Why don’t men want an open marriage/relationship? Are men that insecure? What are they worried about?

[Princesspd]

Some say women are hard to figure out, but I say men are harder to figure out.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

This isn't rocket science. First let's fix a misconception. It has nothing to do with being insecure. WE JUST DO NOT WANT OR AGREE WITH THAT LIFESTYLE.

It really is that simple. Yes you can argue it is a built in survival trait to secure our bloodlines and even argue the testosterone makes us territorial but realistically will we want a partner committed to us, our relationship and any family we have. If she wants to be and act single fine, go be single.

This is the major downfall of western culture and our dating market Women are still wanting and expecting traditional husband's but refused and determined to not provide traditional wife roles.

You can't be fully committed to a family. husband or relationship if your constantly renting yourself out like a new York taxi cab.

This is very very simple. If you want that type of lifestyle, your choice your right. Just expect to remain and forego any real committed relationship dynamic.

You may get lucky and find some sap to agree, but you may have to compromise on the type of spouse your looking for. Men with self respect and self confidence will walk away from you.

[Finchie40]

Because what’s the point of being in a relationship with someone that isn’t fully satisfied with just you? The fact that you want to go screw other people, while being in a relationship with someone already, clearly shows you aren’t truly in love with your partner , you just like the convenience of them , but you truly don’t love them , if you truly loved someone? you wouldn’t go screw someone else period. Sadly that makes you a selfish person, by wanting your cake and wanting to eat it to. Open relationships only work , if both partners’ are on the same exact page with things , if you aren’t on the same page? It’s going to turn to absolute shit , when one of you ends up sleeping with someone else , that they begin getting deeper feelings for , while stringing their current partner along for their selfish behavior , causing them to betray their current partners’ trust and respect , and invest more of their time , into this other person , instead of investing their time into their partner, It will just be a matter of time before this happens to one of you. Open relationships are for selfish people , that want to sugarcoat their selfish actions and behaviors , they can’t admit that they are a selfish POS person , they just like the convenience of having each other , while they go jump in bed with other people as well. Not only is it wrong? it’s dirty and degrading as well , and putting the both of you at high risk of catching STD’s. So if you want to have sex with multiple people? Stay single and become a whore and continue screwing with peoples’ hearts. Most guys’ will not settle down with a whore period. He might fuck her , but he won’t commit to her , if she isn’t committing herself to him. If you are already in an open relationship with someone? Your relationship is already over , you are just friends that fuck on occasion , until one of you finds someone else that they will choose to be loyal and faithful to.

[PeachyPie93]

Trolling hard again lol
Why would anyone want to pay for and be married to someone that is fucking the whole town? The fact you need multiple men's validation means you are the insecure one, not the man lol.

[Billlewis]

Umm.. I love paying for a woman's time, as well as her dates with other guys, but that's just me.

[PeachyPie93]

@Billlewis Yeah that is cuz you are weird, since you don't even have sex with them. So really they aren't your partner and you don't love them, they are just using you and you are just using them for your weird sexual interest. So to be married to someone that hoes around is a very different situation.

[Billlewis]

But is marriage really that different from a long term relationship? I've had several very fulfilling -- and it's only fulfilling if she's happy, satisfied and comfortable -- relationships with women who enjoyed the freedom to date other men whenever they wanted, while I remained 100% faithful and exclusive to them, and to 'this day, I wouldn't have it any other way.

[PeachyPie93]

@Billlewis Yeah but that isn't a normal or loving relationship. In an exclusive relationship it is much harder because you have to compromise for each other, work things out and be faithful, raise kids together which is a lot more work than just having a weird sexual relationship with someone who clearly you can't keep happy, hence she is fucking and dating other men because you can not satisfy. And you basically have no standards because you are completely happy doing that for someone else, which is degrading and cringy.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am.

[HelpfulWoman]

some do. some don't. not everyone wants to share attention with a partner and thats perfectly okay and doesn't mean they're insecure.

