Guys, would you ever hit a woman?

[exitseven]

Even if she hit you first would you haul off and belt her?

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I dated a girl who was abused by her parents. Despite all the abuse she was kind and sweet and had a great outlook on life. She mat have been bipolar because once in a while she would get drunk and abuse me. She would say the most awful things to me and sometimes she would hit me. I used to just put my arms around her and restrain her until she calmed down. I knew she was in pain and I never wanted to hit her. She had enough of that in her life.

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One night she got away from me and hit her head. It was bleeding pretty good and I was freaking out. I did not want to call an ambulance. Finally I got it under control. We talked about her seeing a therapist and she agreed. A couple of weeks later I asked her if she found a shrink yet because I told her I would go with her if she wanted. She told me she felt fine and didn't need one. I told her that if she started abusing me she had to go an abuse somebody else. That was the last time I ever sa

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saw her. She was living with a friend and her boyfriend and after she never answered my voicemails I drove over to see her and they told me she moved out and was living with friends. I think they kicked her out. Soon after I moved to a new place and never heard from her again.

[TDeans1987]

If I were to offer a simple blanket answer to this question I would say that no I would never hit a woman and there is never any reason for a man to hit a woman. The same is also true for woman. There should never be any reason for a woman to hit a man. Violence has no real place in this world.

But to go into more detail. I am of the opinion that if a man was hit by a woman and it appeared as though that woman was going to continue to attack that man then I would find it justified if he hit her back in self defence. That being said I would not do that myself. I would defend myself, but only to the point of either blocking or dodging the woman's punches until she either got tired or bored.

I would also say that it is justified for a man to hit a woman if he was defending someone else, be it a friend or a loved one. However again in that situation I would not resort to hitting myself, just take action that prevents further harm to my friend or loved one.

Even in the instances where I have said hitting a woman back is ok the man doing so should show a certain level of restraint and make sure that the force of any hits is appropriate to the situation. If a woman had clipped you in the back of the head it WOULD NOT be justified to just wail on her for about a minute and put her in hospital.

As a final thought, if at all possible it is always best to avoid violence.

[Wiredone]

Absolutely not. I have never and will never hit a woman. That's abusive.

[FictionalCharacter]

I have bi polar myself or maybe I have mood swings. But either I get emotional and upset, that I don’t hit people. I use my words as attack, cause of so many bottle emotions.

I mean I get confused how some men I’ve come across with stick around me. Like my father, brother, guys online and I confront them ‘I’m bitch’ and apologize for my actions. It’s just my emotions get the best of me. I don’t like hurting people, but I’m not perfect either and make mistakes.

[loves2learn]

You did the right thing restraining her until she calmed down. Men are typically stronger than women and therefore have an unfair advantage. I know that isn’t always the case, but I don’t think violence should beget violence. There are other solutions.

[razelove]

Yes, under several circumstances. If we're in the bedroom and it's part of a scene, have to maximize surface area for the most pain and least chance of leaving any marks that could impact her work, or other relationships with friends, lovers, what have you. That would just be slapping, mostly on the butt, and thighs,

If it's a woman that hits me with a closed fist and I don't know her, I'll kick her in the crotch, knee her in the face a few times, then go for the choke and check for weapons before I leave. Same as I would if a strange man attacks me and I have time to react. They certainly weren't approaching me with friendly intentions, fuck them.

If a woman I know hits me with an open hand, chances are I did something to deserve that, even if I can't recall it, if she seems familiar, but I can't remember her, doubly so. Closed fist and I know her, if there's time, try to just get a gut shot in and ask what the hell, if it continues, joint lock and grind that face on the pavement until you start getting answers that make sense.

Outside that would be, I guess, combat? Then I'd just shoot and why worry about hitting unless it's with an E-tool or something. Chivalry is dead as dead can be. Try holding a door open for strange women outside a rural area or church and see what reactions you get.

[AzzaBlue]

Being male or female is irrelevant. All men and women are adults and adults should face the consequences of their actions. We teach our boys from a young age that they should not hit girls, but I've never heard a similar lesson been taught to girls. In my humble opinion I believe that it is even more important to teach girls to control their emotions and keep their hands to them selves. Too many arseholes out there will give women a pass with regards to physical violence and the rational is that women are weaker and can't really harm a man. That is complete bullshit that is perpetuated by losers who think with their dicks/ vaginas. Just because an individual is smaller/ weaker than someone does not give them the right to treat a bigger individual like a punching bag. I am a petite man myself (155cm tall, 40kg) however if someone is assaulting me or is putting me in danger I will use whatever force necessary to go 'THROUGH' them to defend myself. Any woman who relies on her size or sex as an excuse to commit violence is a coward just like any man who uses his size and strength to overpower and assault women. So in short if a woman hits me, she better be prepared for some equals rights and lefts.

[Tyrael]

There's plenty of reasons to hit a woman, you just don't do it because it's wrong. The only exception is self defense in my opinion, and even then it should be a measured response.

Violence begets violence, but sometimes it's the only option. Women who think it's ok to just assault men need a wake-up call.

If it's your partner, then it's best to just walk away if it's possible and end the relationship right there. That goes for both men and women of course. An abusive partner is no partner at all.

