My male friend sent me nudes. I blocked him. Shall I tell my boyfriend about that?

[Anonymous]

So i had this virtual male friend- he sent me nudes i blocked him immediately without saying anything- i told my boyfriend about it but I didn’t say he sent me nudes i just said” this guy told me inappropriate stuff and i blocked him” my boyfriend is unbothered by these topics like he doesn’t care and he also said that to me- and he told me other girls also tell him they like him and stuff but he just nicely tells them he has a gf- im not sure if I should tell my boyfriend about the image- since he said it’s unnecessary to talk about these to him- plus im afraid bcz this guy sends my boyfriend in social media- i don’t think he will but just anxious about it also I didn’t say anything when he sent a pic so I don't know i was already suffering from a lot of issues now i have to deal with this I really can't think anymore can anyone help me 🥹

[Anonymous]

Alright a few points here:

• this is your “virtual friend”. Unless you met him in real life then he is not nor will ever be a real friend. Different story if you knew this guy in person and he later did something like this via social media. But ladies quit equating “virtual” friends to real life friends. Just not the same nor ever will be. There can be some connection/value there but it’s not the same as in real life interpersonal communication.
• just curious if there was any conversation that lead up to him sending the d pics. I doubt you sent him anything (hopefully). But was there any suggestive conversation that lead into that? It’s possible he is one those creeps that get off on sending girls d pics unsolicited. For the life of me I don’t understand why some guys do that. The chances of them actually getting the girl to meet up and having a hook up are slim to none w/ that approach. Even if she’s local and she sent nudes first the reality is most women are content with the “tease” and virtual safety barrier. But some guys got this creepy exhibition fetish with sending that crap unsolicited. If he is one of them don’t respond back. Just block him. Don’t encourage that bs.
• Most guys are not interested in just being “guy friends” with women they approach or especially directly connect with online. Even if they know you are taken there is usually an agenda somewhere. Exceptions do exist. I connected with a younger lady on GAG who gave me moral support when I was struggling with a bad addiction and overcame it. She was there for me at a very dark time and I definitely love and appreciate her as a person. But even with her there was some sexual innuendo in the beginning. Not any more now but there was at one point.
• Does this guy know where you live? Does he have your phone number? Does he even know your full real name? If the answer is no to all of that then what was the point of telling your boyfriend (especially if you hopefully don’t want to continue communicating with that guy)? Do you enjoy drama? Do you want to see “how much your boyfriend loves you” by seeing him get angry, upset and jealous (that is shit testing) Your boyfriend respond to that very maturely and well. He could have assumed the worst about how that went down but he didn’t. But do you find “jealous and possessive” men attractive? If yes, that’s more of a you problem then a him problem

Ladies for love of God just accept that no man is going to approach you in person or privately DM “just to be friends”. Exceptions exist if a good hearted guy wants to help you with situation but that is rare. 9 times out of 10 he’s interested (to a certain extent) and you need to ACCEPT that. Not saying his d pics were alright. That was stupid and creepy. Especially if unsolicited.

But no man is going to waste his time becoming “just friends” with you. He might be curious (I admit I was with the younger woman I became friends with) or flat out have the hots for you. But he’s a man. Not one of your platonic “girlfriends”. You NEED to accept that. Just quit the naivety.

[Opinion Owner]

Just re read what you said. Glad you blocked him. Keep him blocked. He needs negative reinforcement to teach him a lesson not to send that crap unsolicited.

Also saw you haven’t told your boyfriend yet. I recommend not telling him anything. He might suspend the worst. There is no point.

Also some of this responsibility lays on you tbh. You got to quit being to so naive about guys just wanting to be “your friend” when you connect with them. As I explained above that’s rarely the case. It’s a waste of time for men to connect with women who are unavailable and/or not interested in them when they themselves are interested in the woman. He was interested in you from the start.

[Opinion Owner]

*suspect the worst.

[Asker]

Yeah so true thanks alot- no I didn’t said anything that will make him to send such a thing- and he knows how religious iam - i learned from this to not make male friends

[Davey88]

I'm the same of your boyfriend and you amd my wife are too...

Firstly, i learn by someone that honestly comes with forgiveness and compassion but jealousy destroy everything.

If honestly is something you judge important, you shouldn't came with when you must be and when you shouldn't.. splitting honestly in 2.. only leave a huge gap to interpretation and insecurities. I definitely highly esteem a girlfriend telling me her true feelings about everything than getting anxious by the "WHAT IF". at the end if your partner told you something you don't like, it on you to decide what you will do..

When you fully thrust your partner and how much he love you, thrusting him and how he will react by hearing something bad.. thrusting is comprehension without blaming you back.. that level of honesty has to be admirer and not judged as weakness.

[Mamaliv]

You blocked him, I think that’s enough. No need to keep bring it up and adding more to the story, that’ll just create more questions in my opinion. When my ex would go on and on about what women said to him that always made me begin to think there was more or that he enjoyed it and was now trying to make me jealous. Tell me you talked to the girl, that she said some things that made you block her and leave it at that. I don’t want details, cause that’s where I’ll start getting bothered.

[Screenwriter]

You don't need to tell your boyfriend. You've done what you need to. He has to realize that you blocked him after he sent you the nudes.