[prisoners_dilemma]

Nothing makes sense in biology except in the light of evolution. Men's and women’s preferences are evolved psychological adaptations intended to solve common problems our ancestors faced. Throughout all of human history, women have not had to contemplate whether a child they gave birth to was biologically theirs because they physically saw it come out of them, giving them parental certainty. A significant problem ancestral men faced was being duped into raising a child that was not genetically theirs. Not only would that man be wasting time on an investment that didn’t pay off, but you would be actively providing his time and resources to a competitor's offspring. So, men in the past who did not have a preference for ensuring their partner's fidelity would not have passed their genes onto the next generation, and behaviors like sexual jealousy evolved designed to provide parental certainty. So, men are not insecure or pathologically jealous when they want a partner who is faithful to them. This behavior is a complex designed adaptation intended to function in a specific way to solve a particular problem: increase their fitness and propagate their genes through future generations. This is analogous to the psychological adaptation of hunger a behavior designed to guide you to calorically dense and nutritious food. As well as women preferring men who are ambitious and have financially stable careers over men who are homeless and live on the streets

[ProbablyClueless]

It just defeats the benefit of what men get from marriages. There's no point. I'm not getting married to get laid. I'm getting married or having a relationship because my wife/girlfriend and I have committed to factoring each other's best interests into each of our individual decisions. An open marriage means that she's no longer actually placing my interests above the interests of other men.

[Billlewis]

I generally only pursue a relationship with a woman if we can agree on a one sided open relationship. My preference is to remain 100% faithful and exclusive to her, while she enjoys the freedom to date other guys whenever she wants.

[Nice222]

That’s the best

[bobby_bush_eater]

There are men who don't want this. I am one of them. I want a marriage and children more than anything. I no longer want meaningless sex, I've seen it's degenerate and holds little value.

I will caveat this by saying I will have a prenup.

[strateguy632]

marriage is a commitment. if you are not loyal you are not committed. nor do you really love them. if you love someone you would be loyal.

[236color]

That you'll find someone better in bed than they are (and you might) and leave them.

[Avicenna]

LOL, what's in it for a guy to have one of these so-called "open relationships"? He's supposed to financially support a woman who's constantly doing hookups?

[DJB72]

Because if that's what we wanted we'd just set up a permanent appointment with a hooker. It'd be far cheaper in the long term

[OlderAndWiser]

You want an open "marriage" so you don't need to worry about your vows. Why did you get married if you did not intend to honor them?

[LiamS95]

It has nothing to do with insecurities in fact, having a need for more then one partner definitely shows drastic insecurity, it's really a matter of if you're a principled person or not.

[DrPepper12]

I want one!!! I think it will become increasingly common and not raise eyebrows in the future

[HawkPerception]

It's incredible that you think that wanting to bond with someone and have them to yourself is insecure.

[SolitarySolace]

Why are women so unloyal to the point where they'd rather have an open relationship / marriage instead of just being happy with one man?

[Princesspd]

Because one man is not enough

[SolitarySolace]

That's sad. That says a lot about women being the more unloyal gender and an argument can be had that they cheat more than men

[JacobJordan]

Why would a man want to share the person he loves with other people? Simple concept.

[Berethor]

A women that have sex with multiple men is a ho, I don't want relationship with a ho.

[Vegasrunner]

most men choose open relationships in a heart beat. All of mine are open, open on my end closed on theirs

[BarryLiverstone]

Because I want to be intimate only with my wife. Why would I need another person?

[Princesspd]

What if your needs another man?

[Princesspd]

Your wife

[BarryLiverstone]

Then I failed as a husband

[BarryLiverstone]

Why do you ask?

[Princesspd]

Because that is what I want from my husband. An open marriage

[BarryLiverstone]

Good luck. Why even get married?

[Surely]

I am sure that the men who oppose an open marriage. Are the ones that take their wedding vows seriously and married for a secure and faithful relationship.

[LaurenM1997]

Because they don’t wanna be a cheating cunt

[gorydetails]

lmao. Why would I support a woman to cheat on me. GTFOH