Would you reject a woman only because of her age?

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I have the feeling, many guys like younger girls and care much about age. So my question is, would you reject a girl only because of her age? I mean everything is ok but the age is the problem. For example she is way older than you? Some guys say they want a fertile girl because they want kids but you also can adopt or there are many other options.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I would say that the majority of guys would be so superficial and reject them.

Just look at the replies of some guys here that state that by age 30, a woman loses her attractiveness and is not likely to find many men that are willing to be with her. GAG is a very good mirror of our totally screwed up society.

Men reject women above 30 at a much higher rate than the other way round. It goes to show that a number of men lack maturity, even when older.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I often reject guys because of age. I've given a few exceptions when they met all the other points, but at the end of the day, i prefer same age. If not the same age then 1-3 ages older or 1 year younger

Nice222 · Accepted Answer

My wife is 10 years older then me. The biggest age difference for me was 12 years with my ex girlfriend. To me age never mattered. How old are you? Your profile say 20.

jpalma · Accepted Answer

It depends. I'm 27 and I want someone that takes life seriously so I wouldn't date a 18 year old girl.

WalterRadio · Answer

Of course! I do it all the time.

I do not have a hard line on what the number is, because of how some women look and act younger than they are as you mentioned. For most women, I would not go out with them if they are over about 30 to 32, for some Asian women, they may be ok up to 38 or so if they look like they are in their 20's. More typically, I date from 19 to 27.

Your presumption "everything is perfect and you are really attracted to her" is incorrect. If she is too old, she isn't going to be attractive*.

*There are some very attractive, sweet, funny, intelligent women over 30, but they are ALWAYS happily married. The over 30 women who are available are bitchy, demanding, overweight, have baggage, and are sagging in their looks.

"How much age difference can you tolerate? I mean how much older can she be?"
I can tolerate my age minus 18, although the practical lower limit is 19. I am not going to date a woman who is anywhere near my age.

"but you also can adopt"
This presumption of yours is also wrong. If a guy wants kids, that means he wants HIS OWN kids. There are not very many men who are eager to raise someone else's kids. Many will do it, especially if they are divorced with mixed families, but it is always reluctantly (there are some men do a great job at this). Now that abortion is used as birth control and single mothers are accepted, adoption tends to run to children with problems, can cost over a hundred thousand dollars, and you can end up raising a murderer (true story I know about).

For marriage, kids are an issue. But anyone dating older women probably doesn't have kids as his goal, since he probably already has some. The issues with available women as they age are attitude and physical looks. This is self-selecting, as women who have wonderful attitudes and great looks are going to have some guy marry them and take them out of the dating pool. Older women in the dating pool are going to be the rejects and throw backs.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't date an older woman mainly because I prefer dating younger women. Women also tend to prefer dating older men in general. Perhaps not a lot older as in old enough to be their father, but usually older. It's natural.

Attraction is instinctive, and it isn't a choice. It can't be negotiated. You can't just choose to be attracted to something or not. You either find it attractive or you don't. I assume that you're a straight woman, why aren't you attracted to women? You just aren't because you're straight - because your brain is wired that way. Nobody could convince you to become attracted to women. Just like you couldn't logically convince a gay guy to be attracted to women, or a lesbian to be attracted to men. You can't change it.

What men naturally find attractive in a woman sexually are things that have to do with fertility. Nice hair, healthy skin, healthy weight etc. Women are more fertile in their 20s than in their 30s and 40s. That's why youth is attractive. If they want to look more attractive to men, women wear make-up right? Why? To look more youthful. Why do they dye their hair? To look more youthful. Especially older women who dye their hair light blonde. Blonde hair darkens with age - light blonde hair is a sign of youth.

For women's attraction to men it's different because you're also looking for a guy who is confident, is more comfortable in his own skin, has his shit together. That comes a little later for guys since we mature a little later than women do. Most women just don't want a guy who is less mature than they are. So that's the usual pairing you'll see.

You also say that guys who want kids want a fertile woman, but that they could adopt - most men want their own biological children. Most of us don't want to raise a kid that isn't ours, that's unnatural. Many women, single mothers especially, like to tell guys that it being the biological father shouldn't matter to us but again this isn't something that will change for most men. Paternity matters to us. Unless an older woman was his only option then, why would he go for an older woman if he could date a younger woman?

