Guys, what do you think about shy girls?

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Rab1901 · Accepted Answer

Many guys love shy girls especially at your age, but guys often won't talk to the shy girls because they don't know what to talk about. Also, guys are afraid of being made fun of by other guys for talking to the awkward shy girl. I'm not saying shy and awkward are the same but usually there is a correlation. That being said, let me share a story I've told before and some facts.

I met a shy girl at a bar. She was sitting down by herself while her friends were socializing. I said, "hi, what's your name?" She told me her name. I asked about what brings her here today and why she's here all alone, and she said, "My friends are there talking. I'm not very social, so I'm glad you talked to me." I found that to be so endearing and sincere that I became more attracted to her. I talked a little bit about how and why I was shy before and why I believe it's good to get out of that rut because it isn't who she really is, and she's just being that way because she's scared of certain situations. She agreed. I said that I want to get to know her more, exchanged numbers, started talking.

This is a true story, but my story is an outlier, and most guys don't have the balls like me, especially younger guys. If they do, they're usually players. That's why it's good to educate yourself. As someone who's observed and experienced a lot about attraction, I can honestly say that there is a right person out there for you, but you'll have to come out of your shell at least a little for any interaction to occur in the first place. The first step is get out of your comfort zone, slowly but there has to be a leap somewhere. Lots of girls and guys just sit there and wait, but I think that's a terrible idea.

If you want something, you should go for it. Easier said than done, right? I know, but I also know that confidence is a skill and it can be learned. I wasn't always confident, that's for sure. This is advice for the guys too. Most guys don't have balls, so don't feel offended if guys aren't talking to you if you hint at liking them. Guys can be dense too so sometimes it's better to be more upfront. Go out and learn about it. There are books and the internet to help you, but you have to go out and apply it. There are people who can help you too. It's not just going to happen in a day by the way. It might even take a year or two but start now.

Another important tip I feel I have to share to shy people is to not fully commit to someone so quickly because you obviously don't know each other right away. This can be difficult for shy people because sometimes they feel like this is their one chance, but there will be chances if you are able to truly be your best self. Show interest but don't be sold so easily. Any guy with standards wants a girl with standards. That will weed out most of the guys, but more quality guys will be interested for sure. Stay humble though. By the way, dating in high school is usually not that beneficial, so don't worry about being too late to the game. Have a nice day! :)

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Shy girls tend to not be arrogant or conceited, tend to be appreciative of attention, and more loyal to their partner. Nothing wrong with shy girls.

websterII · Answer

shy people, are only shy outside their safe zone.. key is to slip inside their castle walls.. without them realizing it. to gradually befriend them.. so slow.. they aren't even aware that their fortress of self protection is even under assault.. once your friends you won't be able to shut them up :) start with a smile and a hello every time you see them.. don't expect much and don't threaten their safe zone. positive exposure breeds familiarity.. and that can result in trust and friendship to follow. good luck cus there a lot of hidden gems out there.

Jamie1865 · Answer

Nothing wrong with people who are a bit on the shy side. You just need to make a bit more effort to make them feel comfortable. IMHO, shy or 'normal' (if there is such a thing!) is better than in your face - and I don't mean confident, that's cool, but there's a fine line.

AntoMcWolf · Answer

A shy girl? Well, it is really a good experience in a way. Whenever they see you, the way they excited and blush, the way their eyes sparkle and some even start twirling their hair. Even in the bedroom things get a bit attractive and you kinda get the feeling of doing it for the first time when they start shying away. Those are some adorable qualities. But, when we take you out to some place, like maybe a corporate parties or maybe a new pub to meet our friends. Well that's where the shyness creates awkwardness. We'll be proudly introducing you to someone important and you'll be like "I dunno how I feel about meeting them" that's a red flag. Being shy is in your nature, but that doesn't mean that you have to be the same everywhere.

sawno · Answer

I don't mind her being shy if she is spontaneous and open if she's with me in the long run and it does not remain surface level. The problem with a shy girl is that i am likely not going to have a good opening to approach her so you'd need to make sure you are as approachable as can be.

Giggles1 · Answer

I'm very protective of shy girls since they are more prone to bullying Being someone who got bullied for being shy I feel it is important for me to help others any way I can even If their shy actions don't result in outside torment I still feel protective and will view the recipient as someone I need to be close to at all times I realize that not every one needs help due to their shyness and it's hard for me to detach myself

cntrytbm · Answer

I love shy girls and my personality tends to mesh best with theirs. They're not loud and obnoxious, self-righteous or overly proud. They tend to be more understanding, more affectionate and easier to love.

Berethor · Answer

Shy girls are less likely to be sluts, unless their shyness is fake of course.

BCA6010 · Answer

Shy girls are almost always more likeable as individuals than the ones who are constantly seeking the spotlight.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

tend to be better option for dating long term. typically kinder, cuter in the emotionally sense, more loyal, more honest, more caring, sweet, supportive, soft spooking, etc.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Looking back to when I was your age...

I had nothing against shy girls. But there was little chance that I would ever interact with them. Because I was shy, too. It's like having two positively charged magnets; they repel one another.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Shyness is a socially unfortunate thing. But it usually comes with humility and down-to-earth-ness, which is a plus.

Iron_Man · Answer

They’re hard to deal with because when you go out to dinner you have to control 95% of the conversation and they kind nod their head and agree with you

cooldog980sw · Answer

Shy girls are my favorite because there's less a chance of them emotionally hurting me

winterfox10 · Answer

I avoid them like the plague. I have had too many horrible experiences with shy girls to take any more chances

SjE78 · Answer

same thing as i think of confident ones... if click i like them if not i dont bother

joenelson · Answer

Some of them are heart stealers. Others just make me smile.

AmeerX · Answer

I want to marry a shy girl. She is so beautiful and dreamy. I sometimes don't know what is her thoughts and she is a mystery to me. I want to tame that mystery

loveslongnails · Answer

As long as there's something to offer behind the fears, I'm fine with a girl who is reserved. But shyness is "fear based", so if that's a really deep issue, it will present a problem.

ronysinh · Answer

Were pretty i like thoes types of girls who shys in front of me.

HATR3D · Answer

Fucking love them and we need more because loud girls are fucking annoying as fuck and just go blah blah blah like HEY STFU FOR A MOMENT PLEASE 😎 I want some peace but overall they are sweeter which I fucking love

YHL6965 · Answer

I like when I'm able to make them feel less shy around me and it's so beautiful to see them open up. It's annoying if the shyness is excessive and they are rarely themselves with you because you feel like they are a stranger.

Glenn603 · Answer

I really like shy girls, but because I’m shy I prefer somebody who isn’t

JSmuve · Answer

I think they're difficult to get to know because they don't really do anything to make it easier for me to see if they're interested.

jenko_22 · Answer

I like shy girls. The only problem is that I am shy myself so sometimes that doesn't work out in my favor meaning I won't approach a lot of girls so it ends up being a lot of missed opportunities.

daltonpierce · Answer

It means if you like them you can get the fun of getting them to talk so you know they take an interest in you also it means your one pf the few poeple who she will tell everything

KyleC19 · Answer

I’m pretty shy around people myself and not as outgoing around others. I like people that are a more outgoing. I think shy girls can be cute but if they are super shy to me it’s a turnoff.

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Shy girls can be sexy too specially when they tease you.

Unstoppable20 · Answer

I like shy girls. I am kind of shy when I talk to girls so I feel like we would have something in common. Plus you can tell how comfortable they are with you once they start to open up.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Shy girls are cute in their way of being shy

Wise4myage · Answer

Shy girls can be very cute and alluring, but also very frustrating.

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