Don't be an asshole, your just feeding the ego's of those women who want assholes (and they are not people worth being with). What you need to do is be yourself, actually yourself, as in don't be an asshole but don't really give a fuck about what others think of you. Don't pander, it comes off as weak but also pushing people around and being a prick comes off as being weak as well (though to be fair, more then a few women are to oblivious to be able to make the connection between being an asshole and being weak so they some times confuse it with strength (again, these women are not worth having as they are impulsive and unthinking).
I remember I was helping out a client and he was the typical nice guy. He wanted to be a bad boy so bad because obviously that is what women want. So we go out and ask a bunch of single women if he should turn into a bad boy and they all said NO. Just be yourself cutie, don't be like those assholes, women love nice guys, don't you dare turn him into a bad boy. I said GREAT which one of you would like to go out on a date with him? They all said NO he isn't their type but proceeded to tell him that's okay sweetie... there is someone out there for everyone. So my advice is.. don't take BAD BOY advice from women!
Ever hear the phrase “ nice guys finish last “? That’s not always true , but the nice guy is the last option for younger girls. Us girls all go through this phase ( or most of us do anyways ) where we crave a jerks attention , but if we really want to settle down.. all a girl really wants is a kind hearted man at the end of the night to cuddle and tell all of her stories to. Don’t change for other people’s likings. You will be molded into something you are not & there’s only one of you in this life , don’t let it go for the appraisal of another.
I mean, if that is you in the picture, you are cute af. But you shouldn’t go kissing girls out of no where like that. And no, you can still be a good guy... just be a good guy with a backbone.
Same situation for me. I’m attractive yet females do not like me because of my timid shyness around them.
So in a nutshell this is what I’ve learned:
You can say anything to women. ANYTHING. You can walk up to a girl, and tell her “I wish I had T-Rex arms.” And that shit could get you laid.
You need to start saying out loud, the thoughts in your head which you filter out and choose not to say.
I suggest you begin slowly experimenting with this. As you begin to see that you are in fact, socially, and flirty-ly, allowed to say whatever the fuck you want, your ability to say increasingly potentially offensive things improves and you see that those supposed “offensive” things are actually not offensive at all, and that women simply appreciate the fact that you have the balls to say shit.
But there’s a caveat. There is some small percentage of women who will always be angry at men and the fact that we are sexually attracted and must become loose with our language in order to gain attraction with women. Some small percentage of women want to regulate and create a book which decides what actions and words men can say and do with women. Those few women? Their opinions are worthless.
Well, I have been a good time watching females opinion about it. There were somes which I liked a lot, like "don't change but bad guy looks is a plus"... Let's begin, to me which actually worked best was being attractive, more than being a bad guy, so I would recommend you to change on that way more than the other. About being attractive, it needs some changes, but not all of them are about you, if we use the PNL model of changes it is like that: 0. God 1. Identity 2. Beliefs 3. Habilities 4. Behavior 5. Circunstances
Changes I would recommend to start: 1. Habilities: start to learn to play the game. There are many, many women who confuses nice guy with I don't know to play the game, so I think it's the first one. 2. Identity: be yourself, but your real self. There are many guys who don't know which their strong points are, if I ask you, in which things are you really good? Define yourself with three attractive adjectives, and they remain quiet for a long time... You can't be yourself if you don't know yourself, so my advice to "change" yourself is, learn more about yourself.
Really the only important difference between the nice guy and the bad boy is the difference in how confident they are in showing interest in a girl. It has nothing to do with mistreating women or lying to them.
A "nice guy" typically does everything he can to avoid the "player" label. He hears women complain about "bad boys", "jerks", "players", "guys who only want one thing", "creeps" etc.
So on one end you have the guy who is completely afraid to show any interest, and on the other end you have the creepy guy/fuckboy who tries to fuck anything that moves. Both are bad.
You need to be somewhere in the middle ideally. Not a sleazeball, but also not so afraid to show interest that you act asexual around the girl you like. You have to realise that there's nothing wrong at all with showing interest in a girl and that you don't have to hide it, just don't be desperate.
In future, show interest from the start and don't be so afraid of rejection.
