Guys, would you ever hit a woman?

[TDeans1987]

If I were to offer a simple blanket answer to this question I would say that no I would never hit a woman and there is never any reason for a man to hit a woman. The same is also true for woman. There should never be any reason for a woman to hit a man. Violence has no real place in this world.

But to go into more detail. I am of the opinion that if a man was hit by a woman and it appeared as though that woman was going to continue to attack that man then I would find it justified if he hit her back in self defence. That being said I would not do that myself. I would defend myself, but only to the point of either blocking or dodging the woman's punches until she either got tired or bored.

I would also say that it is justified for a man to hit a woman if he was defending someone else, be it a friend or a loved one. However again in that situation I would not resort to hitting myself, just take action that prevents further harm to my friend or loved one.

Even in the instances where I have said hitting a woman back is ok the man doing so should show a certain level of restraint and make sure that the force of any hits is appropriate to the situation. If a woman had clipped you in the back of the head it WOULD NOT be justified to just wail on her for about a minute and put her in hospital.

As a final thought, if at all possible it is always best to avoid violence.

[Wiredone]

Absolutely not. I have never and will never hit a woman. That's abusive.

[FictionalCharacter]

I have bi polar myself or maybe I have mood swings. But either I get emotional and upset, that I don’t hit people. I use my words as attack, cause of so many bottle emotions.

I mean I get confused how some men I’ve come across with stick around me. Like my father, brother, guys online and I confront them ‘I’m bitch’ and apologize for my actions. It’s just my emotions get the best of me. I don’t like hurting people, but I’m not perfect either and make mistakes.

[loves2learn]

You did the right thing restraining her until she calmed down. Men are typically stronger than women and therefore have an unfair advantage. I know that isn’t always the case, but I don’t think violence should beget violence. There are other solutions.

[razelove]

Yes, under several circumstances. If we're in the bedroom and it's part of a scene, have to maximize surface area for the most pain and least chance of leaving any marks that could impact her work, or other relationships with friends, lovers, what have you. That would just be slapping, mostly on the butt, and thighs,

If it's a woman that hits me with a closed fist and I don't know her, I'll kick her in the crotch, knee her in the face a few times, then go for the choke and check for weapons before I leave. Same as I would if a strange man attacks me and I have time to react. They certainly weren't approaching me with friendly intentions, fuck them.

If a woman I know hits me with an open hand, chances are I did something to deserve that, even if I can't recall it, if she seems familiar, but I can't remember her, doubly so. Closed fist and I know her, if there's time, try to just get a gut shot in and ask what the hell, if it continues, joint lock and grind that face on the pavement until you start getting answers that make sense.

Outside that would be, I guess, combat? Then I'd just shoot and why worry about hitting unless it's with an E-tool or something. Chivalry is dead as dead can be. Try holding a door open for strange women outside a rural area or church and see what reactions you get.

[AzzaBlue]

Being male or female is irrelevant. All men and women are adults and adults should face the consequences of their actions. We teach our boys from a young age that they should not hit girls, but I've never heard a similar lesson been taught to girls. In my humble opinion I believe that it is even more important to teach girls to control their emotions and keep their hands to them selves. Too many arseholes out there will give women a pass with regards to physical violence and the rational is that women are weaker and can't really harm a man. That is complete bullshit that is perpetuated by losers who think with their dicks/ vaginas. Just because an individual is smaller/ weaker than someone does not give them the right to treat a bigger individual like a punching bag. I am a petite man myself (155cm tall, 40kg) however if someone is assaulting me or is putting me in danger I will use whatever force necessary to go 'THROUGH' them to defend myself. Any woman who relies on her size or sex as an excuse to commit violence is a coward just like any man who uses his size and strength to overpower and assault women. So in short if a woman hits me, she better be prepared for some equals rights and lefts.

[Tyrael]

There's plenty of reasons to hit a woman, you just don't do it because it's wrong. The only exception is self defense in my opinion, and even then it should be a measured response.

Violence begets violence, but sometimes it's the only option. Women who think it's ok to just assault men need a wake-up call.

If it's your partner, then it's best to just walk away if it's possible and end the relationship right there. That goes for both men and women of course. An abusive partner is no partner at all.

