Would you reject a woman only because of her age?

[Anonymous]

I have the feeling, many guys like younger girls and care much about age. So my question is, would you reject a girl only because of her age? I mean everything is ok but the age is the problem. For example she is way older than you? Some guys say they want a fertile girl because they want kids but you also can adopt or there are many other options.

Yes, i would reject her

No, i would not

If i like her, i would not care about age

I actually dont care about age

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How much age difference can you tolerate? I mean how much older can she be?

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I still dont get it. If everything is perfect and you are really attracted to her, why do suddenly reject her because of an age number? Some women look younger than they should be, how do you know her age then? Thank you for your opinions!

[SueShe]

I would say that the majority of guys would be so superficial and reject them.

Just look at the replies of some guys here that state that by age 30, a woman loses her attractiveness and is not likely to find many men that are willing to be with her. GAG is a very good mirror of our totally screwed up society.

Men reject women above 30 at a much higher rate than the other way round. It goes to show that a number of men lack maturity, even when older.

[Asker]

I swear, that is why I dont accept someone older than me just because of matter of principle

[SueShe]

That is a very good choice although at age 20, a guy should be at least age 22 or 23 to have the same intellectual maturity. Guys aged 20 have the maturity of a 17-18 year old.

[Asker]

Hm. Dont know i know enough teenie aka much younger guys who are very mature haha

[Wolkmi]

An woman rejecting for a silly thing as height? Even if the person is atractive and his body is well formed? I myself dont care about mature women, probably woman above 30 are better than the young ones, but dont say that men are screwed up cause women have more stupid standars. And some women reject men of their age and go to young ones so...

[Asker]

@Wolkmi but height does not change after you are 30 while for a woman it is literally over when she is over 30

[Asker]

But you are right

[Asker]

I am sure there women like these

[Wolkmi]

But men say that maybe as a revenge cause they are tired to listen that they dont value nothing at any age, that women are entlitement, are queens and goodesses and they deserve everything, a man who earn more than her, someone who take care or her, who do everything for her... and men are incels, forever alones, they are nothing, you constantly tell them, "what do you have to offer? " But never tha other way around.
I dont defend that shit, women over 30 are maybe more prettier and more caring and have normal expectations but men are told that they aren't woth it in any age.

[Asker]

I am sorry that you have been told that. Men are not useless or so. But i have been said by men in his 30s that they get girls so easy due to their job / caarer

[David_Kek]

That's nothing to do with maturity, and everything to do with biology. It's those who settle down with those way outside of their age bracket considered normal, is the immature ones.

[Malik00]

@kim45456 you would be amazed how rampant the idea of a man worth being completely dependent on the size of his penis and checking account really is. Cause it does sometimes feel like if you're lacking in either you might as well kill yourself.

[SueShe]

thanks for the MHO

[different83]

@SueShe the majority of guys maybe... but not all. Personally I really dont care about age that way (I mean I have my limits, but those limits are usually in regards to younger women... if I'm old enough to he her father I'm not gonna date her) age is a just a number... what's in your heart is what matters.

[SueShe]

@different83 You are correct. Every person has different standards.

[DizzyDesii]

I often reject guys because of age. I've given a few exceptions when they met all the other points, but at the end of the day, i prefer same age. If not the same age then 1-3 ages older or 1 year younger

[bklynbadboy1]

Do you reject them cause their too young or too old

[DizzyDesii]

@bklynbadboy1 i’d reject an older faster than a younger. But i really prefer same age or 1-3 years older or 1 year younger. The exceptions in the past however happened to slide past these. One guy was 31 when i was 22. The other guys were all 2-4 years younger. But i hardly do exceptions anymore

[Nice222]

My wife is 10 years older then me. The biggest age difference for me was 12 years with my ex girlfriend. To me age never mattered. How old are you? Your profile say 20.

[Asker]

I am 20 but look like an underage teem hahs

[Nice222]

Lol ok so you should not have to worry about age difference.

[Jackpot777Returns]

@Kim45456 you sure you are really 20? lol

[Asker]

But if I become 30, i am going to worry

[Asker]

I am afraid of getting older

[Jackpot777Returns]

Not necessarily because if you look like a teen now then when you are 30 you will look 20 and guys will still want you.

