He threatened to leak my nude?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy online for just about a year now ani sent him a picture of my boobs..
he's always wanted a picture and he was patient so i said why the hell not and sent him one

I didn't put my picture in them he said they were so big and he's sorry but if i didn't send him more he would upload them and send them to people what do i do?

my face wasn't in them just my breast
should i be worried

Its my fault i know.. him being my friend for that long and talking to me daily i thought it was cool..

be worried

dont be worried

other

[dangerDoge]

Firstly, calm down. It is going to be ok.

Here's my suggestion on what to do.
1.) Don't send anymore. Why? Because you'll just escalate the situation more and make it worse. By now, it is pretty obvious you can't trust him, right? So what is to say that he firstly won't send it anyway to people, secondly hasn't sent it already, and thirdly won't just keep on threatening you/uploading pics after you send him stuff. It is only going to dig the grave deeper if you keep sending him leverage.

2.) Realize it is just a boob pic. Ok, I understand they're your boobs so it means a lot. Rather, what I'm trying to get at is that there are millions of boobs on the internet nowadays. There are so many boobs, one cannot possibly distinguish one set of boobs from another unless there was something identifying in the picture (like a face). Luckily, you didn't show face so you are essentially safe. Showing more photos just leads to more complications as you have a chance of giving away something identifying.

3.) Sharing (and essentially extorting) nudes like this illegal so you can threaten cops on him if he tries to send them out. I dunno - you could probably reverse google search your boob pic if you wanted to and check if it was used. In any case, do you have his full name (or maybe facebook or something) so you can identify him if he does choose to leak photos? Save the conversations, get his name down, threaten him, don't let take control of the situation. You have power still.

Don't trust him for anything he says or is going to do. Don't be worried, just be strong and be logical. Being worried will lead you to making mistakes. You'll make it through just fine. :)

I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH: DON'T SEND ANYMORE PICS.

[ksoma]

If your face isn't in the picture, there is no way anyone would know it is you. everyone on earth could see it if he uploaded it, and walk past you and never know they're yours.
so in that way, i say don't be worried.
however, that is an amazing betrayal on his part, and should be dealt with. It might seem petty to do this, but if he does leak the picture, talk to his parents. tell them he was your friend, and you sent him a pic of a personal nature, and for whatever reason things have soured between you, and he violated your decency by openly sharing that private picture. can they do anything about it? no. but when he comes home and sees the disappointment in his dads eyes for mistreating a woman, and the hurt in his mom's that he would act so cruelly, maybe he'll get the fucking point that he did a pretty scummy thing.

[Asker]

well i know his brother not his parents though

[bomba78]

call his bluff. Do not let yourself be manipulated in this shitty way!
Your face is not in the picture, so you can always deny it's your boobs.

just answer him, "fuck you, I don't give a shit, it's just boobs. But if you do leak the picture I WILL report you to the police"

make screenshots of his threats and keep them just in case. If you want to be mean, you could inform him that if you ever see leaked pictures, you will be forwarding his texts to his mother (just for the fun of it) I don't think any mother would like their son to be a dick.

then proceed to block him from everything. he is an asshole for even trying to blackmail you into more pictures.

honestly though, there are so many boob pictures on the web, nobody will give a crap about yours.

[Anonymous]

Your face isn't in the picture, thank goodness. I can't believe he has the guts to threaten you do. However, I highly doubt he will actually do so. He is trying to blackmail you. Tell him you're going to report him if he does choose to post them.

End contact with him. He's a waste of time. Don't bother about him, and don't send him any more pictures. Because of the fact your face wasn't in it, you should be fine.

[Asker]

Who would I tell the police or the people who own the app

[Opinion Owner]

The police first. They will make the most effort to protect you and your pictures.
You should also notify the owners of the app so that they can kick him off. Good idea.

[teawrecks]

Your face and no identifying marks were in the picture, so you should be fine. Sucks that scum like him ruin it for dudes who actually respect women and the trust they put into them when sending these pictures.

[Asker]

right..
he messed it up for himself and anyone after him

[Jayded1]

He spent a year talking to you just to try to blackmail you? jesus christ. anyway there are a million pics of boobs out there, who cares if he shows people, no way to show its you. Even if there was, remember, if you give it it never ends, eventually he will have much more and will betray you anyway. Just cut it off now no matter what happens, block him on everything. ignore him, ignore anything he says. Threaten the police is you want, or just do that anyway, what he is doing is illegal, fuck him over.

[Asker]

i dont know whats wrong with him i actually kinda trusted him..

[Jayded1]

I am sorry this happened to you :( I have full nudes sent to me from a few girls. One of them even cheated on me and I still would never show them to anyone. That sucks :(

[Esplorare]

Get him to threaten you again and record it or screenshot it. Then inform him that your lawyer will be very interested in him blackmailing you. Blackmail is a crime and he can be persecuted. Especially if you have proof...

[Asker]

how would i get him to threatn me

[Esplorare]

When he first threatened you, was it verbal or did he send a text message?

[Asker]

text

[Esplorare]

Simple. Take a screenshot.

