Girls, guys who can fight yes or no?

[msss98]

I had always thought that guys who fought were mindless meat heads that it was better staying away from. Until i found my current boyfriend, he trains grappling and through him I've met his friends an i can say that i start to prefer that style of man (usually super nice super welcoming super chill, i asume due to releasing the stress😂) and now knowing someone can fight is attractive to me. Obviously im not attracted at people picking fights and that kind of stuff i actually find it pretty sad, but i kind of now enjoy that feeling so im wondering if its something other girls enjoy too? 🤔

Yes

No

Other

[EmbraceThePain]

I love grappling in all its forms and will accept a challenge from anyone no matter how big, strong, or skilled they are. When I used to train jiujitsu consistently, I would always opt to face a man who was significantly bigger than me because I found more satisfaction when I defeated him, and it was a moment for me to take on a challenge and improve on my skills. There were a lot of moments of me facing off against a much larger man and defeating him. Jiujitsu has given me confidence that nothing else in my life has been able to. I don’t fear walking alone at the park at night, getting into a heated argument with someone, swimming in the ocean during rough waters, running in the intense heat, or even dying in general. The problems and challenges I’ve faced doing something like jiujitsu has applied to so many other things in my life. I feel very secure with myself and even though I may not be able to defeat every person I come across, the mental toughness or mindset of facing a challenge and trying your hardest to defeat the challenge with confidence and courageousness has been infused in me in large part through jiujitsu. I’ve done other martial arts throughout my life, so maybe martial arts training in general has done this, although jiujitsu specifically is what I’m referring to.

[msss98]

So maybe its that confidence they all have, is a mixture of not having an ego and being super nice an friendly they do bjj and some mma, but i find its a comon trait in all his friends from there and i don't know why i find it so appealing when i use to be kinda disgusted by that stereotype

[0112358]

My impression is most women like men who can fight, but don't (outside of training) unless extreme circumstances call for it.

Some women hate both, some women like men who get into fights constantly. But those are minority views.

[msss98]

Right so im on the average hahahaha, i just haven't heard any of my friends talk about it, before they met my boyfriend they told me he sounded like a caveman 😑

[0112358]

Some of it is also an age thing, like … when you were in high school, guys who were really into the bro-jock thing maybe weren't … all your friends type (or maybe they were) but definitely not all girls like that 'mentality' even if they make exceptions for the guy they actually like. So someone into wrestling or combat at age 16, it can easily be their whole thing and imply more about their personality.

But you start moving out of school, become an adult annnnnnd … guess what. Most people have a job using their brain, most people pick up some kind of workout/gym/exercise routine, etc. The line between 'jocks' and other groups becomes way blurrier. That becomes even more true as you get older have kids, most people self identify less as one thing, and show themselves more as broad people.

For me, I picked up boxing in my mid 30s.

[msss98]

Yeah i guess we were still kids at the time so lines were still present, even do wrestling and contact sports aren't really a thing here in spain

[SpacedCharr]

I practice martial arts myself.

I have been the one to defend myself and my ex twice because he was so situationally unaware and defence incapable.

My current boyfriend has a bit of martial arts background and plans to join my club when he moves here.

I think a man who know how and, most importantly, when to fight is very hot. A man who thinks fighting all the time is a good idea clearly has issues. A man who knows when to stand up for himself and others, and who is willing to fight if needed but doesn't seek it out, is a well-rounded person.

[msss98]

Thanks for that last paragraph u said what i was thinking, shame i suck at words ahahhah

[JetJas]

A guy who can fight to stand up for/protect himself then yes

[ImagineSketchy]

I always assumed women liked to feel protected... And men provide this. If he can't fight or defend himself and potentially his mate... Wouldn't you think lesser of him? Most likely.
I would assume back then you thought poorly of the disciplined martial artists if guys fighting were meat heads...
Just because you can fight, you aren't a meat head.
I've practiced Shito-ryo mixed with taekwondo for about 15 years now. It's a way of exercising, focusing the mind, and being one with yourself. There's nothing meatheaded or simple to it.
So long as you aren't allowing negative energy to overcome you and you don't go around picking fights or trying to end lives with it... It's a great hobby.

[MrKinktastic]

Guys who actually show up and train every day for years are guys with discipline/dedication and ambition.

I wrestled for over a decade and we always thought of it as physical chess, it’s incredibly technical once you get into it.

[msss98]

Thats how they all describe it more than fighting but yeah it might be more of a discipline and dedication thing

[MrKinktastic]

Yeah it’s hard to see what’s going on from the outside but once you’ve trained for a while you start to get it. It’s why I think it’s funny when guys who have never trained act like they’re invincible. No ones invincible lol

[MrKinktastic]

Rickson Gracie has a good quote about it. “I’m a shark the ground is my ocean and most people don’t know how to swim.” Something to that effect.

[msss98]

Yeah i find there is a difference between am asshole picking a fight and this guys who train, but is different to tell them apart if u don't know them 😞

[MrKinktastic]

Generally most martial artists don’t just pick fights willy nilly. Being out of control like that would be a giant red flag for me. Defending yourself is another matter.

[Pejtu]

That type of fighting is real
I do not consider someone fighter who is training only and he NEVER used any of it on the street
If u even know what it is and who/ where they are

[Maellyiod]

It feels like mma fighters lmao

[COMMODOREII]

Oh yeah in martial arts you are trained to focus your energies and to use it for good. You are also taught to not fight but to keep others from hurting you. So you do build a more calm demeanor.

[Adrian2306]

im also a fighter, all my guys are great... monsters in gym, but excelent people... my ex called me "combination of things that cannot be combined" type of guy 😅when she saw my caracter and when she saw how i fight hahaha two different person 😅😅

[abbie_wright]

As long as they don’t use it against anyone without a motive

[brigfrey25]

I am a pacifist. ☸️