WhiteSteve · Answer

Depends on the age I guess. I’d personally probably try to stay within ten years of my own age at this point. I tend to get along better and relate more with people younger than me than older, but I couldn’t date a 20 year old right now, that’d be a disaster lmao. 50 is closer to me but that feels more like a world away, haha, I don’t know that I’d be happy in that either. I’m also just in a different phase of life though. At your age, I’d have dated a 40 year old, if the attraction was there. I guess I’ve just always felt like you don’t need to be young at the same time, you don’t need to be middle-aged at the same time, but you really SHOULD be elderly at the same time. That’s where the wheels kind of fall off the wagon for me. Like if I dated a 20 year old, TODAY, it could probably work out ok in the short term, some people might look at me sideways, but ultimately it’d all be fair... but what if it worked out and ended up a long term thing? When she’s 50, will she want a 70 year old? Not to mention that I’d almost certainly leave them widowed before they hit 60. So that’s kind of the way I look at it. If you’re just dating and banging around, I think of that more in an “we’re all adults here, we can fuck whoever we want and whoever will have us” way, that’s really just a matter of what you and the other person feel comfortable with, but relationships? It’s just a little short-sighted to me. In the short term, fine, I just worry about the long haul.

Jackpot777Returns · Answer

I did and the thing is I always went for young girls but a while back I reconnected with a girl on Facebook who was 38 when I was 38 she used to date my friend I had been in her old house and she was in my car and everything. While she was with him when we were teens she was playing footsies with me underneath the table and giving me this look like she wanted me. I never saw her again after that because it was his girl I tried to be a true friend well we reconnected started talking I started feeling something and she would not budge didn't wanna see me then finally after 2 years of it she told me her new address and told me to take her out on a date and after all that I told her she is too old for me and I rejected her. So now I know I would never be with someone my own age more than likely or if I was I would not be happy. I was obsessed with this girl but when it came down to it I had to admit to myself that I like younger girls of legal age and am turned off by most women who are close to my age. It was just nostalgia I guess that got to me.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am 64 years old. No matter how much I like a 21 year old girl, the idea that we could have a successful long term relationship is ludicrous. I am not an old fool.

I want a partner who has similar interests and goals, someone who can be happy with me on a long term basis. That means that I need a partner who is reasonably close to my age. I can still be very aroused by younger women but that is just fantasy life. When I date, I want a woman who is at least 50 years old and most likely older than 55.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

I'm not sure about all men, but speaking from my own experience, I've been rejected before due to my age. But he was way older than I was-

When I was 20, I was involved in a guy that was in his late 30s, early 40s. He made it clear he was interested in me... but refused to date me due to our age differences.

Long story short, he eventually married a woman that he said, "You'd love her, she's just like you."

So he wouldn't date me, so instead he went and married an older version of me? 🤦‍♀️

And people wonder why I'm so bitter about relationships, lol.

Anyway, back to your question, I think it depends on the age gap and maturity level more than anything.

xenros · Answer

I really am convinced younger people like to stick with their agegroup. If you are 17 and you date a 14 year old it will be weird for a lot of people. 18 to 21 is questionable but considered okay if you are into it. At later ages it doesn't really matter from my experience of what I've seen. Personally, i like whatever.

Anonymous · Answer

I think some men just like some women want their own children. My friend is married to a younger man. They didn't have any of their own children but she had a child from her previous marriage. I'm not sure if her now second husband helped raise her son or he was already close to grown when they met.

I myself have confused a few men with them not knowing my age and I know one woman who was going out with a man but once he found out her age he stopped seeing her. I don't hide my age. There is no point.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure? I think once it gets over 10yrs, then I think about it more for sure. I once had a woman 15yrs older interested in me, and I didn't know how much older she was, and when I found it, it was a "deal breaker" for me at the time, however, I also didn't have any romantic interest in her to begin with before I found that out. I really liked her as a friend, and I thought maybe we could try dating (because of that friendship), but for me there was no romantic interest there so? If there was though, that much of a difference would be a concern, but I'd consider it still I think?