[Tommy300]

Yes I would hit a woman but only in a very specific situation like if she was trying to stab me or shoot me or put me in a hospital in general. I also think it's justifiable to hit a woman and she's bullying or sexually harassing you for a long time and no one's doing anything to help you because you're male. This is a real situation and it sucks cuz teachers are stupid you don't know how to deal with these situations and they don't take you seriously neither will your friends. luckily I had a female friend that stick up for me.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I have only done that once in my life. I am a big guy and I can take the beating, usually hurts them more than me. 😁😎 The one time I did hit a girl, I was like 12, She was 14 I gave her 7 chances to let go of my arm. I pointed at her and she grabbed my arm and started digging her finger nails in. Each time I asked her to let go, she dug deeper. By the 7th time blood was running down my arm from 3 holes she made , So I punched in the nose. She got her brother who was 16 and he said he would have done the same thing. I could have hit her harder, but chose not too, plus it was left handed and that was my weaker arm by far at the time. The person I feared the most was my Mom and she was 4"11 and 105. At twelve I 5"5 and weighed 125. Never once raised my hand to her and have never raised a hand to any women except that one girl. Still feel guilty about it, but she gave me no choice.

[NobleFlight]

A little while ago, there was a girl in my school who had been bullying me and friends.
She came up to me one day and slapped the shit out of me. I told her to knock it off, or I’ll hit her back. She didn’t.
So, I hit her back.
I think this was justified. This school system was completely biased, and she has been hitting me for a while now. I had enough of her crap. She attacked me, and I defended myself.


In a situation with verbal altercation, I would never. Only if I am being attacked or at risk of being killed.

[ZackBan]

I would never let a woman hit me to begin with. I would block her punches kicks or anything else she might do.

As a kid me mom used to scold me sometimes (never violently but a few spanks to know I messed up) and even at a certain age I wouldn't let her anymore. And I won't take from my own mother I won't take from anyone in the world

Abuse is abuse regardless of the genitals of who's dishing it out.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

My dad got it through my head at a young age, that a real man never hits a woman. I've lost my cool before and had to get away, sit down for a moment. That's just something I need to work on is the fact that sometimes I run out of patience. But I would never hit a woman unless there was a lot at stake. Like someone's life.

[Anonymous]

I'm guilty of hitting my sister (I was 13) and it's one of the worst feelings to be a violent and unapproachable kind of guy. I've profusely apologized to her so many times and we're all adults now.

I've really matured, and I don't think I'll hit a woman. Maybe not even if she hits me. Again, I've never really been hit by a woman in my adult life because I never offended anyone to that point. But if a girl did raise her hand against me, I'll surely try to at least defend or get out of the way, but I can't think of myself hitting a woman.

[Not_Average]

If someone is jeopardizing my safety then I’ll take the means necessary to stop the threat regardless if they’re a man or woman. It’s a really strange concept to me that men are willing to just have their ass beat by a woman and not do a thing lol. Your situation sounds complex though. Sounds like a toxic relationship man. Consider yourself lucky that you got out.

[cth96190]

I will not initiate violence with anyone.
If, however, a female initiates violence with me, she will discover a new world of gender equity.
Men do not exist to be punch bags for entitled psychotic/bipolar women who refuse to keep their hands to themselves.

[Angelo75]

Let me say that I totally loathe men hitting women. It's unfair cuz they can't do anything in return.
BUT... that being said...

If a woman ever really tried to abuse me by hitting me etc, i would make sure that she UNDERSTANDS that it's not fair to hit a guy and say that the guy can't hit back.
I wouldn't give her a black eye. But I know she'll only TRY to abuse me once.

Lets be honest. If she was so uncontrolled, why don't she go abuse a policeman/policewoman? Or a maffia-boss? Or a real life tiger/lion?
If she can use her brains to pick her targets to abuse, then she's perfectly rational to also realise that you're easy to hit.

So yeah... you did the right thing. And yeah I know you miss her otherwise you wouldn't be talking here about her.
But if she can't get help, she's in denial. That means whatever you do, if you try to start fixing that problem, she'll deny and you both will end up in a fight.

[Anonymous]

I've run up to a woman choke held her like The undertaker and threw her into her Teenage girl. I then clotheslined them as they tried to get up. Then I people elbowed the grannie who'd fainted from observing it all happen. The female cop who turned up I told them the grannie went crazy and i stopped her in self defence. No further action was taken.

[PinkHamster]

If a guy I am with would even think about it, I will leave him without thinking twice. I am not the type of a crazy woman that raises her hand on anyone even if someone piss me off, so I expect the same treatment from everyone. 💕✨

[MrJMM]

Ok so here comes the complication. It’s always that the woman is innocent, kind and does nothing wrong at all. But not everyone is like that so basically we cannot ask those kinds of questions because it’s not specific to a situation or someone's experience. I would never hit an innocent woman but if a woman would be abusive or just a bad person and just was trying to destroy me then yes I would hit her.

[The_Maphio]

I would never belt her. But a nice straight to the nose should set her "he'll never hit me since I'm a woman" attitude straight.

Respect goes both ways. Trust goes both ways. And if violence breaks out for any reason, that also goes both ways.

It's all in this new "equality" fad, isn't it? "Equal rights, equal fights".

[Aeon_Norell]

After receiving a threat once in relation to my job, I have given some thought to the possibility of me having to use force.

If avoidable, I will neither hit a man nor a woman. If the peaceful approach fails, I will try to render them immobile (which I have had to on two occasions). But if all else fails (which luckily hasn't happened yet), and I find that violence (self defense!) is the only option, I will not take gender into consideration.

[Qdbrown]

If a woman slaps me to get my attention, no.

If she goes toe-to-toe, fights like a man, tries to hurt me, yes. I will not only hit, but hurt her. And I will leave her and not have anything to do with an agreessive and woman who doesn't mind trying to hurt me.

And I realize that any hitting can send a man to jail instantly. If that happens, I get a good woman attorney and pay her for success in the courtroom.

[AdithyaR]

I would only defend myself, not actively harm someone. If I can defend myself and restrain them without causing damage, I'll do that. If it's more of a dangerous situation, I'll do what I need to for self defence, nothing more.

[djfhsjk]

If it was a situation where I had to, I can't really imagine one happening. There really aren't many plausible situations where you NEED to fight anyone.