Guys, How do you feel about shy girls?

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Rab1901 · Accepted Answer

I met a shy girl this weekend at a bar. She was sitting down by herself while her friends were socializing. I said, "hi, what's your name?" She told me her name. I asked about what brings her here today and why she's here all alone, and she said, "My friends are there talking. I'm not very social, so I'm glad you talked to me." I found that to be so endearing and sincere that I became more attracted to her. I talked a little bit about how and why I was shy before and why I believe it's good to get out of that rut because it isn't really who you are, and you're just being that way because you're scared of certain situations. She agreed. I said that I want to get to know her more, exchanged numbers, and now we're talking.

Sounds like a good story, right? Well, it is a true one, but my story is an outlier, and most guys don't have the balls like me or if they do, they're usually players. That's why it's good to educate yourself. As someone who's observed and experienced a lot about attraction, I can honestly say that there is a right person out there for you, but you'll have to come out of your shell at least a little for any interaction to occur in the first place. The first step is getting out of the house. Lots of girls and guys just sit there and wait, but I think that's a terrible idea.

If you want something, you should go for it. Easier said than done, right? I know, but I also know that confidence is a skill and it can be learned. I wasn't always confident, that's for sure. This is advice for the guys too. Most guys don't have balls, so don't feel offended if guys aren't talking to you if you hint at liking them. Guys can be dense too so sometimes it's better to be more upfront. Go out and learn about it. There are books and the internet to help you, but you have to go out and apply it. There are people who can help you too. It's not just going to happen in a day by the way. It might even take a year or two but start now.

That being said, I believe that most people are unaware of how attraction actually works, including their own attraction, so don't just take any person's advice but there are some professionals out there. I also believe in not fully committing to someone so quickly because you obviously don't know each other right away. Show interest but don't be sold so easily. That comes off as cheap although many guys may say otherwise. Like I said though, people don't really know what they want. To everyone out there, be humble and appreciate what you have. I wish you all the best. :)

Slim57 · Accepted Answer

I don't know but I definently prefer them over a loud one. My ex was shy, but I wished she had been a little more talkative and expressive

Texaskid1 · Answer

It is cute to a degree. But if she is too shy she will come off as standoffish. Any guy that talks to her will leave with the impression that he was a bother to her.

I recall many years again college I had a huge crush on a young women and it turns out she was very shy to the point of being a bit weird. She would always stare at me and make eyes with me. I figure that she is into me so I approach to strike up a conversation. We exchange a few words then she takes off... and fuck I felt like I just took a shit on her fantastic day. Some time later she stares and makes eyes with me again. So I figure OK I will try again- same thing ; she clams up and speaks to me in a very curt tone of voice. Again , I feel like I was a bother to her. So she does this for the rest of the semester ; she stares , she makes eyes with me , she gets into my personal space , she makes obvious elevator eyes at me ( looking me up and down and making it obvious). I tried a few more times during the semester to talk to her but she always came off as stand offish. After a while I gave up. It was frustrating for me. From then on I just hard ignored her. I figured she was playing some sadistic game so I just moved on. Years later I found out she had a hugh crush on me but that she would get so nervous around me that she was just freeze up. And here I am thinking she can't stand me (at the time of course).

Talk about suck. A mutual attraction and nothing ever came of it. Oh well , such is life. 😐😐😐

MaleMan10 · Answer

I adore a shy girl who I find particularly attractive and interesting. As long as once I reach her comfort zone with me she has the capacity to open up and participate in good communication with me for the better in our relationship. I am not interested for very long in a girl who I feel like I have to pull every single thought from her mind though. A little shyness is very sexy to me. Be ready to enjoy an energetic and fun filled life with the extroverted male... as long as He is not a control freak who has to always be the center of attention ladies. Not healthy. For you shy girls, I vote, yessss!

loveslongnails · Answer

Umm... if ANY of the shy girls I've known EVER looked like the one in that photo, I'd have asked them out in a heartbeat ! LOL As I've said before, "shy" is a word used for little children, or should be. When you become adult, "shy" is really "afraid and insecure". That's not a really attractive package to me, but I always think a person has "something" to offer and the "shy" 18 yr old girl hasn't tapped into it yet because she's scared of being rejected, or failing. If I like her a lot, I'll do what I can to help her overcome that, either as a friend or in a relationship.

buuda1971 · Answer

Well the way I see it there are 3 type shy neutral and aggressive... aggressive girl will rip you cloths off you were you stand it can be a little unsettling at first the neutral girls are good just aggressive enough to tell you what they want the shy ones well they can be a little challenging but always prove to be worth the effort and with them being shy and it being difficult to talk to strangers they pay more attention too you! And that my friends is what's called the bonus plan as long as you are assertive enough to support her shyness cause chances are your going to need to make a lot of decisions for the both of you for the first part of the relationship but once she becomes comfortable enough with you that's when the real woman comes out and when she does... you better hope she still likes you cause that's when the real Shit begins the sexual fantacy and her claiming her position by you side she may remain quiet in public but the sexy whispers are a bit of a bonus!!!

charlie_all_night · Answer

I think it's sexy but how the... Do u get their attention or conversation.. Specially when your a shy guy. I mean this is easy to ramble my pov on things but in person in public I dont look at people I dont talk to anyone I dont know an ignore or make people who talk to me feel they shouldn't have.. Either bad reply , speak so softly they don't hear or understand.. Or just say how I feel an make them uncomfortable.. But shy ladies have their great qualities as does anyone else.. People who keep to themselves are higher on my list as to be a partner or friend to since they are that way dont get insecure that what I share will be thrown out to all

art84 · Answer

I met a girl who was shy and it was just terrible when we were both alone. We never said a word to one another though she was average looking at best. She would always talk to her friend and whenever I said hi to her, she would say hi back. But that's it, even on the phone it was hard. I really couldn't imagine going on date with a shy girl if she was painful shy and didn't say a word! I kinda see girls who are painfully shy to be stuck up.

