Do you think it’s okay for guys with SO’s to like other girls’ selfies?

[adamjanovic]

Let me state first of all that personally I DO think it’s okay for guys, including those with SO’s, to like other girls’ selfies on social media. And I would also like to clarify that I’m not talking about selfies of girls that are borderline pornographic, you know the kind I’m talking about. The kind I am talking about in this post, the ones that I think are harmless, I’ve included an example of (a guy I know’s fiancée got super mad at him for liking this pic of me on Instagram, and she made him unfollow me). The meme above is something a girl I know, who is married, posted on FB, but I don’t really agree with it (the part about selfies, let’s just ignore the stuff in the middle for now). Now, this girl is VERY insecure, is overweight, and is on her second marriage because her first husband only married her to get his Canadian citizenship, and as soon as he got it he started cheating on her. Now, her case is a bit extreme in terms of her insecurity, but I’ve met quite a few women, many of whom are very attractive, who get very jealous and irate if their husband or boyfriend, who, by all appearances seem to be very devoted to them, likes selfies of other women who are attractive. Do they have a point? Is liking other girls’ social media pics, or even just looking at them in their IG stories, and indication that they are attracted to these other women and are thinking of cheating? Or is that a bit irrational? I personally think it is. I think if a woman has a big problem with her man doing that, it’s a sign that she’s either very insecure, or there may be some underlying problems in the relationship, and deep down she’s afraid that he’s attracted to other women and might want to cheat. If so, I think those issues should be addressed in the relationship, because that level of distrust and jealousy, to the point where a man can’t like another girls’ pictures, is very unhealthy. But, that’s just my opinion. What do you all think?

It’s okay for guys to like other girls’ selfies

It’s not okay

Updates

+1 y

Now, liking another girls' pics every now and then is one thing, but what if a guy constantly likes one or two specific girls' pics of herself, and views every single one of her posts and IG stories without fail? And it's a girl he may actually run into in person from time to time at events, ect? To me, that borders on being almost obsessive. I have had two or three guys do that with me (one in particular, who has a serious girlfriend) and it makes me feel a bit uneasy.

Updates

+1 y

Let’s take it up a notch: suppose a guy (with a SO, and you and the SO don’t know each other at all) who likes all your selfies and stories on IG, then adds you as a Facebook friend (or requests it, anyway). You don’t really know each other, but could run into each other on occasion, though. Is that an indication that he has more of an interest in you than just looking at your pics? And, if the guy knows that the girl has a SO herself, is his behaviour disrespectful to her man?

[Finchie40]

It depends on the relationship , my ex would get mad if i liked a picture of a girl i use to go to school with and I was like WTF i went to high school with her we r just friends. She would instantly think i wanted to fuck her , she got a hold of my Facebook and started unfriending Girls i was friends with , i was upset with her and understood where she was coming from but to go that Extreme was a little to much. So in a sense it is disrespectful if your partner doesn't know who the person is you are liking , it just comes down to respect , cuz how would you feel if ypur partner was liking a bunch of different Girls? Why u should always wear your partners shoes like they wear yours. Social media has damaged a lot of relationships cuz of the easy access we have of seeing someone attractive and instantly liking their picture , people that would never be in your life again can easily reappear into your life , so it comes down to respect

[Finchie40]

It sounds it to me , and Yes disrespectful to his SO

[adamjanovic]

Sorry, are you talking about my update? I’m not quite sure what you mean here.

[Finchie40]

Yes , i was saying. if he is already in a relationship and He is liking. your pictures it's disrespectfull o his partner considering in a way he is showing he has. interest in you and part of. him is thinking if u ever responded back flirty to him he would jump on the chance. It he respected his girlfriend he wouldn't be. liking your selfie pictures , Now if he was liking your pictures day of Places u been or foods you ate etc.. that would be 1 thing but liking pictures of your selfies is basically saying your hot and I would so bang u

[Red_Arrow]

In your picture it appears that your bra is showing. That could be considered a bit erotic and trigger some people.
I like most of the pictures you put here. I think you are a beautiful woman. But at this time I do not have an SO, though I still think this is innocent enough to tell you.

[adamjanovic]

It's not my bra, it's black lace trim on a pink slip, but now that you've mentioned it I can see how it could look a bit like a black bra.

[Red_Arrow]

It does not reveal any more by that being there, but it still adds a bit to the eroticism.

[Anonymous]

How would YOU feel if your husband (S. O.) is liking (checking out) only one womans selfies on a regular basis while you are tired and not looking/feeling so great due to caring for the baby? While you may need him to help with the baby.. but he is too busy on his phone liking another woman's selfie.

[adamjanovic]

I get the feeling this is your personal experience?

[Opinion Owner]

i would like to know how you would feel putting yourself in someone others shoes.
no not my experience.

[Nik1hil]

Liking other girls selfie is not a big deal for a guy..
But it's big deal for a guy..

It's like sex... Girls would have sex with fuckboy for fun..
She doesn't really cares..
But the Guy would be heart broken if he found out..

[adamjanovic]

It’s not a big deal for a guy, but it’s a big deal for a guy? I’m confused.

[Nik1hil]

it's big deal for a girl*

[Guanfei]

It is. He's not fucking the girl, he's liking a pic.
Girls should understand that they're not the only pretty girls in the world, and that guy find other girls attractive. Without wanting to jump in their beds

[adamjanovic]

What if the guy is exhibiting the kind of behaviour I mentioned in the update, though? Is that crossing the line?

[Guanfei]

I like every girls pic I have on Instagram, watch the stories too. Doesn't mean I want to date them. It's just automatic. I see a post on Instagram, I like it.

[adamjanovic]

But do you currently have a wife or gf?

[Guanfei]

Nope. But that wouldn't change anything. I'm liking it just because they're there, in general no matter what's on it.

[Thatsamazing]

Do I think that dumb questions are dumb? Yes, generally speaking, I think that dumb questions are dumb.

[Kezzz]

Guys don't really think so much when looking a girl's selfies. It's a rather simple process:
Guy see. Guy think nice picture. Guy like picture

[markony]

Sorry what is SOs?

[adamjanovic]

Significant other, a wife, girlfriend, fiancee, etc.

[ItsAMeA]

I think it's okay.