[Asker]

But if they know my age, they would not

[Nice222]

I met my wife when I was 25. She was 35. I honestly thought she was younger then me when we first met. She looked much younger. And she still looks good.

[Asker]

Oh ok thank you for your response

[jpalma]

It depends. I'm 27 and I want someone that takes life seriously so I wouldn't date a 18 year old girl.

[WalterRadio]

Of course! I do it all the time.

I do not have a hard line on what the number is, because of how some women look and act younger than they are as you mentioned. For most women, I would not go out with them if they are over about 30 to 32, for some Asian women, they may be ok up to 38 or so if they look like they are in their 20's. More typically, I date from 19 to 27.

Your presumption "everything is perfect and you are really attracted to her" is incorrect. If she is too old, she isn't going to be attractive*.

*There are some very attractive, sweet, funny, intelligent women over 30, but they are ALWAYS happily married. The over 30 women who are available are bitchy, demanding, overweight, have baggage, and are sagging in their looks.

"How much age difference can you tolerate? I mean how much older can she be?"
I can tolerate my age minus 18, although the practical lower limit is 19. I am not going to date a woman who is anywhere near my age.

"but you also can adopt"
This presumption of yours is also wrong. If a guy wants kids, that means he wants HIS OWN kids. There are not very many men who are eager to raise someone else's kids. Many will do it, especially if they are divorced with mixed families, but it is always reluctantly (there are some men do a great job at this). Now that abortion is used as birth control and single mothers are accepted, adoption tends to run to children with problems, can cost over a hundred thousand dollars, and you can end up raising a murderer (true story I know about).

For marriage, kids are an issue. But anyone dating older women probably doesn't have kids as his goal, since he probably already has some. The issues with available women as they age are attitude and physical looks. This is self-selecting, as women who have wonderful attitudes and great looks are going to have some guy marry them and take them out of the dating pool. Older women in the dating pool are going to be the rejects and throw backs.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date an older woman mainly because I prefer dating younger women. Women also tend to prefer dating older men in general. Perhaps not a lot older as in old enough to be their father, but usually older. It's natural.

Attraction is instinctive, and it isn't a choice. It can't be negotiated. You can't just choose to be attracted to something or not. You either find it attractive or you don't. I assume that you're a straight woman, why aren't you attracted to women? You just aren't because you're straight - because your brain is wired that way. Nobody could convince you to become attracted to women. Just like you couldn't logically convince a gay guy to be attracted to women, or a lesbian to be attracted to men. You can't change it.

What men naturally find attractive in a woman sexually are things that have to do with fertility. Nice hair, healthy skin, healthy weight etc. Women are more fertile in their 20s than in their 30s and 40s. That's why youth is attractive. If they want to look more attractive to men, women wear make-up right? Why? To look more youthful. Why do they dye their hair? To look more youthful. Especially older women who dye their hair light blonde. Blonde hair darkens with age - light blonde hair is a sign of youth.

For women's attraction to men it's different because you're also looking for a guy who is confident, is more comfortable in his own skin, has his shit together. That comes a little later for guys since we mature a little later than women do. Most women just don't want a guy who is less mature than they are. So that's the usual pairing you'll see.

You also say that guys who want kids want a fertile woman, but that they could adopt - most men want their own biological children. Most of us don't want to raise a kid that isn't ours, that's unnatural. Many women, single mothers especially, like to tell guys that it being the biological father shouldn't matter to us but again this isn't something that will change for most men. Paternity matters to us. Unless an older woman was his only option then, why would he go for an older woman if he could date a younger woman?

[Asker]

You dont get it. Every man even 50 years old fatties want women under 30 and would never date their age. That is shallow to me

[Opinion Owner]

I get it, but it won't change. Everybody when single especially wants to find the most attractive person they can find. It doesn't always mean that they will. Most 50 year old "fatties" as you say won't get a woman under 30. A lot of the time also people fall for people who don't fit their "ideal".

Most women want a taller guy. To many guys that seems shallow, especially short guys. Does that change the fact that most women prefer that? No, not at all. Does it mean that short guys can't get attractive girlfriends? No. I'm short and I did. Most women want a guy who earns good money. Same thing applies there.

It's only really shallow when that's literally the only thing you care about e. g. looks, money. Superficial traits. But in general these are just natural preferences, which everybody who has standards will have. You like hot guys right? Is that not shallow?