Watch gangster and badguy type of movies (and series). They'll influence you really good, temporarily at least. May I suggest Sons of Anarchy (they're up to mostly good but also actual bad shit), Lillyhammer (mainrole is a good-guy mafia boss. Very positively influencing), and Shameless (not a maincharacter to really look up to but he has some very nice traits, It's worth a watch if you want to badden up or gain some carelessness). They're all series and watchable on netflix. I can't remember any badboy movies atm sorry.
That girl knows she's not a good girl, she knows she's going to hurt you because you guys aren't compatible and it's not a good match. Be happy that you dodged a bullet, or had it dodged for you more like.
It's a good way to weed out the bitches who will just hurt you and shit on you because you trusted them and you're sensitive to people you let in your heart, it's normal.
For some reason, girls have this phase when they're young and immature, that's why I go for older women instead and some of them are still immature.
The right girl will be all over you on her own, she'll appreciate everything you do and everything will go super smoothly
So just be patient, and strive for self-improvement in everything.
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Lemme tell you this
In high school this works yes, cause girls haven't matured yet and we live by these weird movie standard set world lol
But when u grow up, no Certain traits are attractive yeah like confidence, but being an edgy dude who acts like an asshole, nope
What women mean with a bad boy is just someone who has high confidence, doesn't need anybody's acceptance and has a specific set of passions he actively pursues
I've made this mistake few times too myself. A girl literally throwing herself in my arms and instead of me just bagging the girl, I start to act like a jerk... Now what happens, the girls usually laugh and come back cause they are attracted but after awhile just leave
NO! Don't you ever change who you are to accommodate for someone else's selfish desires. It may be hard, but holding out for the woman that is going to love & cherish you for who you truly are will be the greatest decision of your life, & hers. Not everyone wants a bad boy. There are those of us that NEED a #handsome, good guy. (Looking like a bad boy on the sly is just a bonus.) 😉
I know people believe that nice guys finish last but honestly from my experience, bad guys are dicks and do not make good partners and nor do they have the qualities of a guy that genuinely wan s to have a loving relationship with a girl. I would want a guy that loves and cares for me. Dickish guys don't do that. The nice guys do. Give it time. You don't need someone that doesn't want to love and value you for who you are. Wait for the right girl and focus on bettering yourself in the meantime
But the real question is, what do you want? A meaningful relationship or just get easy hookups? If you want to be a fuckboi ok, be a bad boy, but if you want a meaningful relationship you'll have to be patient and keep loyal to the person you are now.
Don't you F*cking dear turn into a "bad boy" 🙄 just stop going after crappie women. Nice girls want nice guys but but they are so difficult to find nowadays. Stay ture to yourself and the right girl will come along
It's better to be the good guy, seeing your age category. There might be quite a few girls who want bad boys but they don't know how difficult it is. After an experience they'll get over them and then they'll realize how important good guys are. Doesn't mean you'll be single this whole while, there are lots of sensible girls who like good guys. Most importantly be a good guy, not a nice guy.
Nice guys only do things for the sake of getting favours in return and puts up a fake image of being a nice person. He doesn't have a spine and always tries to people please.
A good guy does good things for the sake of doing it. He doesn't expect any returning favours. He does please people bur does not degrade himself by doing it and knows when to say no.
Patience is a virtue. I'm not Christian, but that virtue is something a LOT of people seem to lack. Someone Will find you eventually when you least expect it. You're also still young and probably only 18-20. You have a lot of life to live.
It can be as easy as you appear to be to good, hard to reach. Also that those girls are afraid of not being good enough, treat you bad, losing you to someone better than them.
Learn this simple thing. In your age range majority of female's are emotionally immature as fuck, makes self destructive choices and thinks they know what they need.
Just wait a few years and you'll get a great girl in your life. "Bad boys" will never have a succesfull life. Young girls are after bad guys, but it's only temporary, If a girl wants a long lasting relationship she'll look for a nice guy.
If it is you just being you, then probably it is for the best that you don't get on with that girl. Don't try to be someone that you are not, you'll find it a chore.
Start being independent, fluent, have some self-esteem but don't be a douchebag, do your own thing, have some social knowledge, get to know your way around things you usually don't know how to, and keep true to yourself but don't be afraid of s change. A way of becoming a bad boy Just don't become a douchebag fugitive...
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