Guys, why do you repeatedly message a girl when she’s clearly ignoring you? I’ve had so many guys do this?

[Aphrodite801]

I don’t understand do they really want my attention that freaking much? Like I know I’m hot but dang and the amount of guys that do it? Either I’m like super hot or guys in general are too desperate.

Because they want you and your attention badly

They are desperate guys

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+1 y

Sad indeed lol

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+1 y

This question was selected great 😁

[Finchie40]

It sounds like they are just very desperate if they aren’t taking the hint that you aren’t interested,, but the thing is you should let these guys know that you aren’t interested , you don’t have to be rude about it but just nicely deny them. When a guy is very attracted to a girl and he wants her his instincts are to try to get her attention , Most girls like to play hard to get and most guys already think if the girl is so beautiful they automatically assume she has a list of other guys knocking at her door so he attempts to keep trying with hopes she will respond and choose him over all the other guys that he already assumes she is being hit on by. Being attracted to someone is like playing the lottery , they are taking the chance of winning their attention with hopes that they will feel the same , some people just know when to give up and some don’t. We are all players when it comes to being attracted to someone , if we don’t take the chance we will never know if we had a chance with them or not. It also comes down to what kind of person you are , some people thrive off the attention they receive and think their shit doesn’t stink and some people already know everyone’s shit stinks. So through my experiences it’s easier just to tell that person that I am Flattered but sorry I am not interested but thank you ,. Now if they keep attempting after that then ignore them , But by simply ignoring someone and not saying a word while they are attempting is going
To make them keep attempting Cuz they have hopes of getting your attention , cuz they don’t have an answer , it’s easier just to give an answer in my opinion , I rather be denied by someone I find attractive then sitting with a question mark on my head. Put yourself in that persons shoes , think how you would feel if you really liked a guy and he kept ignoring you? wouldn’t it be easier for you to have an answer? Of knowing if you have a chance or not? I think people that are straight up rude about being hit on by someone they aren’t interested in are stuck up assholes. We don’t walk around with signs flashing on our heads saying what are status is and what we are attracted to.

[Aphrodite801]

Again lmao I’m not reading all that crap, I don’t have to let them know shit and then when you guys get rejected you want cry and stuff smh don’t have the time

[Finchie40]

Ain’t nobody got
Time for that lol

[Rob17792]

both a and b

[Gwenhwyfar]

I hate that!!!

Both A and B are often true

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks 😊

[Jack-mayhoff]

Oh wow. Not only one but we have two holier then thou gods gifts to me. Hey girls get over selves.

[Aphrodite801]

Says the guy who probably gets ignored all the time as well lmao

[Jack-mayhoff]

Yup probably do. Lmao that’s your come back. Good one.

[Aphrodite801]

I mean look at what you said you’re obviously a random unattractive guy, only thing wondering is how desperate you actually are.

[Richyrichrichy]

The answer is both. Ever watched the nature programs where the male of the species is super persistent while the female stands by looking completely disinterested? While we've moved on a little bit and can use our frontal lobes to reason most things, anything to do with sex and all that goes out of the window. One of the number one urges a male has is to find a mate, and if you break it down to the bare bones, one who they think is worthy (attractive and healthy) to procreate with. Obviously this is all subconsciously. So yes, you're attractive... but men are also desperate creatures!

[jkm1864]

Because they quite haven't gotten the hint. I for one don't message women and I always wait on them because I don't want to seem pushy.

[YHL6965]

Persistance and see if maybe this time you want to talk. You know, the best way to communicate is to actually communicate (duh) by telling them that you don't want to talk. When things are clear, there are less problems.

[Aphrodite801]

You know we don’t have to respond to any of you thirsties right? Take a f*cking hint and F off.

[YHL6965]

I'm not one of these thirsty guys but hints don't work with guys for the most part in case you did not notice. So, if you want someone to "F off" as you said, well actually tell them. I'm not supporting these guys because I think they are annoying, but you also have responsibilities in these situations and so you can act on them.

[Aphrodite801]

Yes you are Mr. Owl. Yes. You. Are.

[FR_Ruby]

Lack of Shame I think. Also, both answers to the poll are correct lol.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

This is my one and only message to you, whether you reply it's your choice but i won't.

[Aphrodite801]

Huh? Stfu lmaoo don’t even know wym but just go

[DavidDong]

Guy got to be a bit more creative than that in the texts lol

But I dont mind a little chase like that.
Though I get the point in due time.

I think it's nice if you did have conversations with them just a bit, outright ignoring doesn't do anyone any good.
It'll boost your ego and hurt they feelings so it's not healthy

[Aphrodite801]

I don’t care about you desperate guys feelings, nor should us girls

[DavidDong]

Who said I'm desperate

[Aphrodite801]

“I don’t mind a little chase” none of you desperate guys do lmaoo

[DavidDong]

That's not desperate, if she be saying no I go
Facts.

