Guys, Do you like a outgoing and loud girl or shy and quiet girl?

[Anonymous]

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Im quiet and my mom told me that's why I'm single

[ShortCircuit]

I like shy and quiet girls personally, and I would say a good 40-50% of us men are in agreement. That said, your mom isn't wrong. Your shyness could be a contributing factor to why you're single.

If you don't approach men, the only possible way a relationship can be started is if a man approaches you. That means you have disadvantage that you've got to compensate for, right off the bat. You've gotta be in the right place, at the right time, at all times. You've got to be quite a bit more attractive than girls who are more outgoing than you in order to stand the same chance. And on top of just being all-around attractive, you've got to have defining features that can be picked out in a crowd. You've got to give off subtle signals. And finally, when you are approached, you have only one chance to reciprocate in a way that makes him want to continue to be around you.

Shyness is definitely not a bad thing, as men are split down the middle when it comes to their preferences on it. But you've gotta know how to work with it.

[Ceasar97]

What a bitch, lol. I like them both, it just depends on in what way they are shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. If they are always in your face and too excited for everything, they get annoying. If a female is too quiet that she never talks to me, well then I never know she likes me.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, so your mom is both right and wrong. It's not that we dislike you because you're quiet. A lot of guys actually like shy and/or quiet girls. Your problem lies in the fact that you don't talk enough. If you want to get to know someone then you need to talk to them. Maybe you need to catch their attention. If you don't say anything, a lot of people will assume you're just not interested. (But don't worry; you aren't alone. I am guilty of this as well.)

[Madhatter920]

All things in moderation. An outgoing girl can be a lot of fun, but if she's too outgoing, she can be exhausting. Likewise, a shy girl can be really cute, but if she's too shy, she's boring. Same goes for guys, right? You know where the happy middle ground is. Not that knowing where it is makes it any easier to get to, right?

[RickPen]

I like a mix: one who is willing to be quiet and fully listen, then be bold in speaking her mind respectfully. Then again, I just described polite conversation, but being willing to listen first, and talk after is a hallmark of decency to me... for anyone.

[demonics]

Nothing like the obnoxious American girl...

Don't *clap* be *clap* like *clap* that *clap* bitch. Sorry, your mom is dumb. Never take advice on men from other women.

Don't be the creepy quiet girl either. Just be normal geez.

[StylesbyDR]

It depends on the person ie the guy. As someone who is shy Id prefer a girl who is outgoing, loud, and sort of a person who takes charge since Id be to shy or scared to do that myself.

Having two shy individuals together is kind of awkward until both individuals get comfortable with one another and can really break out of their shell.

[Anonymous]

I like a shy and quite girl (somewhat dating one myself) if I find that she has a good personality and is attractive, being shy and quite is a bit of a turn on. But I don't want her to be too quite and shy when she is with me, just shows me that she thinks I'm special and different from other guys she sees.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

After approaching or texting more often shy girls I now have to say its very frustration. There is like no input from her side, she never initiates convos and you have to fish every word out of her mouth. You feel pretty unwanted or like an idiot trying to run after her.

[ZardozYourGod]

I like mostly any kind of woman if she doesn't cuss or drink booze/smoke/drugs etc. Hard to find these days - I've been looking for 20 years now - nothing but if I take a piece of meth to Sacramento I can get sex. Please explain to me why it has to be that way?

[markscott]

Though it's fun to be with a girl who is outgoing, if she is too loud, it's very annoying. If I had a choice between a girl who was too loud, and a girl who was quiet, I'd go with the quiet girl.

[Calebbbb93]

I mean it depends on the person, I like confident girls but I dont like when they are loud and obnoxious but I also like shy and quiet girls cuz they are abit mysterious leaves more to figure out lol but I dont think thats why you are single there's someone out there for everybody so just be you and someone will be attracted to you for it ✌