[Tommy300]

Yes I would hit a woman but only in a very specific situation like if she was trying to stab me or shoot me or put me in a hospital in general. I also think it's justifiable to hit a woman and she's bullying or sexually harassing you for a long time and no one's doing anything to help you because you're male. This is a real situation and it sucks cuz teachers are stupid you don't know how to deal with these situations and they don't take you seriously neither will your friends. luckily I had a female friend that stick up for me.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I have only done that once in my life. I am a big guy and I can take the beating, usually hurts them more than me. 😁😎 The one time I did hit a girl, I was like 12, She was 14 I gave her 7 chances to let go of my arm. I pointed at her and she grabbed my arm and started digging her finger nails in. Each time I asked her to let go, she dug deeper. By the 7th time blood was running down my arm from 3 holes she made , So I punched in the nose. She got her brother who was 16 and he said he would have done the same thing. I could have hit her harder, but chose not too, plus it was left handed and that was my weaker arm by far at the time. The person I feared the most was my Mom and she was 4"11 and 105. At twelve I 5"5 and weighed 125. Never once raised my hand to her and have never raised a hand to any women except that one girl. Still feel guilty about it, but she gave me no choice.

[NobleFlight]

A little while ago, there was a girl in my school who had been bullying me and friends.
She came up to me one day and slapped the shit out of me. I told her to knock it off, or I’ll hit her back. She didn’t.
So, I hit her back.
I think this was justified. This school system was completely biased, and she has been hitting me for a while now. I had enough of her crap. She attacked me, and I defended myself.


In a situation with verbal altercation, I would never. Only if I am being attacked or at risk of being killed.

[ZackBan]

I would never let a woman hit me to begin with. I would block her punches kicks or anything else she might do.

As a kid me mom used to scold me sometimes (never violently but a few spanks to know I messed up) and even at a certain age I wouldn't let her anymore. And I won't take from my own mother I won't take from anyone in the world

Abuse is abuse regardless of the genitals of who's dishing it out.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

My dad got it through my head at a young age, that a real man never hits a woman. I've lost my cool before and had to get away, sit down for a moment. That's just something I need to work on is the fact that sometimes I run out of patience. But I would never hit a woman unless there was a lot at stake. Like someone's life.

[Anonymous]

I'm guilty of hitting my sister (I was 13) and it's one of the worst feelings to be a violent and unapproachable kind of guy. I've profusely apologized to her so many times and we're all adults now.

I've really matured, and I don't think I'll hit a woman. Maybe not even if she hits me. Again, I've never really been hit by a woman in my adult life because I never offended anyone to that point. But if a girl did raise her hand against me, I'll surely try to at least defend or get out of the way, but I can't think of myself hitting a woman.

[Not_Average]

If someone is jeopardizing my safety then I’ll take the means necessary to stop the threat regardless if they’re a man or woman. It’s a really strange concept to me that men are willing to just have their ass beat by a woman and not do a thing lol. Your situation sounds complex though. Sounds like a toxic relationship man. Consider yourself lucky that you got out.

[cth96190]

I will not initiate violence with anyone.
If, however, a female initiates violence with me, she will discover a new world of gender equity.
Men do not exist to be punch bags for entitled psychotic/bipolar women who refuse to keep their hands to themselves.

[Angelo75]

Let me say that I totally loathe men hitting women. It's unfair cuz they can't do anything in return.
BUT... that being said...

If a woman ever really tried to abuse me by hitting me etc, i would make sure that she UNDERSTANDS that it's not fair to hit a guy and say that the guy can't hit back.
I wouldn't give her a black eye. But I know she'll only TRY to abuse me once.

Lets be honest. If she was so uncontrolled, why don't she go abuse a policeman/policewoman? Or a maffia-boss? Or a real life tiger/lion?
If she can use her brains to pick her targets to abuse, then she's perfectly rational to also realise that you're easy to hit.

So yeah... you did the right thing. And yeah I know you miss her otherwise you wouldn't be talking here about her.
But if she can't get help, she's in denial. That means whatever you do, if you try to start fixing that problem, she'll deny and you both will end up in a fight.

[PinkHamster]

If a guy I am with would even think about it, I will leave him without thinking twice. I am not the type of a crazy woman that raises her hand on anyone even if someone piss me off, so I expect the same treatment from everyone. 💕✨

[Anonymous]

I've run up to a woman choke held her like The undertaker and threw her into her Teenage girl. I then clotheslined them as they tried to get up. Then I people elbowed the grannie who'd fainted from observing it all happen. The female cop who turned up I told them the grannie went crazy and i stopped her in self defence. No further action was taken.