[Asker]

I do care about looks. I have to be attracted to him but i dont want him to be prettier than me haha. And as you said you can get girls due to your job/money. I can't do that after I become 30. Guys like beauty/youth. So you can at least get any girl you want thanks to your job while I have to lose my youth one day which would affect me in dating game while it means nothing for men if they get older

[Opinion Owner]

There are upsides and downsides to being a man and a woman. You're looking at this from your own perspective in kind of a pessimistic way, that's all.

As a single woman your disadvantage is that you become less attractive in your 30s, but your advantage over most men is that you're at your peak now. Smart women use this advantage to get a good man at this time rather than waste these years not taking it that seriously.

[Asker]

But i dont want any relationships till 27-29. I am not ready for serious shit. You guys have lot time to prepare yourself while women hsve to find someone in a such young age when they are naive and innocent

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but there are downsides that comes with that which as a woman you don't really see.

Women go through predictable phases, and what they look for in a guy often changes over time depending on which stage they're at. At a younger age you're looking for guys who are basically hot and fun. The thing is, those guys are probably like 10-20% of the male population. The other 80-90% of men are invisible to you, or they're in your friend-zone.

Ever heard somebody say that women "date bad boys and marry nice guys"? That's what this is kind of. In general there are guys who are hot, fun, exciting, but often tend not to be great long-term boyfriends - and there are guys who aren't as hot, fun, exciting, would probably be better long-term boyfriends but because they aren't as attractive especially at this stage you probably ignore them.

[Opinion Owner]

Then women tend to go into an "epiphany stage" at around 27-29, which is why you say you don't want a relationship til then. At this time they either try hard to get one of the "hot" guys to commit, or if they fail at that they then turn their attention to the more stable "nice guys" who before they wouldn't have given a chance. This is when they often say that they've come to their sense, are done dating the "wrong'" kinds of men and that they've changed. Really though they just realised that they have a better chance getting these guys they basically see as being second best to commit by this point.

The reason it's not so great for those guys is that they understand that women see them as second best. You're mad at guys for not wanting women over 30 - these guys have a similar anger towards women rejecting them in their 20s and then pretending to "come to their senses" in their 30s after having had their fun with those other guys.

So men and women have advantages and disadvantages here, but it's a double-edged sword really.

[Asker]

I dont want any relationships till 25-27. I want to go monk till that age. Haha I am not ready for that shit and i am kinda adraid of. But what do you except from young women (18-21) aka half adults? It is fucking unfair to except from girls -still a child- to make right life decisions but if it is really like that, then no young woman would consider somethinh serious with a 30+ man? So it does not change something. I mean why should young girls come to her senses when she sees a ugly but 30+ years old man?

[Asker]

"Women go through predictable phases, and what they look for in a guy often changes over time depending on which stage they're at. At a younger age you're looking for guys who are basically hot and fun. The thing is, those guys are probably like 10-20% of the male population. The other 80-90% of men are invisible to you, or they're in your friend-zone." This is basically hypergamy haha. Again i am not suprised that young people follow rather their instincs than making logical decisions. It is the same as young men who wants to sleep around rather than consider a serious relationship aka want to follow their instincs and are kinda polygamy at that phase, otherwise why are there not enough mature young men in their early early 20s or even in his teenis? I rarely see a 18 years old man wanting marriage.

[Opinion Owner]

What are you afraid of?

I don't think of them as children at all. When I met my girlfriend she was 20 and I was 22. That used to be normal. Our grandparents' generation would marry at that age and most of them would stay married, raise a family etc. Just as we're doing now. It's only in modern times that people seem not to grow up until their 30s, but then that just depends on maturity level. I think that also just says a lot about modern society not preparing children for adulthood, keeping them immature.

As you'll see from the comment here, most women prefer an older guy. That's just the way men and women are wired as I mentioned before. I don't think a young girl should go for a 30+ year old man, I think that's a bad idea because often those relationships don't really work well anyway. That's why I think it's smarter to look to settle down in the 20s, maybe around 25 as you say.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, all of this is really driven by hypergamy.