[Esplorare]

Don't fret. Yes, it wouldn't be a good feeling if he ended up leaking them but honestly, there are so many leaked titties out there that the odds of people finding yours are slim to none. There's a sea of leaked tits and other pictures out there which means that there will be too many leaked tits/pussies/asses for someone to obsess over yours. No offense or anything

[Asker]

Its fine I wouldn't want them to

[Esplorare]

But that's the positive silver lining in this whole situation! Even if things don't work out and he does leak them, you don't have to worry about being as embarrassed as you would be if this happened in the 90's or something! Yay!

[Asker]

I just wish I was that ok with this

[Esplorare]

It's going to take time but eventually the situation will feel less major as life continues.

[OarengeAeyt]

There are so many boobs out there. Who cares really. If nobody can tell that they are yours you're fine. Let him leak them, and if, BIG if, anyone ever asks you if they are yours,
deny
deny
deny
and never admit that they are yours. Also, that guy is a dbag, and you should totally stop talking to him and block him on all social media.

[Asker]

I blocked him then unblocked him thinking he would do it so I attempted to talk him out of it

[gaaxure]

@Asker I assume pictures were taken with a phone, right?

Deny doesn't really work if he's smart enough to check the EXIF data on the pics.

[Asker]

@gaaxure
what? would somebody really go that far

[Octavius]

Wow he is a patient bastard. This is what you do. Send him this message

"If you upload the photo it'll just make it that easier for officials to find you and arrest you for extortion."

Then block his ass. Honestly you should be fine if there's nothing that can identify specifically you in that photo.

[Asker]

i did block him but i unblocked him just to see exactly what he's thinking

[TripleAce]

Rule 101 of blackmail

Cut your losses now and dont send him anymore. The more you give him the more you risk. If the boob one gets leaked, the risk is very small vs if you send him more.

Just move on, he can't do shit

[AmongTheApples]

He's right

[Asker]

i only sent him one i was getting comfortable with him and probably would have sent more..

[AleDeEurope]

I doubt he'll do it, but you never know, so just threaten him to call the cops. He's not allowed to do that, it's illegal, and you have the convos saved, so if he does that, he gets arrested.

[Asker]

Could they even find him I have pictures of him so I think they could

[Quelled]

Some Skype user recorded a video of me masturbating. She posted it online and sent it to everyone on my Facebook friends list. The video got removed, but I think some people saw the video before it got removed. No one ever mentioned it, though. I'm done with online dating. If I was a regular human, I would've been embarrassed, but nothing embarrasses me anymore.

[Quelled]

She tried to extort me with the video, lol.

[Asker]

Wow..
Did you call the police or something

[RainbowFanGirl]

You're good as long as your face wasn't shown in the pic. :p

[Asker]

This is like my worst nightmare

[RainbowFanGirl]

Don't worry too much about it. If he tries anything you can report him to the athorities.

[DBAOracle]

Don't worry at all. It didn't have your face.
1) He can't prove this is you, anyone can claim that any picture with a similar cup size as you is you.
2) Warn him that you'll contact the police if he doesn't stop blackmailing and keep all evidence (text messages.. etc.)

[Goran_]

Don't be worried. If its just your tits in the picture, deny the picture being you and call him a crazy pervert. Try ignoring him and only stick to calling him a crazy pervert, it'll ruin him.

[Asker]

I don't want it to look like I'm really upset about it.. That will let people know they're mine

[Dtegesd123]

Even if he does show your family members. is it really a big deal? Its just a picture of your boobs right.

But yeah, how would he find your family members anyways and why did you guys talk for 1 year and not meet up already?

[Asker]

i have him added on twitter i wasn't really dating him an didn't want to we just talked he asks about my boobs like evry week
this week he asked and i was like... i known this guy for a year he's been asking ill just send him one f it.. and then he threatened me

[MyUsernameRules]

You can threaten him by saying that you'll report him to the authority. Say that you screen shotted the messages as proof.

[MyUsernameRules]

Proof of blackmail

[Asker]

i could do that
but my nudes he could still upload them

[MyUsernameRules]

True, but he'll be scared to upload because he could get in real trouble. I doubt he would really risk getting in trouble just to see more nudes. And if he really is stupid enough to do that, you can always say the pic isn't yours since your face isn't in the picture. That the guy is just a creepy psycho who is obsessed with you.

[Esplorare]

Great minds think alike. ;)

[xXiTacoXx]

What have we learned today kids? Yeah that's right. Don't do stupid shit if you know there's going to be consequences.

[Reginelli]

Since your face not in them I don't think you should worry. That's just so dirty by him to act like your friend then do that.

[Asker]

I bet he does it for a living..

[Reginelli]

Yea he probably does when he doesn't get exactly what he wants.

[ShaeNielson]

Tell him you don't give a shit and then laugh about it and deny it being your boobs if they're leaked. Even better tell him you'll leak them yourself. And of course turn him into the police.

[Asker]

but if i say that couldn't he screenshot it and claim i did it to get him introuble

[ShaeNielson]

No it's a felony if he does it no matter what, not if you do it.

[OverTheHill]

Dont fret. You are unrecognisable if your face is not in the pic. Just ditch him big time! What an arse. delete him!!!

