At 49, that's obviously not going to stop me (though I'm not into the Barbie types), but, there IS some significant truth that idea.
Men's physical attraction to women is biologically tied very closely to her ability to have healthy children, and women's prime child-bearing years are her late teens and 20s. If you understand evolution and Natural Selection (only the best survivors and reproducers survive), it makes complete sense that those two things are tied together.
As a result, women in their late teens and 20s are almost universally attractive - guys from 16 to 60 all find them desirable, which is why their SMV (social market value) is astronomically high - far higher than men's ever is.
But it's also true that women's SMV massive rise also becomes a massive fall in her 30s, and while that certainly doesn't mean she can no longer attract a man, it does mean that she can't attract virtually EVERY man like she did just a few years before. An average woman in her 20s can attract a HUGE number of men, and she can get most men pretty effortlessly, and attract their attention effortlessly, and few young women appreciate that until their in their 30s, and suddenly they realize that a 25-year-old walks in the room and no one is paying attention to them anymore - unlike just a few years earlier.
I've equated it to trying to buy a house. In your 20s, it's like you're a multimillionaire - you have your pick of tons of very big, swanky houses in virtually any city you like. In your 30s, you can still buy a house, but now you've only got $200,000 to spend, and it's much, much harder to find something you like and can afford, and it's almost certainly not going to be as nice as what you could have bought in your 20s - and you may find yourself priced out of certain markets completely.
Of course, most women don't figure this out (or accept that it's true) until they're already in their 30s and they've missed their chance to maximize their value.
What a man wants in a relationship is different then what he wants in sex. Now what your stating is an exaggeration, but it does have some truth to it. Basically when a woman gets older she becomes desperate, her looks are fading and so she will try and latch onto a guy before they deteriorate entirely. Now that is not ALL women but that is the women who have lived a life that has not developed them in other ways.
Think of it this way, if a guy relies entirely on his looks and makes sure that no other facet of his character is developed, when his looks go, will he have any value? No, his value was his looks and nothing else. This is what many men are talking about.
If you have spent your life partying, jumping from guy to guy (relying on your looks to do so), you are not particularly evolved from a character stand point. You have not been developing yourself intellectually or creating a person of character. rather you have been indulging yourself (which is not good for your body generally speaking and definitely not good for your character/personality) which is to say you have not grown or developed at all (or in fact in some cases have regressed). This means that since all you had was your sexual appeal, once that goes their is nothing left of value.
So would a man date her and want a serious relationship? Sure IF she was more then just her looks, if she had a personality if she did everything in her power to be the best woman she could be, if she was worth having as a wife and mother. But most women who are have generally already been taken by that point so its not as common (not saying they don't exist, just that its harder to find). So that is what they are getting at when they say that.
I know men who have dated women older than them in their 30s and the men were serious. One married a friend of mine and they've been together over 20 years. I have had younger men approach me. Whether it was for sex only I have no idea because I didn't let it go anywhere. I got married at 37 and had a baby at 38.
Completely untrue. They don't give a shit about age as long as she looks pretty/sexy and/or youthful/cute
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I don't find that girl in the pictures to be attractive, but generally if one is over 30 I wouldn't be interested.
The main reason why is because I want to find an SO to create a family/kids with. When I meet them if things go well it would take a year before moving in together, then another year before determining that it would last long term, then another year to have the first of 3 kids. Taking a year off for recovery in between each kid, that means that it would be a total of 7 years before having all three kids from the time we met, and that is assuming that we could have kids so easily/quickly when we wanted to.
So if she was 30 when we met that would mean she would be 37 when having our third kid. Too much health risk to the kids.
And of course regardless of her age, if she already had kids from others that pretty much ruins her anyways.
Or if she has had too many bad experiences already and can't get as emotionally attached as I'd like, that would ruin things too.
Friends with any ex ruins things. Etc.
who gives a fuck? some men think we cherish their dicks and that they are the shit. not true. i don't really give a fuck about others' opinion. i will have what i want when i want it, with or without a man. so if i want to have my first baby at 30, my second at 32 and my third at 34, i will, and i don't care if i am married. i can raise my baby on my own. so don't give a fuck about some men's fear mongering tactics about being over 30. i'd rather be alone and have my kids on my own than stress over some dumbass cheating on me and thinking i'm used up goods the second i turn 30.
If you gave me one night of sex any way I want with my wife at 19 or my wife at 36. I’d choose 36. She has lost the “that’s degrading” thing, and has gotten rid of her thinking she’s too good to let me do anything I want to her. Her breasts are WAY bigger, after the baby her stomach is marked but something about the pregnancy made her vagina smaller so she is so tight and almost cries every time we have sex it’s like having a virgin every night. I’m addicted to it. At 19 she thought facials were icky, kept her eyes closed when I would do them, now she holds her eyes open, thought getting on her knees was somehow undignified, she does that now happily, and so much more. Trust me young friend. You ain’t seen nothin yet. Older women are amazing. Most have nothing they won’t do.
