Guys: would you hit a girl if she hits you first?

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You are fighting with a girl verbally and she attacks you, punches, kicks, scratches you etc, would you still hold up the "I'd never hit a girl" thing some guys believe so deeply in, or would you hit her back? A good friend of mine, her boyfriend got into a fight with his ex, and she attacked him brutally while he just took it and didn't hit her back. He's covered in bruises and deep scratches. I think it's ridiculous! If someone hits you, you need to be able to defend yourself. It doesn't matter if it's a girl, she should be able to judge who she is attacking and realize that she may get beat up too.

EPhantom · Accepted Answer

Depends on the girl and her size and what not. In my mind, all situations, for male or female, can be broken down with a few basic rules.

1) Do the least damage possible to the person.

2) If possible pin/tie up the aggressor.

3) If physical harm must be used, the main goal is to now simply end the situation by "disabling" the aggressor, primarily by attacking limbs and pressure points.

4) If the aggressor has a weapon the goal is to remove it, if this is not possible then disabling/damaging the wielding arm/hand is acceptable.

5) If the aggressor is threatening to kill someone and capable of doing so the above rules will be considered, but everything gets thrown out the window if need be and I shall have NO remorse for any actions I take.

I decided to make this little list because of my mother and father. My father got my mother into drinking alcohol and she became very violent. One day she took the "cleaning" part of nail clippers and ripped my fathers arm open.

Male or female doesn't make very much difference to me, the only difference is that guys are generally stronger, but everyone is human. Humans are all capable of being insane, capable of being a killer, and therefor should be punished the same.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My father used to abuse my mother and us kids. I said I would never hit back. I dated an abusive woman and I swore I would never hit her no matter what. She was built like a gymnast and super strong. She shattered my kneecap once. She broke my finger once. I finally got her out of my home (which she eventually burned down). One time when she broke in after I kicked her out she attacked me. She hit me maybe 10 times. I snapped. I threw her to her knees and punched her once in the head. I broke her eye socket her nose and her jaw. I was sick to my stomach from it. I don't ever want to hit a woman again. I did not get into trouble from it but the site was horrible. She almost bled to death. It actually would of been better if she did. She eventually put her next boyfriend in a coma with a baseball bat. He is basically retarded now. Oh and she got away with burning my house down too-long long story of the southern justice system. If you are a man in the US you basically have no right to protect yourself and the female can do as she pleases to you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, men on average are physically stronger than women. A man should only need to restrain her and hold her down until she's tired out, or gives up enough to be released. It's not like many women are able to do the same when a man comes barreling down at her.

On another note, a man may not always be stronger than the aggressor female, and probably risks getting seriously injured or even killed if she's a real psycho. If you, man or woman, think your life is in danger, you have a human right to defend yourself.

MY personal belief is that if a woman is ballsy enough to attack a man physically, then she'd better have the brains to expect that he MIGHT attack back. I've seen too many women go throwing her stupid fists at a man, get knocked on her butt, and then run around crying to everyone 'he hit me, boohoo!'. I always shake my head when I see that sh*t, because a lot of women seem to try to take advantage of the 'men should never hit a woman' saying, running around trying to guilt people to her aid. If you're gonna hit a man, EXPECT to be hit back. No smart person starts a fight with someone bigger and stronger than them, expecting not to get hurt, that's just dumb. Not all men go by that rule.

KrystalMeth · Accepted Answer

Come on, in this day and age I think we all know hitting anyone...that counts girls hitting guys and guys hitting girls..is bad news. And I don't condone a girl hitting a guy because she 'can cos she's a chick' at all - cos some girls abuse that and just throw a few half asses slaps at a guy cos she can and they bank on a guy not slapping them back!

But I do think, guys are normally stronger than girls so I think if a girl starts on you then try and restrain her (if you know her well enough -.-) and if she becomes to much and is still hitting the hell out of you then, do whatever you think

My point is just I think restraining is a better option...or walking away.

tearsofblood91 · Accepted Answer

Its all about what kind of person you are. Personally the restraint works best plus it makes her realize if she attacks again you can just restrain her AGAIN. The wacking against something-ouch. If she has a lethal weapon its fair game. Another added bonus to restraining is it gives her time to chill out and think semi-rationally about what her next move is,  instead of constant motion/adrenaline /escalating thoughts and emotions.

DirtyDiamondDave · Answer

Yes. If anyone hits you, legally you have a right to stop that attack. HOWEVER if it happens to be a woman be prepared to see cops, manginas, feminists and white knights swarm you like a scene from dawn of the dead. Unfortunately logic and fairness doesn't apply in the case of a man hitting a woman especially in self defence, which is ironic considering how much people yammer on about their precious equal rights. Either everybody has the right to hit or nobody has the right to hit take your pick.

The "women are weaker than men" argument is a cheap cop-out. Look at it like this, If your weaker than a tiger would you be stupid enough to put your hand in the cage? And if it got bitten off would you baww and complain about it or admit that you were an idiot for doing it in the first place?

Having said that responses should be measured, if a woman called me a name. I wouldn't hit her, I'd tell her to get bent and go on my way, ifshe tried to hit me id lock her arm up, if she had a weapon then the playing field is even so Ill do whatever I have to, all this would be the same if it where a guy.