[James0]

I don't think :/ we ever find you with just that pic don't worry

[Asker]

yeah but people around me
family and stuff my recognize the setting..

[xXiTacoXx]

He doesn't have to find her. He just has to know her name and catch her/her family through social media. The girl is fucked.

[James0]

Ah :/ wait does he know your family O. o if not just change your settings

[James0]

@xXiTacoXx I never knew that...

[xXiTacoXx]

Even changing settings doesn't always work.

[xXiTacoXx]

Some people have been harassed like that to the point of suicide. She could literally be fucked in more ways than one if it gets way out of hand.

[James0]

@xXiTacoXx this is very bad...

[bomba78]

@xXiTacoXx only if she let's him take the upper hand. I would threaten him with consequences and then, just in case, have a family meeting informing your parents/siblings of what is going on. It's just boobs for christ sake. Nothing to be popping a bullet over. It is only as big of a deal as she makes it. She can also directly go to the police. He will only win if she let's him.

[xXiTacoXx]

@bomba78 It may be boobs but it's something she could possibly lose her credibility and her job over, it'd also be hard for her to find other jobs if her job is put in jeopardy. She could also be harassed to the point of no return.

[bomba78]

@xXiTacoXx there is no face in the picture. she can deny everything

[xXiTacoXx]

@bomba78 She can deny it, but the fact that she was even put into such a situation can affect how employers and other people see her.

[Iron_Man]

He could put your nude pics up even though there was no face pic then he could find another pic of your face only and put it all on there saying this is the girl and this is what she looks like nude. The bottom line is never send nudes out to anyone.

[oldanddecrepid]

You can go to the cops and they can find him via his computer. They have a whole division of that in most larger city police departments.

[Roadcruiser1]

Be worried. You should call the police. This is a crime, or a felony in some places. He should really be behind bars, and screw your friendly feelings towards him. It is illegal dear for him anyways.

[Asker]

Were not friends anymore he ruined that

[Roadcruiser1]

Yeah though I recommend someone knowingly urgently call police.

[Robbey]

Let him threaten you again and take a screen shot and contact the fbi

[bomba78]

the FBI over a tittie pic? lol

[Robbey]

@bomba78 " if i didn't send him more he would upload them and send them to people" that's more than just a topless photo, it's blackmail.

[bomba78]

yeah sure, but the FBi, as in Federal Bureau of Investigation? the domestic intelligence and security service of the United States? You think the FBI cares about Tittie pictures?

If anything she has to go to the police plus sue him.

[Robbey]

Unless, he lives in the same state; the local police won't be able to do much. The FBI are the de facto federal police and cyber bullying is their provenance. And the issue isn't a picture, it's maliciously threatening and harassing someone online, which is a felony.

[gaaxure]

What's to stop him from posting the pictures after you send him more?

[Asker]

i wasn't going to i was just trying to talk to him and tell him how much of a bad idea it was

[jokersgirl]

No one knows that it's you unless you say so. You're face is not shown. DO NOT SEND MORE!! Just delete him forget about him.

[apple24]

I would leave a guy if he was forcing me to do something like that!

[Asker]

no we weren't dating he's awhile away from me and i told him im not good with the long distance thing

[JetPack00]

Say that you're underage and say that you're calling the cops.

[Asker]

Lie and tell him I'm like 16?

[jakeofalltrades]

first stop talking to this guy, second if your face isn't in it don't worry about it, no one will know it is you

[Asker]

im just talking to him making sure he hasn't uploaded anything i did mention the police

[jakeofalltrades]

that is a good way to go

[Anonymous]

don't ever send nudes EVER again. Block him and report him immediately and don't send him anymore

[Asker]

im not... he ruined that.

[Anonymous]

Do you have his name and address?

Does he have yours?

[Asker]

no i wouldn't give him my address
he knows my name though

[Opinion Owner]

You know his? Guessing no.

Anyway, he's an asshole, do not send him more. Worst case, a picture of your breasts floats around that nobody actually knows are yours. (They probably look good anyway, so there's no reason to be embarassed :p_

If he actually posts them somewhere, see if the police can trace the ip that posted them. If they can, sue his ass.

Close to where I live, a guy recently got his ex to send him nudes, then posted them. She sued. Judge ruled in her favor, $100,000 fine. Guy is in school still, he's been ordered to pay $1000 a month to her for the next 9 years. :D

[MichaelJoseph89]

Deny it's you or sue him. It's illegal for him to post it.

[Asker]

sue him?

[Omar5881]

Well worrying won't really help , and that's why it's wrong to share nudes

[JetPack01]

Tell him you're actually under age and that you're calling the cops.

[Anonymous]

I've made threats. but id never do it!

thats fucked

[Asker]

you've done this?

[Opinion Owner]

Done what

[Anonymous]

He can't prove whose boobs they are even if he shares them so I wouldn't worry since your face isn't in it

[creamylover]

If he can't see you face, then no worries.. Block him on all apps you use

[actualSatan]

Post it yourself and tag his mother.

[UhDopeDude]

If he does it you can sue