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Relative to my own age, I wouldn't wanna date a woman who's significantly older than myself, because a guy in mid-20s compared to mid-30s woman will tend to have very different priorities and values and needs. I'd rather find a girl nearer my own age and we can grow through our 20s and beyond *together*. Rather than her having a 10+ year headstart over me in the game of life. My preference would be to date a girl between ages 19-25 (I'm 26). When I'm 36 my preference will probably shift upwards to somewhere comparable on the scale.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Is just my preferance, i will accept all ages but i really whant and belive older girls are bether for me, same age girl like me i will not like because i'm frustrated if she date/made sex whit an older guy, and young girl i don't whant because they have big expectation from life and are not so mature like i whante them and don't have pacient.

Girl older - pacient, calm, no expectations
Girl same age - if she dates older guy and i date older girl why we don't look for the same age? (Because we think we don't match)
Girl younger - no pacient, no calm, big expectation, evrething need to hapen very fast

camotedragon · Answer

I feel that feelings for a person are not necessarily based on age, if you get a long, enjoy each other's company, and want to be with them than age should not even be a problem I had feelings for a wanna that was 8 years older than me and I am still attracted to her but she kicked me to the curb because she is sure that with time I would want to leave her for a younger woman and the sad part is this was almost 9 years ago and my feelings for her are still there I feel like she missed out considering she married and divorced in that time frame it's a shame that age played a role in where things ended up SMH

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Age is directly and indirectly related to many of the most important qualities men care about.

1. Fertility. The fact you brush it off saying you can adopt is such a female perspective. Most men want biological children as a requirement of having any kids at all. Of those men a large amount will refuse to have any kids that are not theirs biologically period. So yes thats a big freaking deal.

2. Looks. Yes a girl at 30 or 40 might still be super hot. But we know it doesn't last forever. We want the girl who looks great at 40 but ideally start with her when she's 20 and get the full run in.

3. Personality. The younger a woman is the less she's been out screwing around. The less crap she's gone through in life in other areas. This makes her sweeter and more innocent and men like sweet innocent girls FOR SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS.

There are other aspects but here are the top 3 i think most men consider when deciding they highly prefer a younger woman.

Sub-Precision · Answer

Id say id go with anyone between 18 and 25 as a 20 year old, i just like having more in common with my partners, and the wider the age gap the less things they will remember being the same, and i know this because my brother is 8 years older than me and growing up it felt like we lived in totally different worlds. I have a feeling it would be the same feeling with a partner and id rather not feel like im being mothered versus partnered with.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Older women are generally not in the spot in life that would be compatible with mine.
I want a young partner with little dating experience, who has just sorted their life out and is ready to find "the" love of their life, because that is pretty much the spot in life that I'm in.

Someone who already found the love of their life, divorced them 10 years later and is now only dating casually, they can't provide me with that experience anymore.

Greysbritney · Answer

age matters!

if it's about like what four to five years, i guess a matured partner is a preferable option. but to marry seven plus age gap person is next to if not equal to insanity.

in my adamant opinion, compatibility falls short with longer age gaps.

DdvFzKD · Answer

1. Underage (like under 16) is a no-go. Even if she wants to. That would have a negertive effect on her development.
2. Too old does exist. I am 21 and even now I can't say I'm drama-free. Being older usually makes people more reasonable. If she is too reasonable and too careing there won't be much difference from sleeping with your mother. That's also partially the reason why I don't want older women call me "baby".
3. My last girlfriend was 12 years older than me. I still considered her to be rather attractive and she had a very nice and careing character, but it sometimes didn't feel like being in a relationship with an equal partner. On the contrary: I sometimes felt like a pet or a Child and not even remotely in a good sense. I most likely will accept an older girlfriend, but the bigger the difference in age is, the worse these Problems will get and therefore the hareder to overcome.

Lliam · Answer

Yes.
For me, there is such a thing as too much age difference. Someone too young might be physically compatible but there might be insurmountable cultural differences. Someone who is too much older would wind up physically incompatible sooner or later. We would gradually be less able travel and do things together, sex would become less appealing, and she would die earlier.
I always liked women who were a bit younger than me by 2 to 5 years.

jabariw18 · Answer

While I do agree that most guys prefer equal or younger girls, I think age matters significantly more for women. By nature women are just way more picky than men and I have yet to ever meet a woman who was ok with a guy being younger than her unless it was only by 1 or 2 years. Even still it's not very often. But in general women are a lot more picky than men. Age, job status, kids, even pets are all very important factors with women.

mrArcher · Answer

ONLY because of her age? We'd have to be talking about Macron and his wife here.
But to be fair, yes. I do take issue with large age gaps. I don't care that most women are attracted to men older than them. That's not a sign that men should marry younger women that's a sign that younger men need to take responsibility.

