Is not being a partier a turnoff?

[moonlightdream17]

I'm not a party girl. I never have been and never will be. I don't mind people who like to occasionally party/drink and have fun. I would probably even drink a bit among a group of friends in a relaxed situation. But my idea of fun is not going to a party and getting wasted. Will guys find me boring because of this? Is not being a partier a huge turn off? I ask because a guy I liked implied that I was boring because I don't like to party and go out and get drunk.

[fg919]

NO – it is not a turnoff to not be a partier... to some guys. Like anyone, some guys like to party and some don't. Guys who like getting trashed on the weekends will probably just want to get in your pants. There are LOTS of guys who don't like to party and won't think you're boring because you don't regularly wake up in a stranger's back yard with red cups in your hands.

I wasn't into partying in college and the few times I forced myself to go (to try it, or because I thought I could grow to like it) I didn't have any fun and I really didn't like the people around me. I'm much happier talking to girls who aren't into spending more time trashed than sober.

About this guy you like, sorry but he's not for you. You and he aren't compatible. If you try and force the issue I guarantee he's going to drag you to parties and you'll be frustrated and miserable around him. Or if you let him go to parties without you, he's going to do crazy stuff and you'll have the pleasure of hearing about his craziness the next day from his friends.

[markml]

No, that's just that guy. I think he's kind of boring, but then I never really understood the purpose of getting wasted partying.

As long as there are things that do excite you, you're not boring.

You just need to find guys who are more compatible with your interests. Admittedly, this may be difficult if the entire social scene where you are revolves around partying.

[viva_glow]

You just need to find a guy who has the same ideals you do. They're there. Don't be a party pooper and belittle people who do things you don't agree with, but don't let those people belittle you for your choices. Gain a ground of respect and understanding with them. Move on from shallow jerks who will label you "no fun". And show that you're about having fun, just not getting wasted. You can demonstrate how lovable and fun you are without having to get blasted drunk. Guys want someone they can have fun with, but alcohol isn't necessary for this. And there are guys who don't appreciate this scene as much either, and they'll appreciate you for it too.

[curiouschica]

It's only a turn off to the people who you wouldn't be compatible with. I mean if you don't like to and they do and don't respect your choice then it's not gonna work. I don't like the idea of getting wasted either. Would rather get to know the person by simple talking. Relying on having to drink to have fun sounds crazy. I would rather ride a roller coaster or snow ski or go on a hot date to a restaurant! lol Just trying to say that boredom is specific to the individual and you shouldn't care so much about what guys like him say.

[aster]

some guys will say that if it's their lifestyle, however there are plenty of guys (party goers and more relaxed guys alike) that won't mind either way and won't think "it's a turn off". you just have to give those guys who do like to go out the freedom to do so

[SpartWallace]

Maybe for immature guys. Not everyone likes partying, and that doesn't make them boring. If you really like that guy, you can try to explain that to him and maybe show him you're not as boring as he assumes you to be, maybe by telling him about the things you DO enjoy and the different things you like. I don't know, maybe showing how passionate you are about something is gonna impress him.

But if he still thinks you are boring, it's probably that you guys wouldn't fit together or he's just an immature dumbass

[Anonymous]

I actually find girls who ARE partier a turn-off. I like the quiet/smart kind of girl, we don't need alcohol to have a good time, we can do other things that are more productive than gorging alcohol down out throats. I'm not going to be judgemental, but I believe that people who "like to party" = "people who like to sleep around" and that doesn't sound like a good quality. Let the guy think you are "boring", don't ever change because of somebody else's opinion, I would rather be called boring than easily led and a sheep. If a guy truly likes you he will respect your decision and would want to spend time with you doing things that you enjoy. don't fall for it.

[TurboCam92]

A- if that guy would only be interested in you if you were willing to get smashed, he's just trying to get in your pants. He's not worth your time.

B- it's NOT a turnoff if you're not a partier. If anything, it shows that you're more mature than those around you and can show a little restraint, which is ADMIRABLE. This is actually a quality that some guys look for.

[Icaro]

^Definitely this.

[Jonny_]

What's a turn off about it? Surely it means you're less likely to end up getting drunk, getting hit on by some desperate guys and end up cheating at some point... More power to you. I don't agree that it hinders you finding a guy either... guys who hit on girls at parties are only trying to get laid, how many people randomly walk over for your personality, absolutely squat... they're all going by sexual attraction.

[notSOsoft]

You will most likely have to wait a little while longer to find one of us. Although were totally worth it. Drinking and partying is just a way of coping with the feeling of lonelieness we all share. I dream of a day we realize were all connected and there's no reason to be afraid. I'm A Dreamer...

[opbeta]

no necessarily. I know a few girls that are very attractive and are complete anti-partiers. But then again, I do go for those innocent cute librarians that study all day. Its all about the guys preference.

[MrZoork]

Not for myself but I'm not everybody. Don't let anybody tell you other wise. But there is large group of male and females that do follow this supposed way.

[snackeyg]

Nah it's not a big deal. If I wanted to go out would you come with me and let me get drunk or would you hate that? Or just not date a guy who likes that at all?

[moonlightdream17]

I don't care if they want to get drunk occasionally-their choice. So long as it's not like an every single day thing and they're not forcing me to drink too, I'm fine.

[snackeyg]

I can't do daily. No way. lol

[Stereotype]

at your age - if you want a 'hot' guy, you basically need to get drunk and put out.

[WovenEclipse]

I'm not really a partier either and I don't think its a turnoff anyway so no worries :)

[salsa_shark]

I prefer more introverted women. So does pretty much any introverted guy. So yeah, I guess that's your answer.

[wallaber]

nope, quite the opposite, I find girls that party heaps more of a turn off.