[Asker]

Your brain is developing till 25 and your personality changes a lot till then. If I was married at the age of 18, i probsbly end up divorcing him, cause my taste in man drastically changed. I start to care more about personality. And all my grandparents and even my parents are together a matter of principle not because they love each other. I am from a traditional family and divorce was seen as such bad thing in my parents generation and you can't divorce yourself even if you can't stand your partner who does not respect you

[Opinion Owner]

I guess that's true also, people staying together despite not loving each other. Really you just have to be smart about who you choose, while weighing up the pros and cons.

Earlier on you're in better physical shape, are more fertile and if you want kids it's a lot easier to have them without any complications, but you're less mature. Later on you're not as in-shape, your fertility drops, risk of complications conceiving and during pregnancy rise, but you have more life experience. There's advantages and risks in all of it.

The main thing is though that none of this will ever really change. You can't change people's minds. All you can do is figure out how to adapt to that and get what you want.

[WhiteSteve]

Depends on the age I guess. I’d personally probably try to stay within ten years of my own age at this point. I tend to get along better and relate more with people younger than me than older, but I couldn’t date a 20 year old right now, that’d be a disaster lmao. 50 is closer to me but that feels more like a world away, haha, I don’t know that I’d be happy in that either. I’m also just in a different phase of life though. At your age, I’d have dated a 40 year old, if the attraction was there. I guess I’ve just always felt like you don’t need to be young at the same time, you don’t need to be middle-aged at the same time, but you really SHOULD be elderly at the same time. That’s where the wheels kind of fall off the wagon for me. Like if I dated a 20 year old, TODAY, it could probably work out ok in the short term, some people might look at me sideways, but ultimately it’d all be fair... but what if it worked out and ended up a long term thing? When she’s 50, will she want a 70 year old? Not to mention that I’d almost certainly leave them widowed before they hit 60. So that’s kind of the way I look at it. If you’re just dating and banging around, I think of that more in an “we’re all adults here, we can fuck whoever we want and whoever will have us” way, that’s really just a matter of what you and the other person feel comfortable with, but relationships? It’s just a little short-sighted to me. In the short term, fine, I just worry about the long haul.

[Jackpot777Returns]

I did and the thing is I always went for young girls but a while back I reconnected with a girl on Facebook who was 38 when I was 38 she used to date my friend I had been in her old house and she was in my car and everything. While she was with him when we were teens she was playing footsies with me underneath the table and giving me this look like she wanted me. I never saw her again after that because it was his girl I tried to be a true friend well we reconnected started talking I started feeling something and she would not budge didn't wanna see me then finally after 2 years of it she told me her new address and told me to take her out on a date and after all that I told her she is too old for me and I rejected her. So now I know I would never be with someone my own age more than likely or if I was I would not be happy. I was obsessed with this girl but when it came down to it I had to admit to myself that I like younger girls of legal age and am turned off by most women who are close to my age. It was just nostalgia I guess that got to me.

[Jackpot777Returns]

I would say 50 would be way too old but not that I would be into anyone in their 40s or late 30s like that anyway

[OlderAndWiser]

I am 64 years old. No matter how much I like a 21 year old girl, the idea that we could have a successful long term relationship is ludicrous. I am not an old fool.

I want a partner who has similar interests and goals, someone who can be happy with me on a long term basis. That means that I need a partner who is reasonably close to my age. I can still be very aroused by younger women but that is just fantasy life. When I date, I want a woman who is at least 50 years old and most likely older than 55.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm not sure about all men, but speaking from my own experience, I've been rejected before due to my age. But he was way older than I was-

When I was 20, I was involved in a guy that was in his late 30s, early 40s. He made it clear he was interested in me... but refused to date me due to our age differences.

Long story short, he eventually married a woman that he said, "You'd love her, she's just like you."

So he wouldn't date me, so instead he went and married an older version of me? 🤦‍♀️

And people wonder why I'm so bitter about relationships, lol.

Anyway, back to your question, I think it depends on the age gap and maturity level more than anything.

[sejla]

he was a bit of a jerk for telling you that. people are not interchangeable.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@sejla Right? Why would you tell someone that you knew liked you such a thing? Oh well, needless to say I never spoke to him again. But as I said, I guess he didn't think I was mature enough for him, which is his right but still...

[sejla]

Maybe he wasn't the mature one.