Cage4 · Answer

I wouldn't. At the same time, I would not want her to be extremely younger or older than me. I think max age difference for me would be like 10 years (not 10 years younger than me for now lol). I have dated 2 girls till now and both were older than me by 3 years.

curiousmanguydude · Answer

Absolutely not. I am 25 years old dating a 43 year old female. You'd be surprised how much fun you could have with someone thats a little bit older. More experience in many levels of life. Very smart sophisticated and different from most girls i have dated. I would say with age comes more knowledge and power. Well worth it dont let age stop you.

Anonymous · Answer

First, i can't date someone who is 18+ and i can't date someone under the age of 16. At least from a legal stand point. I personally would not date anyone more than two years older or younger than me assuming they are over the age of consent (16 where im from including close-in-age exceptions). But I'm young so my standards are going to change. And id probably go with as long as their under 30 once i become 18 because i dont want a sterile/menopausal spouse untill i actually get the chance to water the garden if you will. A womens appeal comes from fertility and a 30 year old is not necessarily fertile.

I see it as a more primal instinct and natural standard compared to height requirements of being 6ft.

sunsurfer0812 · Answer

Absolutely not. Now I will be honest and say that I most likely wouldn't be sexually attracted to a woman that is in the 65 and older range, but even then, they still have the same tingles down there too.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don't date my age or older. I date much younger for many reasons maturity matches up better for me and and they have more engery compared to older women. More inocent as in not been around the block like older women and she can have kids. Plus they have beauty going for them. I consider myself an innocent type of a person and that's the kind of woman I'm looking for

AD240pCharlie · Answer

"Some guys say they want a fertile girl because they want kids but you also can adopt or there are many other options."
That's not really the same thing, though.
Don't get me wrong, I think adoption is great and the people who do it should recieve all the praise they can, but it's not for everyone. Some people, like me, want any eventually kids to actually be THEIR kid.

cmagnet67 · Answer

When I was 17 I was with a 35 year old most of my relationships since then have been within 6 years apart. My last girlfriend was 22 and I was 50. We were together for a year and a half. I would never date a minor but otherwise it is, do we like each other or not?

lernulo · Answer

Once you know and love is more difficult but at the beginning... Just because every age has different physical needs, so if we go too far is very easy she begins to ask for something you can't offer.
By example, she is 20 you are 40, she will ask for going out every night, you can't follow the rhythm.
On reverse its just the same.

seniorghostman · Answer

I would only reject for being way too young. Older never been an issue for me cause I’m mature. But me in culinary classes most of the girls are 18-22 maybe. Me being 34 I wouldn’t feel right. I know I could miss a good person doing so but it doesn’t sit well. I know I’m not preying on them like a creep but it’s a big gap so I couldn’t. The youngest I went was 4 year difference and she lied tellin me she was 2 years younger than me at that point

Amaoctober · Answer

Age. You marry a younger woman and one day you get old she runs away with younger man. This is why age must not be the issue. It's foundation I can really look upon. I wouldn't mind marrying someone older than me, or younger. I would marry someone who when I come home am not thinking of going out again.

pajamasam · Answer

There's a different cut off for everyone. I dont mind a woman a few years older or younger but I'd prefer she's in her 20s simply because I'm in my 20s and we are more likely to be in similar places in life.

edendelion · Answer

Honestly... Just as long as it's legal.

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I would personally prefer a girl my age, not too older or too younger... but I mean hey, if they come across as attractive and have good personality then I'd be down.

Anonymous · Answer

Its not quite that simple. I would not reject a woman I was attracted to because of her age, but age is certainly a significant factor in attraction.

To put it another way, if I am attracted to a woman I don't care what her age is. But I will not be attracted in the first place to most women who are older than me.

I hope that makes sense.

