The guy I’m seeing slept on my sofa when he stayed over at my place for the first time... was that weird?

[mel200325]

I met this guy through dating app and we went out the third time. He seemed like a nice guy and remember what I said about what I like and did when we hangout. We went to club for a dj’s show last night and I let him stay at my place... we kissed for the whole night but we didn’t do other stuff. he slept next to me for the night but when I woke up the next morning... he was in my sofa... I thought that was pretty weird, so I woke him up to tell him come back to bed since it was freezing. but he got abit cold and awkward when he was next to me. An hour later... he left my place without telling me and didn’t text me... I don’t really know what happen... is it because that he’s expecting sex but nothing happen? Or because I woke him up in the morning? what should I do?

[16hzSquad]

Honestly from my point of view... If you kissed the whole night and then you went to sleep in different parts... 😐 That's a bit sad... Most probable he did something during the night... Or he felt dissatisfied with himself🙄or just felt bad... And started asking himself "what did I do wrong... Am I good enough"?
That happens to me sometimes but usually I'm something like fuck it I got one life and I'm gonna do this... He shouldn't left... But maybe he had work or smth...

[mel200325]

Yea he was sleeping next to me when we went to bed but he moved to sofa maybe in the middle of night... I just thought it’s kinda hurt that he didn’t even say goodbye or leave a note. i asked him why you were in sofa but he didn’t answer me. Do you think i should text him to reassure again?

[16hzSquad]

The better question will be... What do you feel for him? You can dm. Me as well

[mel200325]

We only went on three dates so It’s hard to say but I kinda like him a little or else I wouldn’t care too much about this. Try to dm you but I can’t since I just joined this 😅 Seems other guys thought that he did that for a good reason so wonder how should I text him...

[16hzSquad]

Just follow your heart send him texts like "stop hiding from your feelings" be the one that makes the step forward... He's just scared of emotions

[Kkaos]

Did he make a move to have sex and you rejected or did it just never happen? If he made a move and you rejected then that's kinda shitty cos you would hardly sleep with a date and not have sex lol, it's just teasing.

Obviously something put him off.

[mel200325]

yea he did make some moves and some touching... but we were home like 3:30 am and I was pretty drunk and tired. I didn’t reject him directly but I feel like he kinda sense it in the way that I’m pretty tired so he didn’t move forward. do you think that’s the reason he move to sofa? This just never happen to me...

[Kkaos]

I agree with what @OlderAndWiser said.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is not because he expected sex but because he is tempted when he is in bed next to you and he doesn't want to do anything wrong. Think about it from his perspective.

[mel200325]

Agreed! I was thinking that too but he also left without saying goodbye when I was next to him or shoot me a text after... so if he was trying not do things wrong, why he did that? I just don’t understand... cuz that was rude you know😢

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe he was embarrassed that he made some moves and you rejected him.

[Avicenna]

Ask him directly. He should havr communicated something with you.

[mel200325]

I asked him... but he didn’t tell me. Was he upset with me? Cuz the next morning he’s like different person when I wake him up...

[Nice222]

I would text him and ask. Maybe he was trying to be respectful or maybe he found your bed small or uncomfortable.