[xenros]

I really am convinced younger people like to stick with their agegroup. If you are 17 and you date a 14 year old it will be weird for a lot of people. 18 to 21 is questionable but considered okay if you are into it. At later ages it doesn't really matter from my experience of what I've seen. Personally, i like whatever.

[Asker]

Would you date older girls?

[xenros]

Yeah, id date whatever. Except galls that are my mother or older jesus..

[Asker]

Oh ok haha

[Anonymous]

I think some men just like some women want their own children. My friend is married to a younger man. They didn't have any of their own children but she had a child from her previous marriage. I'm not sure if her now second husband helped raise her son or he was already close to grown when they met.

I myself have confused a few men with them not knowing my age and I know one woman who was going out with a man but once he found out her age he stopped seeing her. I don't hide my age. There is no point.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure? I think once it gets over 10yrs, then I think about it more for sure. I once had a woman 15yrs older interested in me, and I didn't know how much older she was, and when I found it, it was a "deal breaker" for me at the time, however, I also didn't have any romantic interest in her to begin with before I found that out. I really liked her as a friend, and I thought maybe we could try dating (because of that friendship), but for me there was no romantic interest there so? If there was though, that much of a difference would be a concern, but I'd consider it still I think?

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Relative to my own age, I wouldn't wanna date a woman who's significantly older than myself, because a guy in mid-20s compared to mid-30s woman will tend to have very different priorities and values and needs. I'd rather find a girl nearer my own age and we can grow through our 20s and beyond *together*. Rather than her having a 10+ year headstart over me in the game of life. My preference would be to date a girl between ages 19-25 (I'm 26). When I'm 36 my preference will probably shift upwards to somewhere comparable on the scale.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Is just my preferance, i will accept all ages but i really whant and belive older girls are bether for me, same age girl like me i will not like because i'm frustrated if she date/made sex whit an older guy, and young girl i don't whant because they have big expectation from life and are not so mature like i whante them and don't have pacient.

Girl older - pacient, calm, no expectations
Girl same age - if she dates older guy and i date older girl why we don't look for the same age? (Because we think we don't match)
Girl younger - no pacient, no calm, big expectation, evrething need to hapen very fast

[camotedragon]

I feel that feelings for a person are not necessarily based on age, if you get a long, enjoy each other's company, and want to be with them than age should not even be a problem I had feelings for a wanna that was 8 years older than me and I am still attracted to her but she kicked me to the curb because she is sure that with time I would want to leave her for a younger woman and the sad part is this was almost 9 years ago and my feelings for her are still there I feel like she missed out considering she married and divorced in that time frame it's a shame that age played a role in where things ended up SMH

[bamesjond0069]

Age is directly and indirectly related to many of the most important qualities men care about.

1. Fertility. The fact you brush it off saying you can adopt is such a female perspective. Most men want biological children as a requirement of having any kids at all. Of those men a large amount will refuse to have any kids that are not theirs biologically period. So yes thats a big freaking deal.

2. Looks. Yes a girl at 30 or 40 might still be super hot. But we know it doesn't last forever. We want the girl who looks great at 40 but ideally start with her when she's 20 and get the full run in.

3. Personality. The younger a woman is the less she's been out screwing around. The less crap she's gone through in life in other areas. This makes her sweeter and more innocent and men like sweet innocent girls FOR SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS.

There are other aspects but here are the top 3 i think most men consider when deciding they highly prefer a younger woman.

[Asker]

Shallow

[Asker]

Young girls are not innovent hahaha. They want to have their fun and dont take mamy things serious

[Asker]

Why should a young woman waste her youth on an old man whe she can get young hotties?

[Asker]

And woman also want their man great till he die.

[Asker]

A woman should face the difficulties. It seems you like to take advantage of her being naive and innocent

[sejla]

the thing is how a woman looks at 20 isn't really an indicator how well she is going to look at 40. Probably the only indicator you can go by is if the woman's mom is aging well.

There isn't always a connection between the number of partners and the age of the woman. Some women are more conservative in their interactions so be they 20 or 40 their numbers aren't that much different especially if they have had only several long term relationships.

[bamesjond0069]

@sejla if she looks good at 20 and has good diet and exercise and doesn't smoke she will certainly also look good at 40. Its no secret. But then a man gets 20 years with a hottie plus whatever after 40. If he gets with a 40 year old he's just going to get what he gets.