Honestly if you say there's no reason to hitt a woman you deserve to be hit. There are reasons and defending your life or wellbeing or even your childrens lives (if you have any) is reason enough.

ventoso · Answer

I've always thought the "never hit a girl" thing was incredibly stupid. If someone is threatening and attacking you, you have the right to defend yourself whether that person is a man or a woman. That being said, I believe my first instinct wouldn't be to hit her, it would be to shove her really hard away from me so she couldn't attack me anymore. I'm just over 6'1" and weight about 190 pounds, so I'm sure I could easily send her flying across the room. I would then tell her to get the hell out, and if she still didn't leave for some reason, I would call the cops to forcibly remove her and keep defending myself until the cops arrived. I would most certainly punch or kick the living crap out of her if I felt it was necessary for my personal safety or the safety of someone else, but women are generally so much smaller and physically weaker than me that I'd most likely not have to resort to that unless she was a real psycho.

Hitting another person, unless it is in self-defense, is a crime. Sex is irrelevant.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, this is an old question. I want to answer anyway.

I hope my boyfriend has enough sense that if for some reason I go nuts and attack him he knocks me out cold.

He and I have an agreement that heaven forbid if one of us attacks the other, all bets are off. He's 6'5. I'm 5'4. He outweighs me by 80 lbs. If I'm dumb enough to attack him, I deserve his reaction.

Also, I'm no princess. I can fight. If he, for some reason, attacks me, he's got his work cut out for him. I know how to defend myself against, and subdue an attacker. My dad taught me that when I was six. I'm also in criminal justice. It's in my job description to be able to defend myself and others.

elliesaur · Answer

Guys think "i'd never hit a girl" because most girls are a lot weaker than the average guy, but really, if this massive girl would start a fight with an average guy I'd not blame him if he punched her back.

If the one attacking you is smaller than you, calming them down and blocking their punches is probably the best way to go. I personally can't stand violence. if you can't hold an argument either walk away or expect to get hit back if you start a fight, whether you're a guy or a girl.

SergiOliveira · Answer

Neutralize and secure threat, woman stomach is usually a very sensitive place, if you punch it whit enough strength and pressure applied, if I'm correct a bit over the uterus, they usually pass out and can't move due to pain. !WARNING! This can cause uteral cancer and other sexual problems to the woman, in most cases try to restrain her movement and apply pressure on the vein that connects to the brain at least  4 to 6 seconds depending on person to make them pass out has well.

Gone_But_Not_Lost · Answer

I'd jsut restrain her, or block her hits. Something. Now if she starts to cause some real damage, or she's actively trying to kill me or something, I see no good reason why I can't defend myself. I see no reason at all why I shouldn't defend myself. Fortunately I'm usually pretty good at diffusing a situation like that before it gets to such a point, but you never know.

risted · Answer

it would be like a last resort unless she's going super psycho on me. like the other guy said, I'd be restraining her as best as I can and if I have to, shove her against the wall and hope it shocks her a little and gets her to chill out. the damage I could do to her compared to what she can do to me without  weapons is too great to go straight into throwing blows.

PrincessBubble · Answer

if I hit a guy and he hit me back, I wouldn't complain.

1st off I'm basically asking for it 2nd of all when some men are angry they don't thinnk before they act, so to hit back is their automatic response.

tbh me hitting a guy..i would expect some sort of violence back, its kinda human nature.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I wouldn't hit her back. I'd just restrain her. Possibly hurt her in the process of restraining her if I had to, say, slam her against a wall or something cause she actually was going insane haha, but that's hurting her a lot less than I'd be able to if I wanted.

coolbeans01 · Answer

I would try to hold her/prevent her from further physically attacking me but if it came down to it and I felt she was threatening my life (i.e. she had a weapon or something) then I wouldn't hesitate to defend myself

LexiNinja · Answer

If I was a guy, definitely yes! I hate that some girls like to take advantage of the 'men not hitting women rule'. Just because he can't hit you doesn't mean you have the upper hand to do so

katg4560 · Answer

I agree with you completely if someone hits you first you have every right to defend yourself. That's not saying got to town wailing on this person, just enough to get them off of you and get yourself somewhere safe.

palek · Answer

Sure! In fact, she doesn't even need to hit me first, I'll give her a good whack just for the fun of it!

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

I'd likely grab her by her wrists first. If she can handle herself well enough that that doesn't work then I wouldn't feel guilty.

I agree with your general premise that it's ridiculous not to defend yourself based on the "never hit a girl" rule.

thisislifebaby · Answer

I think if a person attacks you no matter what their gender you have a right to hit them back in self defence otherwise you just should not hit anyone.

AoVKira · Answer

would I hit her if she attacked me no I would restrain her but if she came at me with a weapon id have to I wouldn't want to I really don't like considering hitting a girl but to defend myself I would but I would only do what necessary to stop her nothing more.

Hyrule · Answer

I wouldn't feel good about hitting a girl, they're soft. Of course I'd try to calm her down but I would never hit her.

armyguy176 · Answer

I would hold her back until I felt she truly deserved it and then I wouldn't hurt her I would just put her down

Gigglytr0n · Answer

Yeah, chivalry is one thing but being a dense idiot that won't defend himself is a whole other issue.

graffiti_guy · Answer

Ill just hold her in a bear hug or somethinf to calm her down then let her go

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