You are giving him too many details about yourself, keep your messages short. it's obvious that he isn't keen otherwise he would do whatever he needed to do to make time for you. He didn't reply back to you and you messaged again so he doesn't forget about you right? I'm not trying to be rude, I've done the same thing before. Telling him that you might seem pushy makes it sound like you are.
I wouldn't send him anymore messages and if he does message you again, give him two word answers like he does to you for example "I'm free on Monday night", let him do the work. If he is seriously interested he will try, otherwise his loss. He doesn't even acknowledge most of the things you tell him, ignores most of what you say..
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The irritating thing is I keep thinking fuck this guy I’m done, then out of the blue he apoolgises and messaged me like he did at the start? It’s like if your not interested why bother?
I know what you mean, I think they get a kick out of knowing that they have a girl on the side waiting for them. It can really mess with a person's mental state if it is I would cut off communication. My boyfriend of 5 years disappears for weeks at a time, blocking me from everywhere and then coming back and saying sorry. He has done this to me so many times, I always forgave him in an instant. But it really pushed me in a really bad state mentally (suicidal tendencies developed and I was put on medication). Once again he vanished 2 weeks ago and something just switched on in me, i'm choosing to repair myself from all this trauma so I sent him an email telling him not to come back if he is going to disappear again. I can't keep letting him play mind games with me you know? I wish I cut contact the first time he did it to me, when I was only a couple months into the relationship. You don't want to waste 5 years like me, trust me. Feel free to message me whenever you want, stay strong!
Thank you Eila :) I agree, he’s an ex cocaine ecstasy user ( although I’m pretty sure he’s still using ) it bloody hurts, this has happened 3 times now where I’ve tried to arrange plans and he hasn’t responded and then a week later he’s like sorry :( and then goes like this. I am done it hurts me so much, I’m a kind compassionate human being trying to be there for him and he’s crapping all over me :( xx
Never make yourself so available even if you have 3 days free for some guys it comes across to them like you don't have a life and never ever reveal too much personal details about yourself to someone who doesn't make a real effort to contact you
When are you free sounded more like a casual question... but I think it became serious with all that information and how you wanted a definite planned day
This was probably more like HIm: when are you free you: oh usually Wednesdays and Thursdays... what about you? him: Thursdays and Saturdays you: cool, maybe we can do something some day him: ya for sure then continue bout this or change or topic...
he seems like he needs to be massaged a bit before a big move lol... gets spooked easily hahah
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Yeah he’s an ex cocaine user and his paranoia is ridiculous.
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