[Aphrodite801]

What? Is that thirsty lame guy lingo?

[DavidDong]

You do you girl, I do me
Dont argue on it, I know what I am

[DonCachondo]

Chasing is dumb. Quit chasing bro.

[Aphrodite801]

The bro part tho 🤣you guys need to stop saying that to each other when you don’t know each other. Weird af

[DavidDong]

All fun and games man, I get your perspective, I ain't that

[Aphrodite801]

Nah pretty sure both of you are that.

[winterfox10]

A lot of it is desperation. Guys who do things like that are often messaging several women at once.

[Eggplant29]

If they have your number then they will feel they have a shot at starting a relationship

[Aphrodite801]

Does that look like that’s my number?

[Eggplant29]

I don't understand.

[Aphrodite801]

It’s not my number. They’re messaging me on an app.

[jshm2]

Those are usually called r/niceguys and you should head over to reddit r/nicegirls to read about girls doing the same.

[Red_Dawn94]

both options are true, you wouldn't have to worry about that from me I know im ugly and undesirable so there's no point in me even bothering

[Wise4myage]

B. Some guys are just dense, or their ego won't let them give up.

[Aphrodite801]

It’s definitely A and B, because I doubt women do that to you

[Wise4myage]

Desperate and badly are basically the same thing.

[asshole_]

they think you're playing hard to get

they also think girls and guys can be "just friends"

LMAOOOOOO

[Aphrodite801]

They=equals you. Ignoring with no response isn’t playing hard to get.

[asshole_]

ignoring with no repsonse, makes a guy think you're playing hard to get

GET OVER IT

[Aphrodite801]

You’re a desperate lame, you get over it lmao

[asshole_]

nope

I'm not

That would be you

[Jack-mayhoff]

Lmao well aren’t you so special that all the guys want you. Lmao

[Jltakk]

If you're not communicating over text, don't be surprised when someone thinks you're busy, especially a suitor.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Not with anyone. Seeking Attention is just. ... remarkable. I don't concern myself with the ambitions of childish adolescence

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That's annoying.

[AkshiJanjua]

It's like they can't accept rejection so they do that to annoy the person

[Aphrodite801]

I seriously doubt they do that simply to annoy me

[AkshiJanjua]

some guys also think that it will work or you going to change your mind. Some guys are desperate. I was also on that boat once lol

[Aphrodite801]

A lot of guys are desperate, and yikes.

[AkshiJanjua]

don't judge me we all go through phases of stupidity

[Aphrodite801]

No if you were desperate that means you were or are lame

[AkshiJanjua]

i am not lame ok
i hate when guys get judged for everything

[Aphrodite801]

Stop being lame and desperate and you won’t get judged.

[AkshiJanjua]

do i seem desperate to you?

[Aphrodite801]

Yes.

[BeyondCuriosity]

Why do you continue to ignore them instead of telling them you're not interested?

[Aphrodite801]

Take a hint? Duh?

[BeyondCuriosity]

Subtlety is not my strong suit. I don't want to guess. Some people ignore texts because they are busy and forget to get back to the person. Sometimes people are out of service and messages don't go through properly. Show some common courtesy instead of being passive aggressive? Duh? lol

[armleg]

I do the same thing to everyone, romantic or platonic. I am useless, and desperately want to be liked, by everyone.

[DanielStark]

I think the real question is why would they have your # in the first place?

[Aphrodite801]

How tf does that look like they have my number?

[Aphrodite801]

And then there are idiots liking the comment too lmaoo

[Cryptic-Game]

He might assume she forgot to answer since she didn't say she wasn't interested. I guess he never assumes she is ignoring him.

[bdawg67]

Definitely depends on the guy some want to talk because they like you as a friend or even more, and some are just desperate.

[Lucifer_666]

They probably think you haven't read the message yet. Or they just don't wanna give up.

[Aphrodite801]

I said “clearly”, they know I’m ignoring them.

[Lucifer_666]

Did you seriously give me a thumbs down? How can they know that you're ignoring them?

[Aphrodite801]

Because it tells them I’m active, and at 4 repeated messages you’re clearly being ignored “Lucifer” lmaoo

[Lucifer_666]

Well, I assume they just don't wanna give up and keep trying.

[Aphrodite801]

“Give up” like it’s ok for you guys to annoy us just because you don’t want to give up?

[Lucifer_666]

It's almost like you're accusing me of doing this. I was only making an assumption. I can't read these guys' minds. Usually when people want something they go to extreme lengths to get it.

[Malik00]

Yes this is clearly not a biased question at all.

[honestmind]

They're just desperate

[coffeewithcream]

I'd answer that but I'm ignoring you. :)

[chapawapa]

So many dudes