I don't like it when my boyfriend drinks?

[Anonymous]

OK so obviously I'm not a huge drinker. I actually like drinking, but I always control myself. But my serious boyfriend (8 months) drinks like every week. We know that we are not allowed to drink or go to parties that have the opposite sex around. It's easy for me to say it because I don't go drinking very often. Whenever he asks what I'm doing, he tells me how he's seeing family and stuff. But whenever he does that, he usually texts me later on in the day for a short while telling me he's drinking (he texts drunk) with his friend of or whatever, but he never tells me where he is.

I always feel uncomfortable about my boyfriend doing this. Even though he tells me he loves me all the time. (Earlier on in the relationship, I caught him saying things to girls he shouldn't be saying etc, but we have fixed that about a month ago). I just feel weird about it and hope he won't ever cheat on me or something.

How can I trust him more when he's drinking without me?

[Anonymous]

You can't trust him more when he's drinking without you because you don't trust him. Period.

"...not allowed to drink or go to parties that have the opposite sex around" -- I've never heard of a single gender drinking party. This isn't middle school.

Though, it does say that you are under 18; which would explain why you think an eight-month relationship laced with alcohol, infidelity, and trust issues is "serious". You shouldn't "always feel uncomfortable" in a serious relationship.

Honestly, he doesn't really love you; and possibly has already cheated or done something else he shouldn't have.

[Asker]

does it make sense to go drinking with just guys around?

And yes I know I feel that way sometimes. He always tells me how much he wants to be with me for the rest of my life, and wants to see me and spend time with me, but we always have to do something sexual too. He always gets worried if I'm going to find another guy

[florida]

no never been to a party that had only one gender at it since elementary school lol

[Opinion Owner]

No, it doesn't. Humans were meant to interact with BOTH sexes.

If you always have to do something sexual, he is not thinking long-term anything with you. He wants sex and will eventually leave you when he gets his fill.

And he's worried about you leaving because he hasn't left first.

He's playing you. I think you know this. Now it's your choice if you're going to continue being his toy.

[Opinion Owner]

@florida -- Exactly. My last single-gender party was that way ONLY because it was am overnight sleepover.

[jesshkah]

well there's not really a fix to that.. you just have to trust him and stop thinking about it. my guy goes out with people from work all the time including girls, and I kinda just have to believe that he wouldn't do anything. if it does really bother you though try to make sure you know someone at the party he's going to and ask them to watch out for you

[MikeK]

If you're under 18, you shouldn't be drinking.

[Anonymous]

Then just leave him.