I think my boyfriend drinks too much and I don’t know how to handle it?

[Anonymous]

I’ve talked to him about how it concerns me that he drinks bc he used to be an alcoholic. He said after he met me that it changed, which it did for a bit but now it seems that he is drinking again. The other night he called me and he was repeating his words and saying offensive things about his family, saying things that were wrong and scary. His family had upset him so he later told me he drank a lot and apologized that I had to deal with his behavior. He goes out to bars on the weekends and drinks a lot, he always has to order drinks on our dates, he had to get drinks at the movie theater with my family being there. It just all seems excessive, but he doesn’t see the problem. I have noticed when I kiss him sometimes he smells like alcohol. I like to drink on occasion, but i’m not a huge drinker and I don’t like everything to involve alcohol, it makes me uncomfortable. He has so many black out drunk stories of him getting lost or hurt and hearing stuff like that is so off-putting. A few days ago we went to a concert he had to ask for a beer as soon as we got into the area. He also got one at the concert and got frustrated when we went to a food place after the show and they didn’t have beer. So we stopped at a liquor store, and he got three drinks for the ride home. He had to read the alcohol content and said “yeah this is strong.” I’m getting worried as i’ve talked about it to him and how it makes me uncomfortable that everything needs to involve a drink. I’m worried for him and for us. I’m not sure that I want to be in a situation like this. How do I handle this? I’ve already talked to him and expressed my concerns a few times and he just brushes it off or thinks i’m telling him what to do.

[PeachyPie93]

He is an alcoholic, he doesn't know how to deal with his emotions so he drinks. My parents were alcoholics, they wouldn't change for me even though as a child I cried, begged and pleaded for them to stop so our lives could be somewhat more normal, they never did even though we were "supposedly" what they loved most in the world. The ass holes don't change unless they want to change, and most don't so my advice is to save yourself and leave now.

[itsannalee]

Did you told him that he should stop to drink when you are together? If you told him that and he didn’t not change, give up on him. But if not, nothing can help you, No one can change it except himself.

[DrPepper12]

Sweetheart, he's an alcoholic. He always will be even if sober because of the neural pathways that alcohol creates. He will ALWAYS be thinking like an addict even if sober. 🚩 He's not gonna change and drowning people drag their rescuer down with them...

[Anonymous]

He's an addict and only thing you can do is leave him be

Could be worse if it was H I'd be telling you it's like a rabid dog, only cure is putting it out of its misery

[EnjoytheDay777]

Eventually he'll need to change if you want to be happy. If he doesn't, you might want to consider moving on.