Would you ever hit a woman if she hit you first? (Page 2)

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In fact my question is of a psychological nature. Lately I had many fights with my ex. My ex-husband! We divorced three months ago so our wounds are fresh, because I guess we are still in love with eachother. Ironically, I know.. Anyway recently we got in a big fight because of something I did. We both were very angry and frustrated. He raised his voice and I slapped him once. He raised his hand to slap me back but instead he pushed me and tried to walk away. I put myself in front of him and tried to slap him again. Next I was watching him unbuckling his belt followed by a loud snap as he pulled it off. That noise made me froze. I couldn't talk, I couldn't move. I was just shocked. He put me over his knee and he started to hit me really hard with that thing. Never laid a hand on me before, so I was trying to talk him out of doing that to me. It hurt and I cried. Hell, I begged him to stop it and well that was not a succesful request. Eventually he stopped and I realised I was so turned on. When I turned around to face him I saw tears in his eyes. Immediately I kissed him and that was the beginning of the best sex we had in years. I feel miserable and I feel like my mind is so sick for doing that. Am I bipolar? Do I need therapy..

Maelisarbb · Answer

I think real life is just not like soap opera. Women cannot hit men and think they can get away with it. It's physical abuse. In my family we were always told not to do anything you don't want to be done to yourself.

Well... unless you kinky weirdos agree beforehand to it

Kiss_Me · Answer

Two things:
1. Women love powerful men. He took charge and refused to continue arguing. He also chose not to HIT you but treat you like the child her perceived you to be acting like and spanked you.
2. You like to be spanked. :)

lookingforsomereal · Answer

I would defend myself, but only with necessary force. If she punched me really hard with the intention to harm me, Then I will punch you back. I don't put up with abuse, and if you come at me full force, I will not shy away from kicking your ass. sorry, but I'm a feminist, and believe in equal treatment of men and women. f*** around and find out.

Anonymous · Answer

You're lucky he flipped you over and took it out on your ass. I would have slapped you back immediately, full force. And I would encourage any man to do the same. We men need to put an end to the expectation that women can assault men and get away with it simply because they are women.

Anonymous · Answer

You chose to hit him. Accept the consequences. Keep this in mind, no matter how angry i am with someone i will never inflict physical harm. the moment they lay a finger on me all bets are off. Were i in his shoes i would not have used my belt, i would not have pushed you, I would have knocked you out and left.

Bram852OOO · Answer

I have 6 years expirience in self defence sport. Woudnt hurt them back but probaply defend and hold them on the ground till she stops or walk away after.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

... so... What you discovered kink for the first time with your ex-husband? Were... Did you only do vanilla before? What is even the question here?

wilsongreene · Answer

It depends on more than just being hit, read up on how self defense laws are interpreted and you'll have your answer.

This is a leading question, you're actively, purposefully or not, trying to get people to sound as if they are bad because they would hit a woman. It depends on context of what happened that makes it ok.

8lutty · Answer

u can start to liking it and everything is fine... unless u keep thinking it is bad, and yet still love it, then it could cause sthing bad later, so dont do that. either love it or hate it, dont go iinto the field of doubt.. u will regret it later like me...

That1tallguy · Answer

I feel like this story is a scene you see in a porno. The dude gets mad so he spanks you as punishment then end up fucking. You making this up? 🤔

MrMilti · Answer

No, I will never use force to hurt anybody, but I know how to defend myself. I think, people only use violence to prove their point, when they ran out of arguments.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

In general, I think I'd hit anyone back, if they hit me, gender is irrelevant.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly if she hits me, I'm hitting her back, if that makes me sound bad then so be it, if women don't want to be asosiated as weak then she going to get the same as she give me.

I'd never raise my hand ever if I didn't have too and to this day I never have but I'm not going to stand there and take physical abuse.

slatyb · Answer

Unlikely unless I was worried about my safety. My first instinct would be to exit, same as if it were a man.

Angelo75 · Answer

Therapy... maybe. Bipolar? Don't think so. I would tell both of u to go to a therapy together. Since u talk about "best sex in years". It helped the hell out of my marriage.

JackSmy · Answer

She could slap me once, and after that, it is OVER!  Physical ABUSE is NEVER acceptable, to anyone!! Women can be abusers too!

Reaperbot666 · Answer

only in self defense when I had no other option. because it seems like her intent is to seriously harm / kill me

scholastic_vibez · Answer

No because before my mother died she made me swear to never hit a woman, and I never have.

boomboomtown01 · Answer

people get into the spanking etc. personally i will never hit a woman  even if she hit me first. even if i was furious  if you guys are into it. i am not going judge. people like different things.

Guanfei · Answer

Yep, I would. From the moment you physically attack me, you're not a woman, but an attacker and I'll defend myself with full force if necessary.
After all you wanted equality, I'll treat you as I'd treat anyone else.

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