Guys, do you prefer loud/bubbly or quiet and shy girl? Or do you prefer a girl that's both?

[Sweetener_]

Loud & bubbly

Quiet & shy

A girl that's both

[Anonymous]

If it came down to it quiet and a bit shy.

Reason being is that women sometimes blurt out emotionally based thoughts (which can be stupid, insulting, irrational, unfair, selfish, etc.) with little or no consequence. Some of the nastiest unprovoked insults I’ve ever taken in my life were from loudmouth women. Even asshole guys can still be douchebags but have a way of communicating that is horseplay.

Anyway guys who blurt out their emotional are considered pathetic and annoying at best. If they continually to act this way face very real physical threats and harsh verbal chastising for acting negatively emotional. They better physically tough enough and/or witty enough to deal with the consequences.

But as for women being too quiet. This is problematic because guys can’t read minds either. More often than not we do not know if you think we are attractive, creepy, just see as friends or whatever. Women could do a better job at tactfully speaking up in those scenarios.

Anyway in my very bias opinion I believe women have it much easier with all of this. If your naturally loud and extroverted it’s much easier to play shy/quiet vs. becoming more extroverted and loud if you are naturally shy.

by the way shy and quiet are not the same thing. Some quiet guys just dislike meaningless talk but are not afraid to speak up when the moment is right.

[JackSmy]

In my limited experience, the quiet, shy girls can be really loud and 'giggly' when they drink too much, and the ones that are normally more open, and constantly chattering, seem to quiet down, into a more somber state, when drinking too much. There is a thin line, I have found, between those becoming quiet, and then sobbing, and crying. . .

[MCheetah]

I prefer both, though I wouldn't say "loud." Like me, I prefer an introvert who is shy once you meet them (or in my case, quiet because I don't speak to people I'm not interested in, or find boring), and then opens up once you gain their trust and acceptance. I definitely prefer that over the other two, because "always bubbly" and "always shy" can be major negatives.

[virgin20]

Personally, as a shy guy myself, I'd like the girl to be quite bubbly and outgoing personality and sort of carry the conversation at the start anyway. But then she can go quiet and shy because I see that as quite cute in a girl and they're generally nicer.

[ARWINGx1]

I went with "A girl that's both", but it's more because that although I'd vote for option A, it's more that it has to be an appropriate balance between A & B.

I mean, too much "loud & bubbly", and they can come off as being "stupid"/immature. Which is something that'd easily turn me off.
But with the right amount, then there's potential that they (at least) earn my respect quickly.

[AlexanderAnttila]

I prefer the loud and bubbly. The vivacious kind of girl with a beautiful smile. I can be prone to excessive seriousness sometimes, so I really appreciate girls who can bring laughter and lightness into my day. As long as they are mature as well and can be serious when the situation calls for it.

[hahahmm]

One who isn’t afraid of silence & can enjoy peace & quiet sometime. There’s nothing worse than being in a hot tub & somebody is chattering like a chainsaw the entire time.


It’s okay to be talkative/excited but not all of the time.

[Everyoneisplastic]

I don't like loud. If she's bubbly at times, okay cool. If she's obnoxious, hell no. I don't mind if she gets loud when she's frustrated or if she has a voice that carries, but if she's all about attention, then I don't like it.

[ohshee]

I said both I love bubbly but on the loud it depends on the loud if it's a positive loud then ok but if its a rude loud. No way and of course quite and shy melts me

[jgokgotit]

A bit of both. I prefer a girl who is, most of the time, bubbly and outgoing but understands when I need peace and quiet. I am not a very social person so I need a girl who is a little more spontaneous, yet responsible to draw me out of my shell.

[Anonymous]

When I met my wife she was in her late teens. She was a “wild child” as I say. Over the years she has settled into a shy and quiet girl who she says she always was. Every now and then I see that wild child in her and it catches me off-guard but I like it. I like her both ways.

[Kurαȷ]

Reserved, mature, stand-offish etc.
Not necessarily "shy", just someone who chooses to focus their attention on worthwhile things, and people.