Maybe date, but I couldn't see myself marrying such a girl unless she had a really extraordinary personality. First of all, the woman in the picture is 10 years older than me, I kind of want to date someone more my age, though I mean, with statistical male life expectancy, maybe that means we'll both die around the same age. That was a joke, the age is an issue for me, I could maybe get past it, but judging from the pictures you showed she wears very revealing clothing and seems to have had facial surgery.
Yes of course, i am not ready for the phase of life she is in. She is at an age where kids start to become a thing and your supposed to be reasonably established like having your own home. Ill be ready when i am 30 myself, but for now its to soon as i am preparing for these things.
Hell no. if she had a personailty like me which i doubt and let's face it she won't so that would be my reason to not to.
but if she did she could be 40 if she looked like that and my personailty.
i would, even tho i feel like that would start getting weird one she starts to age and dies before me.
and tbh i am a bit desprate but not to much since i have standers still
The older someone is, the less likely they are to be at the point in their life that I want my partner to be.
What have they already done? What do they want from their life right now?
Why are they still single at 33?
All those are important questions that may determine whether there is any potential in us dating.
It doesn't matter if someone is still attractive at some point in their life, because looks alone don't really determine anything.
It is not a hard number, but as available women get past 30, the percent that I would date go down dramatically and quickly.
There are some very attractive, sweet women over 30, but they are always happily married. Single/available women over 30 have some sort of problem. The percent that is overweight, bitchy, with baggage, etc. goes up because all the good ones get married.
As far as the girl in the picture, she is not my type.
Who said this?
I guess Age difference is a thing. However i am pretty sure any guy around the age of 30 would date a woman around 30.
I can imagine dating getting harder if you are above a certain age, however not because you are older but you are more bound to your own home.
You now have a home of your own, a job, ...
Well i think women that are over 30 are far more attractive then kids younger. Just that bit more of lives experience makes them so much more attractive. Both my kids were conceived after my wife was 30 so not beind fertile enough is a bullshit story.
If the keys are in it with a temporary tag, I will drive anything if it doesn’t burn too much oil. But, I really don’t find high 30s as attractive as a young hormonal. The 30+s have been around the block and I wouldn’t expect her to be able to truly bond to me either. There is a reason that those looks are still single and I don’t think I would want to spend the time finding out the hard way.
As long as she's hot and kidless, no-- the issue isn't that girls over thirty are automatically no longer attractive, it's that MOST of them aren't attractive because girls are usually most attractive in the 16-24 age range. On top of that, the older a chick gets, the more likely she is to have reproduced, and most guys don't want to have to take care of some other guy's kid. However, obviously there are exceptions.
She's attractive, no question. But think about it from the guy's perspective. If he wants to have a family, time would be very short with this woman. The usual three years of dating before marriage and then two years of marriage before kids would put her at nearly 40. That's certainly not ideal for starting a family.
Some men might say that but in reality, they can’t afford to be that picky. I mean, look at her. She’s hotter and higher value than they are. Any man would be lucky to get with her.
I'm not so unreasonable as to say, "I wouldn't date her." However, the fact is, she is out of my league so she wouldn't date me. Regardless, she is 14 years past her peak reproductive age of 16 and 10 to 12 years past her peak desirability. Certainly she can attract some elite guys, but she cannot compete with the girl she was at age 20.
Well I'm younger than 30 so I wouldn't do it. There is a lot of makeup and likely photoshop going on to hide her age. Makeup actually destroyed women as a gender, they are now destroyed, good game ladies, the cosmetics industry did a real fkn number on you. Age is there to remind us that time is fleeting... and girls these days seem to have forgotten that, which is why they fuck around in their teens and 20s instead of taking life and relationships seriously
I dated a girl in her early thirties when I was 23. I liked dating her and I'm glad I got to go through the experience. They tend to be more down to earth and younger ones tend to be on their phones and apps a lot. Their music preference is different too. I just got out of a relationship with a 19 yr old girl. It was short and I regret meeting her. Women in their 30s just have to treat their bodies right and not abuse it in the years leading up to their 30s.
Not at alll i would date her even if she was over 50😅
Well for me the age is just a number the true age is defined in the spirit of the girl.. a girl can be 20 years old and make feel like she is 60 years old and vice versa
Are all men under 30 years old now? I wouldn't date her because I'm married, but my wife is 31 so I think she counts. Better looking as well. Women don't become worthless when they age out of their 20s, and that's a fact.
Men who say No are shallow. That is why I treat men in his 30s like shit a matter of principle and would not date anyone older me
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