SjE78 · Answer

Depends... if too young which would be a no or at my age then depending on how we clicked then it might be a no or give a chance

But due to things not working out with women my age but I won't date anyone older than me that is a definite

Skyrim5346 · Answer

If you are attracted to her then absolutely not her age should not matter in the least why would it matter and if it does then the door is open for someone else to be with her and hopefully this person will love her for who she is and not what she is

Maraneva · Answer

One of my first crushes was 7 years older than me she knew it too and didn't care. Just loved each other regardless.
No reason to not see someone just cause they're older. Who knows they might add a new perspective to life🤷‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

I have no idea. My boyfriend and I started dating when I was 19 and he was 33. I’m not sure what made him choose me at such a young shoe but 6 years later were still together so I don't know

Jlegacy · Answer

I have dated a 45 yr old lady and I loved her for real. So my age tolerance is 1-12 years difference.

Anonymous · Answer

Today, if I meet woman who I like and she will be older then me I will not mind to date her.

I would say she can be max 45 ( I'm 34), I'm speaking about serious relationship.

Adoption I see not as equal replacement for your 'real' kids.

Obviously younger, as long as she is legal age and grown up mentality I do not mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I definitely would. Not because I am less physically attracted to girls my age. But because they always used to reject me, when I was younger, for being ugly, balding etc. And now since I am educated, have a job and more muscle mass, they suddenly want me.

No thanks. They ignored me then, I'll ignore them now.

rex1636 · Answer

When I was 22 I dated a girl that was 44 and my ex girlfriend and I started dating when I was 26 and she was 37. My current girlfriend is 26 and I am 32. So, NO. Age does not bother me at all.

leonidas69 · Answer

If we're talking about sex then I don't think I have an age limit because it's about attraction. But if we're talking about relationships then 46 is probably the cut off for me at 26. I say probably because it's flexible but it flexes bothe ways.

HeyMikie · Answer

As long as the woman is an adult, age doesn't mean a whole lot to me. My best friend is 29 years younger than I am.

Creepazoid · Answer

although im attracted to older women up to their 40s i can't see myself with a woman in her 80's while im in my 60's. ill still date and fool around with an older woman but i can't really see it being anything serious

Iuse2hands · Answer

Depending on the those involved it really won't matter the age as long as they're happy with each other. It's all on what they're/you're willing to put into it. It can't be one sided and expect everything to be complete.

Games_ · Answer

Well if a 60 year old hits on me and I'm 18, I'm definitely rejecting.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

My limit either way is 5 years. My current girlfriend is 18 and I was skeptical at first, but she proved exceedingly mature and intelligent for her age, so that attracted me.

Intoleranz · Answer

Women of all ages can be hot and sexy, so why not appreciate that? Age is mostly just a number, and if it ain't too much apart, no big deal. ;)

Frankiealaplaaja · Answer

Biggest age-gap I ever had was 11 years. No problem whatsoever. Wouldn't avoid it again either.

Surely · Answer

Older woman are more relaxed in their ways and seem to know what makes them happy and will ask for it.
Plus, if both are STD free, then you can have bareback sex providing she is not ovulating anymore.

Blackrosezoa · Answer

I've never really taken interest in girls older than I am but there have been exceptions so it must not matter too much

Apope16 · Answer

For sex? No. For a relationship? No. I do want children though. I dated a girl 7 years older for 2 years.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

I prefer a woman at least 2 years older, but my ideal age range for a woman is around 30 or 40 years old.

Avicenna · Answer

I wouldn't go under 20, and she needs to be of childbearing age.

tyler00117 · Answer

I honestly would like all girls as long as they are less than 8 years older and younger than me im open to dating with them but to me is the thing is most men dont want to be on To catch a predator

blutwolfe · Answer

My age or younger, too many problems with older women I've encountered so I would reject a woman because of her older age

pigoat · Answer

Bro are you stupid if she is too young i am fucked my guy Don't you care what happens to me dawg?

Aethereal · Answer

No, I wouldn't reject her based on age alone. If we were compatible, that wouldn't be a problem.

Haelaeix123 · Answer

I have an age gap of 10 years as my absolute max but anywhere inside that range im absolutely fine with

ScottSummers · Answer

I prefer girls of my age and younger, iam 24 and my girlfriend is 19. Ofc i wouldn't date an underage girl.

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