He sent nudes to a girl when I was with him in his apartment?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m dating but we aren’t officially boyfriend or girlfriend ( I don’t even know how to determine that) , but we have been dating for a while and he went to the bathroom, meanwhile I was waiting for him in bed and he was sending nudes to my friend ( who he didn’t know was my friend). He never told me, my friend is the one who screenshotted it and sent it to me. by the way my friend does not like him, she was just leading him on to see what he does. I felt like leaving but I don’t know if it’s ok for him to do that since we aren’t official? What do you guys think?

[Mike6884]

"Official" or not, he did you wrong. If you're dating, and especially if you're there, he shouldn't be entertaining others. It wouldn't be different if you were "official" that's a huge red flag. For his sake, you should call him out and leave and hopefully he'll change his behavior one day.

[Asker]

But what if I set my friend up to test him? Wouldn’t it be embarrassing for me

[Mike6884]

Not at all. It could've been embarrassing if he blew her off and told you about her. You deserve better.

[jshm2]

Kid, he's hedging his bets in case you ditch and dash him.

Sure, he's being an ass getting so easily caught playing The Game. But as you're nothing "official," neither of you are tied into any sort of official bond.

[iambae]

A man will let you know he wants you to be his woman. But why as a woman with self respect would you participate in this?

What if this gets out to your family?

[spartan55]

Do you really think he wouldn't have done that if you were "official?"

[Asker]

I don’t know... that’s what’s concerning. But if you’re dating someone isn’t it wrong to do things like that anyways?

[spartan55]

Uh, yeah, I think so. My point is the dude you are dating is a scumbag. It wouldn't matter what the status of your relationship is, he would still do that shit. I would advise dumping him today to save yourself a ton of stress and pain. I have a feeling you won't though.