Do guys prefer girls who have similar interests to them?

[IronMouse]

I'm a feminine girl who likes being feminine, but I have masculine (and geeky) interests - namely football, video-gaming, comics, horror, sci-fi, fantasy, etc.

I met and briefly dated a man last year who had similar interests (but into music instead of comics), and he was happy to find an (attractive) girl who was into the stuff he was. We could chat for hours about all sorts of things, even though we only dated a few times.

Unfortunately, we broke up because he had to move to another city. However, when I moved to his city later and got back in touch, I found he'd gotten back with his ex-girlfriend, who he'd broken up with before he met me. So we became friends and went shopping together, indulging our interests and enjoying each other's company.

His girlfriend doesn't really share his interests.

Do you think that in the long run, he'll choose a girl who likes the same things he does?

[niceguystillalone]

I would say that having things in common with the person I'm dating would be very important. Without similar interests we'd have little to do as a couple. If all you wanted was a person to hook up with once and a while then maybe the need for similarities wouldn't be so important, but for a long term relationship I personally would really like my girlfriend to share some of my interests. Imagine if there were no shared interests. It would be like when you fly on a plane and are sitting next to a total stranger. For the whole trip you and the person sitting next to you simply occupy your time by doing your own thing. If you, however, noticed that the person sitting next to you was reading your favorite book, you could start up a conversation and be involved with the person during the flight. A lot of couples have problems in relationship because partner A would like to go to the opera while partner B would like to go to the ball game. If you shared interests you could pick a place you would both like to go to.

[Ahma83]

Well wow, that girl friend of his is trusting :o That relationship is solid or she just doesn't care.

Shared interests do help, especially on TV and music. Domestic peace is easier to maintain :)

But there is so much more. They might prefer, but preference is only preference. I prefer short girls but wouldn't dump tall girl just because I know nice short girl. Personalities can click even with people that have different interests.

[IronMouse]

Uh... I don't know if his girlfriend knows about me. He broke up with her last year because she was "controlling" and "yelled alot", and he has let slip that they're going through a "rough patch" in their relationship. He never talks about his girlfriend and I never ask.

[Sirak]

I can't answer your question, but I am always in the same boat. I have pretty masculine interests like computer games, pranks, crazy adventures (the best words to describe them) but I've never found that has got me any closer to guys I've liked. I've never actually had a boyfriend even though I think would make a great girlfriend because I like the same things.

I can't change who I am and neither can you, there will be someone one day who likes the fact that I like the same things they do.

[IronMouse]

Please don't feel bad, because this guy is the closest thing to a first boyfriend I've ever had, and I'm 28 years old!! It took me years to find someone who I clicked with, and who liked me back. Waiting for the right person to like you back for the reasons you like them is the best way - and age may be an issue here. This man is 36 and looking to marry and settle down (his girlfriend is 39). That probably factors into his choice of long-term partner.

[AJtogo]

While it is true that compatibilty and attraction make for a good long term relationship, it is difficult to account for the numbers of couples that manage to get along quite well without a lot of similar interests.

Now that you're back into the picture, maybe things will change for him.

[WeaponZero]

I think most guys would. I personally would LOVE a girl who was into the same things I am (motorcycles, cars, sci fi, horror, action movies, video games, etc)

[Anonymous]

I think that's cute and a good combination. But you didn't list sex as one of your hobbies. Hahaha I made a joke.