What is He wanting?

Question

We are both 44. We've known eachother since school. We've ran into eachother every few years. Or so. 6 years ago we msged eachother for a few days then not hear from eachother again except on fb every yr wishing happy bdays. He hmu on msger i didn't see it until a few days later. I responded and progressed to texting. He's divorced, sent me pics of his new bike, new tattoo. We text everyday not no good mornings and good night text. He invited me down a few wks ago (He's in Ohio im in Pa) 40 to 45 min drive. I went We talked and caught up and partied a bit for a few hrs and He would say things like Im partying with (My 1st and last name) in my house. Well we went to bed. (Now there's gonna be some very adult stuff here, Lol) of course we had sex. He said at some point "Do you know how many years I've waited to do this? The sex was pretty intense wanting me to look him in his eyes whenever I "you know".. So I thought this was gonna be a 1 time thing, he got it out of his system and done. Well He still text everday. Nothing romantic. Its like friends texting. When I was at his house he also so badly wanted a pic of me on his bike (not nude). We were texting wed. Night he was drunk. He wanted me down there NOW, Lol well I drove there, got there at 11:30.. He was passed out. I crawled into bed and went to sleep. Got woke up to some hanky panky. We went back to sleep i got up, went to work. He msged me asked if I made it to work. I said yes.. why? Did you? He did. . What does he want? Im not going to be his F buddy. I told him its all seeming a bit one sided. Im not really getting anything out of this. Yeah 2 hrs of some of the MOST intense sex I've ever had (i do not mean physically intense) Also I am obviously making it too easy for him. I don't know... I know this is all over the place. But I would LOVE any input.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

"Im not going to be his F buddy."

Your words and your actions say two different things.

You say it's one-sided. It's not one-sided because you obviously went into this with eyes open. If this is not what you want, then it's up to you to make your intentions clear.

It's hard to say for sure, but it sounds like he's in it for sex. From his point of view, you seem totally agreeable to it. You need to decide what you want, and what you'll settle for. They might not be the same thing.

Tunasub · Accepted Answer

Take things for what they are right now. Try seeing if he will come to you. If he says no or makes some excuse, Ask h when and that you want to show him off around town.. if you get no the second time. Cut that shit right the fuck off and keep it moving. You both waited 2 years but he can't drive 45 min. 🚩. Don't let dick make a fool of you...

I'm out.

blutwolfe · Answer

Well he's still probably mentally recovering from his divorce, he might not be wanting anything romantic. I guess you basically have to be blunt and ask if he wants to date or get into a relationship

Anti-Matter · Answer

Now is the time and stage where we ask, instead of wasting our valuable time assuming.

Chill_Meta · Answer

Apparently that's exactly what you're trying to do. How about you ask instead of guessing what you're not doing? Why not just keep having sex until you decide further?