I met another girl who was shy but not as shy as she was loud whenever she saw me. She would make a scene and while annoying at least she would talk to me. When I saw her by herself once at college, I started talking to her and she really didn't have much to say. I did all of the talking. It was just awkward for both of us. I don't mind awkward but don't make it too awkward. It would just be weird.

Iron_Man · Answer

I'm not a fan of them really. If you've ever seen the earlier Rocky movies the girl Adrian is very shy. They don't say that much and you have to do all the work and they basically just end up nodding their head at dinner especially when new to the dating scene. I never know if they're happy or not because they don't really say anything.
Are you describing yourself here because you never have anything to say

BarryMcKohkner · Answer

Shy girls are awesome and mysterious. There is something about them that you just want to get to know more! At the same time though, if a man likes you it can be difficult to express those feelings or want to act more due to the shyness and a man wanting to be a gentleman. In my opinion, shy girls are super hot but if you're into a specific guy and you feel like he is flirting with you and you like him don't be afraid to drop subtle hints.

sid_bang · Answer

Attractive and Fun. Great to have them around. They talk less but the magic is they open up when we talk about topics which interest them. Get that topic to make them feel comfortable and magnatic talking terms. If she is shy in bed, complement her, talk to her more, start with low light and increase the light slowly and steadily. If you hit the bull eye by making shy girl comfortable, you can make any girl like you

TadCurious · Answer

They are challenging. With very shy girls it can be hard to pick up on signals, especially when it comes to flirting. Sometimes it's harder to get a feel for whether they might be at least somewhat interested in you, or simply blocked off by their shyness. So it's like there's a barrier that you have to figure out a way through.

holograph · Answer

Shyness is a negative personality trait in my opinion, but as far as negative personality traits go, it is quite a mild one. It is pretty easy to overlook. It takes very little in the way of positive traits to more than make up for it.

I can be shy, myself, so I don't mean this as a criticism only against women. I definitely wish I were less shy (I am generally far less shy than I used to be, so that's a good start).

md170 · Answer

I guess if it was like they can't even be in a public place without having an anxiety attack... then that might not be ideal but in general shy is not bad once you get to know them, usually shy people will open up

But it's just rough because you never know if they like you and being shy myself it's just two shy people avoiding each other 😔

Therisinghero12 · Answer

They can be alright as long as they open up enough to have a decent conversation, if not then it just feels like they don't really want to talk to you, and I don't know anyone who likes that. If you're shy and not satisfied with it just try to get out there, fake it till you make it is one of the truest phrases I know.

lucas262 · Answer

I love it, it gives me a challenge and i want to draw them out of there shell like a ground hog in ground hog day.

Make her blush a bit, build her self confidence and she will be seducing me before too long. It's good to see people learn to be happy with themselves.

Red_Arrow · Answer

They are wonderful and guys usually trust them more because they figure the girls will not be brave enough to go looking. The only problem is if both she and he are extremely shy. Hard to get anything going.

Bax854 · Answer

Im totally cool with a shy girl and would love a shy girl. I would love to get to know her and find out all about her favorite hobbies, movies, and many more. Getting to part 1 which is talking is a challenge its self, but after part 1 it gets much easier. I would invite the shy girl to come hang out with me and my friends.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

How about shy guys?

iloverodman91 · Answer

They are absolutely adorable! When you first get to know one, they dont know what to say to you, but as time passes, you find that she has her crazy sides and you love everything about her. They are overlooked in the community and I personally like them over loud and sociable girls.

Browneye57 · Answer

Don't confuse shy with introversion - thery're two different things.
And social skills are learned, so if this is you then practice practice practice.
Cuz love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation.

amnesia1972 · Answer

A shy girl is a delicacy , a beautiful flower that shall slowly blossom herself in the morning sun , radiating warmth and love.
Taking each step together hand in hand , To laugh , kiss & cuddle each other.
To see her lips smile with a shy red face as her eyes sparkle with joy and love.
As you patiently share each others feelings for one another as the girl you love slowly opens her beautiful heart with you.

Brianstewie · Answer

Well... considering I'm oblivious to if and when a girl likes me in the first place, and don't say much myself... fuck... I'm going to be single a looong time... lol

DDpsy · Answer

That is not a shy girl... that is a girl that covers her nose because someone very stinky entered the room. Are you a shy girl?

md_tilley · Answer

I love them. But as others mentioned, if she's TOO shy then it gets to a point where it just feels like she doesn't like the guy's presence around her.

AndrewMG · Answer

The beauty of shy people is that one time when they reveal a secret or maybe just open up to you, and you realise you're privileged that you've been trusted with something that isn't easily disclosed.

Jjpayne · Answer

They can be nice as long as they can come out of there shell every once in a while and are able to trust you a little bit

DiscomfortZone · Answer

If it's actual shyness - it's cute. But it's usually a pathetic little slut trying out a new social pose so she can fish for some attention, and that makes me sick. I'd simply walk by her and spit on her, let's see the bitch prove it to the cops.

Aethereal · Answer

I think they're cute. I prefer them to social, outgoing girls.

markscott · Answer

Shy girl's are just as attractive as any other girls, and are often very nice to get to know.

Bwyze · Answer

I like shy girls... because I'm still low-key shy... but I do know how to open my mouth when I want something... but some girls are too shy... that they won't say anything to you... now that's scared-shy

Dolemite510 · Answer

As long as they don’t look like mulan it’s fine 😛🤣🤣

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