I have met a few guys like that. They're often the ones I'm attracted to. Problem is, I'm quite shy as well. Which results in him not approaching me (because he's shy) and me not approaching him (because I'm shy). It's kind of a lose lose situation I'm afraid...
There was this one guy who was the older brother of a girl that I played soccer with for five years. He was very shy and reserved. I had a crush on him from the get go, but being only 13 when I first met him, I was way too inexperienced to do anything about it. Even though throughout those five years I would always see him staring at me and showing other signs of interest, I was, like I said, so inexperienced that I didn't know what to do. Finally when I was 18, and his mom and siblings had moved away, and he had stayed here to live by himself (he's only a year older than me), I saw him walking down he street (his best friend lives in my neighborhood), and so I decided to send him a message, just saying "Hey, saw you walking down the street the other day. Didn't recognize you at first, but it looked like independant living agrees with you!". He responded, and I was ecstatic. I sent him a reply back to his message, and that was it. I never heard back. I was prety dissapointed, but mostly just in mydelf that I didn't do something sooner. And now I'm still stuck in this shyness rut that I don't know how to get out of.
Wow, this wasn't supposed to be this long. I guess I needed to vent. Sorry about that!
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Looks just don't outweigh personality. And for me at least, an outgoing personality is important. I have met some very attractive shy guys before. I dated one actually. And to be honest, he grew less and less attractive to me over time. His looks just didn't seem as great as it did before because his personality wasn't what I was looking for. We inevitably broke up. Not all girls feel the way that I do, but for me, looks only go so far. If their personality isn't what I'm looking for, they can actually grow to appear very average in my eyes, instead of very attractive.
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I have this 'problem' right now. I met this really attractive and interesting guy, he's really outgoing, has many friends (boys and girls) and at first he doesn't seem shy... but after he asked me out and we've been on a date he doesn't really make any moves. It is kind of confusing because he still calls and we saw each other again but I have no idea if I'm in friend-zone here or if he wants more... Maybe my hints are just very bad...lol...
By now I think that he's shy when it comes to girls like that. Still, I guess I just think if a very attractiv guy which also has a great personality makes no real moves... that he isn't really interested in me. And than that's the point were we for sure end in the friend-zone...lol @ your update. so you string girls along all the time, being a player, basically, yet you are also a shy guy who can't approach women and constantly gets friend zoned? yeah right. I smell b.s. somewhere.
Anyway to the original question, I've never really seen a "really attractive" guy who was also "incredibly shy" to be honest. The guys who are incredibly shy tend to be less attractive, or just normal, okay looking. I've seen some attractive ones but not "really attractive" incredibly shy guys.
And no, I probably wouldn't make the first move in this situation because looks are important but so are personality and compatibility. I'm not attracted to shyer personalities usually, whether its girls or guys. some of them are cute but even if I liked them, being the extreme extrovert that I am, I would think we wouldn't work well in a relationship and getting to know shy people, let alone incredibly shy people, in terms of building a relationship, would be tougher than usual.I think most girls would be okay with it as long as you eventually come out of your shell
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