[The_Maphio]

I would never belt her. But a nice straight to the nose should set her "he'll never hit me since I'm a woman" attitude straight.

Respect goes both ways. Trust goes both ways. And if violence breaks out for any reason, that also goes both ways.

It's all in this new "equality" fad, isn't it? "Equal rights, equal fights".

[MrJMM]

Ok so here comes the complication. It’s always that the woman is innocent, kind and does nothing wrong at all. But not everyone is like that so basically we cannot ask those kinds of questions because it’s not specific to a situation or someone's experience. I would never hit an innocent woman but if a woman would be abusive or just a bad person and just was trying to destroy me then yes I would hit her.

[Aeon_Norell]

After receiving a threat once in relation to my job, I have given some thought to the possibility of me having to use force.

If avoidable, I will neither hit a man nor a woman. If the peaceful approach fails, I will try to render them immobile (which I have had to on two occasions). But if all else fails (which luckily hasn't happened yet), and I find that violence (self defense!) is the only option, I will not take gender into consideration.

[Qdbrown]

If a woman slaps me to get my attention, no.

If she goes toe-to-toe, fights like a man, tries to hurt me, yes. I will not only hit, but hurt her. And I will leave her and not have anything to do with an agreessive and woman who doesn't mind trying to hurt me.

And I realize that any hitting can send a man to jail instantly. If that happens, I get a good woman attorney and pay her for success in the courtroom.

[AdithyaR]

I would only defend myself, not actively harm someone. If I can defend myself and restrain them without causing damage, I'll do that. If it's more of a dangerous situation, I'll do what I need to for self defence, nothing more.

[djfhsjk]

If it was a situation where I had to, I can't really imagine one happening. There really aren't many plausible situations where you NEED to fight anyone.

[Apope16]

Hell no. I would never ever hit a woman. ever. I was in a domestically abuse relationship. My ex would hit me and punch me in the face. She got on top of me and kicked me and punched me. I never swung back. I just took it. she was a horrible evil person. But even then I would never hit her. I ain't going to jail. I must maintain my own dignity and let her rot in her own guilt.

[DiscomfortZone]

I would absolutely beat the living shit out of ANYONE who'd assault me. I don't care what they have between their legs. If a woman attacks me, that woman is being evacuated by a fucking ambulance. Nobody hits me and keeps their bones intact. You can just ask the stupid bitch who thought it was cool to slap me.

As for your story - not the same thing. I would probably try to act the way you did in such a situation. You did good in my opinion.

[Adam1978]

The best way to ensure she doesn't do it again is to hit back, hard ones. If I don't do that she is likely to keep hitting me.

[Leavesbound]

Only if she says "OH my god that felt so good hit me again only harder this time!" Other than that no.

[SenseiSeptred]

Never out of anger, but many times a woman of mine can get quite hurt in a sparring match because of where I hit, and the speed behind it even though I am a 6 foot 2 guy. There is a reason why I train in the candle punch technique.

[0112358]

I can imagine scenarios where I would but I'm 45 and haven't needed to yet. Optimistically never will.

[Anonymous]

I saw a study once that showed that more men are hit by women each year, they just don't report it.

There is a huge focus on domestic violence and men beating up women which is often reported. Men are taught to be tough and it looks weak to report that a girl hit you or hurt you.

Even so, men should never hit a woman even if she hit you first. If she does, then its time to end it.

If you ever got married what do you think she would do to your child?

[deshsippingtea]

I hit a woman’s ass🤷🏽‍♂️ Guess im abusive 😂 sorry

[Davydoo]

I don't believe in hitting anyone. But I will pin someone down without hurting them if they don't quit hitting.

[WrestlingHero01]

As someone who had a mother who used to beat me

I'll defend myself against any woman who tries to attack me. I learned young how much abuse is dismissed because my attacker was a woman. Never again.

A woman hitting a man is just as bad as a man hitting a woman.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont trust a dude who hits women. Play wrestling is fine but anything more is a red flag. Unless she is truly crazy and trying to kill him or someone he loves, he shouldn't hit her

[Steve1071]

When you grew up with 4 sisters you had no choice especially when they were the ones trying to kill you from time to time growing up. So as far as I’m concerned if you hit me first with a clinched fist you’re no longer a woman you’re now a man and it’s fair game. Let me be clear no one should be hitting anyone.

