I would give you a simple answer. Everyone or most of us gender neutral will remain like you in their first relationship. It's later the shit starts happening. Then they know some things and don't want to adjust and start wanting more. But then, if they meet a great women who can please him with her humour, everything blurs out again! :)

LeoElias · Answer

Not all guys can keep their options open because they take what they can get. Only some dudes can keep their options open, the one who know how to play the game. I don't have relationships. I only have hook ups. So my options are always open because I'm not committed. Even if I am out with someone I like I still keep an eye out for other women. Because I'm not looking for anything serious anyway, it shouldn't matter if I look or not.

CT_CD · Answer

Women are the ones who do that. They're the ones who have a 'Plan B' man

3rdSrike · Answer

From experience, its usually women who have a backup plan and keep some guys on the side (or at least in their mind) in case it doesn't work out.

ashole men do indeed exist, men who can never be satisfied but the majority of men i know are more than happy with one woman only, regardless of her breast or butt size, my two friends broke up with their gfs a year ago and to this day they just dont feel its right to go out and meet other women.

Rambler221 · Answer

First off, if women never kept their options open, how the fuck are there women who cheat? Whom I have witnessed, by the by.

And second, no, we don't keep our options open in the manner in which you describe. Maybe at the very beginning of a new relationship, but we commit quickly, and unless (like all people who would consider infidelity) there is a serious problem with us or our relationship, our girl is more than enough.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Not really. Men choose a girl and stay committed. With vague lists innthe back of their head of women they’re interested into. But guys usually treat relationships as a priority it’s only when things are perfect but that mental list wasn’t finished / experienced does cheating happen.

Billjant · Answer

If a man feels satisfied he'll never cheat. Many men start thinking about cheating when their wives stop wanting to have sex as often or are so busy with the kids they never make time to spend together with their husbands.

crazyluv263 · Answer

To all the guys saying it’s because of women. Neither gender can be trusted. Too many men be on games. I feel like society makes guys feel having a lot of baddies on their arm should be rewarded Mack daddy of the year 😂. Usually if someone has a backup plan it’s because everybody else had backup plans in the past 🤦🏽‍♀️

ManOnFire · Answer

There are definitely a lot of men who do what you say, I've even known some personally. I think it's sad. Personally though I think women do cheat more than men and like how it feels to be desired by many men.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Well guys have to settle most of the time so they are rarely truly happy with who they have. So yeah they like to see what else is out there in case a rare occassion happens when someone their equal finds them attractive.

JSmuve · Answer

Well
1) I wouldn't get into a relationship if I knew that she wasn't the best out there for me
And
2) I don't chase after girls so those prettier, smarter, richer, more popular girls would have to come to me which we know ain't gonna happen

Rexxx · Answer

Attraction to other isn't the same as being unsatisfied in a relationship.

Lance1965 · Answer

The smart men do but they are only doing the same thing most women do. Most women have another man in their sights if their current realtionship doesn't work out.

dreamstar72 · Answer

I guess most men are like a child in a toy store and told to pick one toy. The choice is great for them and they finally pick their favorite but they still wonder

scotty01 · Answer

I don’t have back up woman. I just know what I’m after in a woman and if we both have things in common with each other with out fighting then that’s what I want with out any ex’s hanging around her to would be nice

Aynsof · Answer

Well a lot of men do that yes but to be fair a lot of women do it as well it isn't so much a gender issue
Not all men do that though there are plenty men who when they are with someone they have no interest on anyone else whatsoever

Raven_76 · Answer

I'm not sure. I would if I didn't meet a girl I really wanted to be with. I'd focus all my attention on a girl I really liked but that would just end up with me getting hurt, that's how it usually goes unfortunately.

Wammu · Answer

Yep, mainly because keeping to one girl hasn't rewarded me enough in the past, no in fact it has punished me so far.

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