Guys, Do you like a outgoing and loud girl or shy and quiet girl?

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ShortCircuit · Accepted Answer

I like shy and quiet girls personally, and I would say a good 40-50% of us men are in agreement. That said, your mom isn't wrong. Your shyness could be a contributing factor to why you're single.

If you don't approach men, the only possible way a relationship can be started is if a man approaches you. That means you have disadvantage that you've got to compensate for, right off the bat. You've gotta be in the right place, at the right time, at all times. You've got to be quite a bit more attractive than girls who are more outgoing than you in order to stand the same chance. And on top of just being all-around attractive, you've got to have defining features that can be picked out in a crowd. You've got to give off subtle signals. And finally, when you are approached, you have only one chance to reciprocate in a way that makes him want to continue to be around you.

Shyness is definitely not a bad thing, as men are split down the middle when it comes to their preferences on it. But you've gotta know how to work with it.

Ceasar97 · Accepted Answer

What a bitch, lol. I like them both, it just depends on in what way they are shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. If they are always in your face and too excited for everything, they get annoying. If a female is too quiet that she never talks to me, well then I never know she likes me.

RickPen · Answer

I like a mix: one who is willing to be quiet and fully listen, then be bold in speaking her mind respectfully. Then again, I just described polite conversation, but being willing to listen first, and talk after is a hallmark of decency to me... for anyone.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Okay, so your mom is both right and wrong. It's not that we dislike you because you're quiet. A lot of guys actually like shy and/or quiet girls. Your problem lies in the fact that you don't talk enough. If you want to get to know someone then you need to talk to them. Maybe you need to catch their attention. If you don't say anything, a lot of people will assume you're just not interested. (But don't worry; you aren't alone. I am guilty of this as well.)

Madhatter920 · Answer

All things in moderation. An outgoing girl can be a lot of fun, but if she's too outgoing, she can be exhausting. Likewise, a shy girl can be really cute, but if she's too shy, she's boring. Same goes for guys, right? You know where the happy middle ground is. Not that knowing where it is makes it any easier to get to, right?

demonics · Answer

Nothing like the obnoxious American girl...

Guys, Do you like a outgoing and loud girl or shy and quiet girl?

Don't *clap* be *clap* like *clap* that *clap* bitch. Sorry, your mom is dumb. Never take advice on men from other women.

Don't be the creepy quiet girl either. Just be normal geez.

StylesbyDR · Answer

It depends on the person ie the guy. As someone who is shy Id prefer a girl who is outgoing, loud, and sort of a person who takes charge since Id be to shy or scared to do that myself.

Having two shy individuals together is kind of awkward until both individuals get comfortable with one another and can really break out of their shell.

Anonymous · Answer

I like a shy and quite girl (somewhat dating one myself) if I find that she has a good personality and is attractive, being shy and quite is a bit of a turn on. But I don't want her to be too quite and shy when she is with me, just shows me that she thinks I'm special and different from other guys she sees.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

After approaching or texting more often shy girls I now have to say its very frustration. There is like no input from her side, she never initiates convos and you have to fish every word out of her mouth. You feel pretty unwanted or like an idiot trying to run after her.

ZardozYourGod · Answer

I like mostly any kind of woman if she doesn't cuss or drink booze/smoke/drugs etc. Hard to find these days - I've been looking for 20 years now - nothing but if I take a piece of meth to Sacramento I can get sex. Please explain to me why it has to be that way?

markscott · Answer

Though it's fun to be with a girl who is outgoing, if she is too loud, it's very annoying. If I had a choice between a girl who was too loud, and a girl who was quiet, I'd go with the quiet girl.

Calebbbb93 · Answer

I mean it depends on the person, I like confident girls but I dont like when they are loud and obnoxious but I also like shy and quiet girls cuz they are abit mysterious leaves more to figure out lol but I dont think thats why you are single there's someone out there for everybody so just be you and someone will be attracted to you for it ✌

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't really like either extreme. The word "shy" is a nice way of saying "afraid, fearful, uncomfortable", so I definitely don't like that. And just because you're "quiet", it doesn't mean a girl is "shy". Your mom's wrong.

crazy8000 · Answer

Both of those extremes has their positive and negative sides.

Prefer somewhere in the middle. can't stand people that talks to much. also doesn't work that well with shy and quiet since they are usually passive without taking initiative.

oldguyincanada · Answer

I was very shy at your age. I would have liked any girl who gave me the time of day. It is Ok to be quiet. Your guy is out there somewhere.

Miristheiss · Answer

Outgoing is fine... shy is fine... I don't like loud.

Anas250 · Answer

Shy and quiet Especially shy, they're the cutest ☹️❤️

SatanClaus · Answer

I think loud guys will prefer loud girls and quiet guys will prefer quiet girls and then there's people like me where like a chick somewhere in the middle

JosephBlack · Answer

I am a quiet and reserved person. As such, I appreciate someone who is also quiet. However, it can be difficult to get to know anyone if both people are too introverted.

Smith_22 · Answer

I like both of the personalities but one shouldn't fake it.

RHK36 · Answer

I like both, probably lean towards shy and quiet. Some loud, outgoing people talk too much at times they say shit not worth hearing.

Doodabeat · Answer

Both are okay but I prefer a girl with a temperament similar to my own.

md_tilley · Answer

Either way works for me really, as long as the interest is there.

JSmuve · Answer

All things being equal, I like a somewhat outgoing but quiet girl. I don't like loud women.

mayo2676 · Answer

No it's not matter , what matters is comfortable to be with you. When gonna someone like you no one can say... This question about loud or quiet it's sometimes doesn't matter

winterfox10 · Answer

Outgoing. I can't stand all of the guess work that comes with shy girls.

JayLiche · Answer

mixture of both someone who knows when to be quiet & when to speak up is perfect

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Preferably something in the middle, but if I had to choose I'd say an outgoing girl cause I'm better at listening then talking.

ask4any · Answer

Not necessarily, be an outgoing quiet girl. See if that helps. You don't always have to be the center of attention to get attention

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

Outgoing and loud, but there are many people who like shy and quiet girls.

sheepdip · Answer

I like a girl who likes me and wants to hang out with me. The rest is unimportant.

clampfan101 · Answer

Outgoing is fine, but not loud... Shy and quiet is fine. (Especially being relatable.)

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