[NamerOfStars]

Of course- under the same circumstances I'd hit a man. It's something I do my best to avoid, but bigotry's bigotry.

[whatdoyouwantt]

I don’t think anyone should hit anyone. You can solve issues different way.

[loveslongnails]

Only if I was being attacked in a life threatening manner and had to.
Or... if that were her kink and she wanted me to :-D

[Lone_wolf122]

No I'm pretty sure I can always handle and restrain like you said... I'm curious did you ever know what happened to her?

[Anonymous]

I would never date a guy who puts his hands on women. Even the Jersey shore douchebags kept their hands to themselves when drunk girls slapped them.

Putting your hands on a woman is only acceptable if she's literally trying to kill you. Any guy who disagrees is mad sus. Considering this site is infested with incels, I get the feeling all the women's answers will get dislikes..

[Sublime45]

Only if it was self defense and like she was coming at me with a weapon or something

[Dchrls78104]

I wouldn't want to hit a girl (barring self defence) and if I were with a girl that hit me, she'd be garbage (I'd dump!).

[gotc147]

I punched a woman as hard as I could once, right in the mouth.

Why? Because she decided to step between me and the guy I was trying hit at the moment I was trying to hit him.

[MCheetah]

Yup. No hesitation. I'd punch the shit out of a woman who seriously tried to fight me. I'd do the same to anyone over the age of 12 and under the age of 70. Gender is irrelevant.

[Daniel_Dano]

I think a man can calm down a woman without hitting her back , most of the time her hits won't affect us much so I won't hit back unless she tries to stab me or shot me lol

[Phoenix98]

I have no qualms at all with hitting a woman whatsoever been there done, I just don't unless it's one of the following scenarios.

1# It's really warranted

2# We're sparing or fighting

3# Self Defense

[BirdshotJohn]

Ever?
Yes.

What's the cut off point for me striking a woman with kinetic force?
Somewhere above her sucker punching me in the side of my face and making me spit teeth for refusing to sleep with her.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t plan on it but I can understand how things happen and can escalate pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

I'd never lay a hand on a woman, call me sexist but I think they're too fragile for that.

If a woman hits me I'll just hold her down until she calms down, because again, call me sexist, but most of them are too fragile to break free, from me at least.

[BossBilly]

Haul off and belt her.. HAHAHAHA... give her a whammy?

[jgokgotit]

Depends. If she is not using a weapon, then I'll just push her off and leave. If she uses a weapon, she is getting hit.

[Omar5881]

Nah I’d report her , I don’t hit people who are weaker than me and a girl with that attitude needs discipline otherwise nah i wouldn't

[Dontaaa]

Yes, depending on the circumstances and stuff.

I would always prefer not to hit anyone, but if my hand is forced I will punch and kick the hell out of anyone.

[Anonymous]

Women choose to go out with those kinds of guys, you reap what you sow.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Honestly I always stayed clear of girls, and most girls are verbal and few want to hit you and I have also seen girls are quick to raise their hands on men rather vice versa.

But it depends on situation though and level of disappointment

[Skankhunt]

No one should hit each other, men or women, unless your life in on the line.

[warrenstone]

If she hit me multiple times and isn’t stopping then yeah I’d probably give her a good smack

[BarryLiverstone]

Never have (outside of role play) and never will. Abuse is wrong.

[BubbaTech]

If she draws my blood. Its war, and she will face my wrath.

[Ripper_E]

I wouldn't belt her, but if a woman hits me first, I'll warn her. She persists, then it's her fault when her ass ends up on the floor. If it's a woman I love, I'll walk away before I hurt her.

[ItsjussZack]

𝐈𝐟 𝐚 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐢 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐝𝐮𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐨 𝐲𝐨 𝐚𝐡𝐡 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐬𝐢𝐫.

[NikolaiIvanov]

Yeah I won't mind hitting a woman I know like I hit my twin sister all the time even with belts I guess if I had a more of a relationship about love then I wouldn't hit her but in my current scenario I hit my sister and I hit her real bad.

[jerdanro]

Hell no. Unless she was trying to kill me and it's the only way to stop her.