Our second date was on monday, and that went really well also. I was getting all of the signs for her, she was talking about future dates and other stuff, and we had a pretty intense makeout session at the end. We also spent some time talking about sex (things we like, etc) for a while (she initiated) and also about what we are looking for, etc. Although I am looking for a long term dating situation, I also have been trying to keep myself from getting too excited with a girl I like too quickly, but I fear that as a result she might be questioning my intentions (i.e. whether I'm just looking for a hookup situation).
Anyway, we made plans for a third date. We texted/gchatted a bit the next few days, although not as much as before. I know that she had a very busy week though, so that could be a factor. We were supposed to go out on wednesday, but she texted and canceled that afternoon, saying that she had been sick all day and had to go home from school, and apologized. She gchatted me that night though. We rescheduled for Saturday. She texted me early Friday morning to tell me about an interview she had just finished, then called me Friday during lunch. I took those as good signs. Friday evening, however, she texted and said that she had to cancel for saturday, as she had some obligations (she went into detail about what it was, it sounded plausible) that she thought were next weekend but turned out to be this weekend. She added in stuff like "do you hate me?" and "please don't be mad." Then she told me she would let me know when she would be free next week as soon as she knew.
We texted a little yesterday, although not too much.
My question is, do you think she is still interested based on all of that? She seemed so into things, and I'm not really sure what could have happened to change that. Also, I'm not sure why she would be initiating texts with me and calling me if she wasn't interested anymore. Thoughts?
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ive had this happen a few times. I think she is in to you.. what she is trying to do is gain control over you which is what a lot of girls do. she wants to have the upper hand in this and the way to do it is to flake on you with excuses and see your reaction. if you comply and say lets hang out whenever you can she knows she has you by the balls and therefore complete control over you.
MY ADVICE AND PLEASE DO THIS!
when she calls or texts you to hang out please wait about 5 hours to respond and tell her that you made plans with your buddies that day and you could hang out a different day. do not tell her what those plans are, just leave it very vague. if she asks you what you will be doing tell her that you don't know and that your buddies planned some fun guy thing. this will keep her guessing and put the ball back in your court. when she asks you how it was, tell her it was a blast and that I'm lucky that I went with them. if she asks you what you guys did which she will, tell her that you hung out at the lake with your friends and bunch of there girls and it was a blast. when a girl that likes you hears that you hung out with other girls she is going to get really jealous.
this will teach her a lesson to not pull those games with you anymore. I always do this when I start to date a girl that pulls these bs games. this will put her inline and I guarentee you she won't do it again. you need to be a bit of a d*** cause girls like that.