I'm sure this guy won't say, hey, I sent some nudes to your girlfriend for her opinion and she's blocked me! I'd think that'd be pretty embarrassing for him.

Relax. There's nothing to deal with. He can't contact you and he won't contact your boyfriend because of his stupid goof.

[Rei13]

If it will make you feel better tell your boyfriend about it since it is bothering you, however I think the way you handled it was fine. He acted inappropriately to you, you blocked him, and you told your boyfriend that he did something inappropriate. That is generally how I handle situations like that and if my boyfriend asks for specifics I’ll tell him

[Ozanne]

You've handled the situation perfectly. You blocked, you explained to your boyfriend you received something inappropriate. Leave it at that. No need to get in to some detail of what happened. It happened, and you dealt with it. Your boyfriend seems very mentally mature to trust you handled it well and you did. He doesn't care. This person does NOT matter to you or your boyfriend and you've eliminated the problem. No need to dwell on things on how to further explain what the problem was.

[Sonorous]

I think this stuff can be handled privately. Just maintain the cut ties with the guy & all will be well.

[AviatorTom]

You felt you needed to tell him, and you did, that's good. Speaking as a guy, we don't need unnecessary details. Tell him they were nude pics of you want, but there's really no readin to.

[ShadowYamihiro]

Honestly its up to you, but just in case your boyfriend is of a short temper you should keep it to yourself, if that friends of your tries to hit on you tell him to f off, don't be polite with peeps like that. sending you nudes knowing you are in a relationship and you aren't hooking up with him he doesn't deserve kindness after that. If he still doesn't leave you alone after that then ofc tell you boyfriend and let him handle it, one way or another, you deserve to be safe from creeps

[Huntingnfishin]

Just keep it to yourself. If you call the guy out on it he will just claim he sent them to the wrong number. And no guy is dumb enough to tell your boyfriend that they sent nudes to another guys girlfriend. You're fine. Just let it go and no one's the wiser

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't understand the issue? You blocked the guy. Who cares if he sent you nudes? If your boyfriend asks about, just tell him that you blocked the guy after you got the picture.

You're solid and you can prove it. No need to worry.

[Anonymous]

Girl, firstly did you use to sext to this guy? If yes break up otherwise tell him the truth. If your boyfriend doesn't believe you after telling the truth or after trying to convince 2/3 times then also it's good to leave. It would be the best if you have proof of your chats. Don't worry if you have not done anything wrong girl.

[Asker]

No we were just friends and never used any type of intimate words with him

[Asker]

I deleted the chat :(

[Asker]

🥲**

[Opinion Owner]

So don't worry u haven't done anything wrong. Without worrying just tell him the truth. Even if the other guy has the chats it won't do any bad to you coz you didn't lie to your boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

But he may doubt if you deleted chats. If he doesn't believe you after convincing him many times break up with him. But be at peace that you did nothing wrong.

[genericname85]

i'd tell my boyfriend what happened just in case... cause what if the fact that this guy sent you nudes that you deleted is somehow brought to your boyfriends attention? you'd have a more difficult time explaining than if you pre-emptively just told him about what happened.

[Yannae]

I would tell him, because the male friend also messages your boyfriend. If your boyfriend considers him a nice guy or even a friend, he is getting betrayed and you have the proof to show your boyfriend that he is wrong about this guy. Because that friend must clearly know that you are in a relationship and he still sent you nude pictures which is very disrespectful and deceitful towards your boyfriend. I wouldn't want to be friends with a man who disrespected you and our relationship like that.

[Frank62]

It would seem your male friend had a different agenda towards your friendship , obviously not just friends. Seems like you did the right thing in blocking him.

[DizzyDesii]

No you explained that he was inappropriate. No need to go into detail unless your man asks

[HelpfulWoman]

If you have to really stop and worry about telling him something like this when you've blocked him etc, then that is a red flag you're ignoring. You should be able to say literally anything to your partner?

[WhitneySnow]

You did the right thing blocking him. You already told your boyfriend you blocked the guy because he said inappropriate stuff to you. No need to specify it was a nude unless your boyfriend asks.

[jshm2]

Why? So you both can masturbate over them?

Joking aside, people have a right to be stupid at least once. He was stupid, and so were you. If he continues to pester, is when you take it seriously.

[boggboss]

Not sure why u didn't tell him in the first place now it will look weird but then not saying it if it ever came up will look shady

[Asker]

He wasn’t curious enough to ask about it- also I couldn’t think enough

[boggboss]

Why would he need to ask about it u should have told him

[Asker]

Coz he told me he doesn’t care about it and he is really not curious so I just kept it

[boggboss]

Lol so then don't tell him about it why are u doing mental gymnastics when he pretty much told u he dont care about it

[Doesitreallymatter2u]

I know I would care and want to know everything and I'm not insecure at all. Sometimes it's just reassuring to know that your girlfriend want to tell you everything. I do live by my own advice that I give.

[soe11]

• You did appropriate thing (block)
• You should not tell your boyfriend.
• It's will be complicated.

[Unit1]

You handled it well. It's all good.

You may tell your boyfriend if you like. It's all up to you.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes you need to tell your boyfriend. You did the right thing to block him so you dont need to feel guilty. Its your previous now male friend that should feel shame