Why is this guy being so weird?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I know that started being really weird towards me.
We used to get along great and be able to joke around with each other. Other people have mentioned that there was chemistry between us and that he had a crush on me, but I am taken so this guy can only be a friend and he knows this.

One day he became a totally different person towards me and other people noticed it. He would go out of his way to avoid me, ignore me and just pretend like I don't exist. It seemed like he was upset around me. I did ask him if I had upset him and if we were ok and he insisted that everything was fine. He is starting to interact with me again in small ways but every interaction seems so awkward and tense. We definitely can't joke around anymore as he became so serious. He still seems upset with me. It hurts me as I enjoyed his friendship. Thoughts?

[williamHD]

It’s cause he’s having mixed feelings he wants to be your friend but in his mind he wants to date you. He knows he needs to walk away because he can’t be your friend. If he’s interacting less it’s because he doesn’t want to show feelings anymore even as friendship. For example he’s avoiding you. Clear sign he doesn’t want to be your friend and it’s awkward because of the different chemistry between you two.

[Asker]

Ugh. It's brutal. Thanks for your input.

[FilmGuy93]

There's a reason people say that men and women generally can't just be friends. Someone pointing out the flirtations changed things... do you not see why that acknowledgement with a taken woman would change things?

[milk_lord]

In my experience, when a guy goes quiet likes that it's because he has feelings for you and he can't help but feel any other way. In my philosophy, if you see someone as more than a friend and they don't see you the same way you should let them go. Maybe he thinks something similar but doesn't want to lose his friendship with you. Above all, You should talk about how his behavior makes you feel. That's the most important thing. :>

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer. It's such an uncomfortable situation.

[thebestalt]

He may have had feelings for you and felt as if you rejected him or never reciprocated his same feelings. That could have turned into resentment and he's trying to protect himself because he still has feelings.

[princeofromance]

You need to move on from him. He obviously is having issues at the moment. My advice is to clear your head and move on.