And of course its possible a woman could be a 40 year old drop out of the convent and an 18 year old could be a prostitute. But as a whole young women have slept with less men. If i date 20 random 18 year olds its guaranteed at least a few are virgins. If i date 20 40 year olds it would be shocking if even one was a virgin.

No matter what the exception is its not worth mens time to search for an exception. If i say in two rooms are 1000 men each. One room has guys that are most likely what you want and the other room has guys you most likely dont want, which one are you going to go in? Personally i am quite busy dating 18 to 22 year olds i dont really have time to bother with older women. And to top it off i always say if she's so great how is she single at an older age? wouldn't she be married with kids? Makes me wonder whats wrong with her.

[Asker]

@bamesjond006 have fun you Dating kids but you have to consider that human's brain is developing till they are 25. Why do you except from a 18-21 to marry and get kids although they are still not fully adults. It is kinda wasting her youth and beauty. I would marry like in my late 20s and not at that age.

[Sub-Precision]

Id say id go with anyone between 18 and 25 as a 20 year old, i just like having more in common with my partners, and the wider the age gap the less things they will remember being the same, and i know this because my brother is 8 years older than me and growing up it felt like we lived in totally different worlds. I have a feeling it would be the same feeling with a partner and id rather not feel like im being mothered versus partnered with.

[Kurαȷ]

Older women are generally not in the spot in life that would be compatible with mine.
I want a young partner with little dating experience, who has just sorted their life out and is ready to find "the" love of their life, because that is pretty much the spot in life that I'm in.

Someone who already found the love of their life, divorced them 10 years later and is now only dating casually, they can't provide me with that experience anymore.

[Asker]

You know older women want love too. I dont know but young girls would want their fun. Young people in general want to have fun than something serious. How young do you want?

[Kurαȷ]

23~30 is ideal.
Someone who just finished their education and landed a secure career and now has the time and willingness to focus on romance instead.

Older women may want love too, but most often they have more experience in that department than I have.
Some short-term past relationships are fine, but I don't want to date someone who already had their first serious long-term relationship.

[Asker]

Oh i thought you want a girl in her teenies

[Kurαȷ]

Nah, I would only date someone who is already independent, or at least close to finishing their education and with a concrete career goal.

[Asker]

Oh that is pretty fair!

[DdvFzKD]

1. Underage (like under 16) is a no-go. Even if she wants to. That would have a negertive effect on her development.
2. Too old does exist. I am 21 and even now I can't say I'm drama-free. Being older usually makes people more reasonable. If she is too reasonable and too careing there won't be much difference from sleeping with your mother. That's also partially the reason why I don't want older women call me "baby".
3. My last girlfriend was 12 years older than me. I still considered her to be rather attractive and she had a very nice and careing character, but it sometimes didn't feel like being in a relationship with an equal partner. On the contrary: I sometimes felt like a pet or a Child and not even remotely in a good sense. I most likely will accept an older girlfriend, but the bigger the difference in age is, the worse these Problems will get and therefore the hareder to overcome.

[Greysbritney]

age matters!

if it's about like what four to five years, i guess a matured partner is a preferable option. but to marry seven plus age gap person is next to if not equal to insanity.

in my adamant opinion, compatibility falls short with longer age gaps.

[Asker]

Would you date a 28-30 years old man?

[Lliam]

Yes.
For me, there is such a thing as too much age difference. Someone too young might be physically compatible but there might be insurmountable cultural differences. Someone who is too much older would wind up physically incompatible sooner or later. We would gradually be less able travel and do things together, sex would become less appealing, and she would die earlier.
I always liked women who were a bit younger than me by 2 to 5 years.

[jabariw18]

While I do agree that most guys prefer equal or younger girls, I think age matters significantly more for women. By nature women are just way more picky than men and I have yet to ever meet a woman who was ok with a guy being younger than her unless it was only by 1 or 2 years. Even still it's not very often. But in general women are a lot more picky than men. Age, job status, kids, even pets are all very important factors with women.

[mrArcher]

ONLY because of her age? We'd have to be talking about Macron and his wife here.
But to be fair, yes. I do take issue with large age gaps. I don't care that most women are attracted to men older than them. That's not a sign that men should marry younger women that's a sign that younger men need to take responsibility.