Why does a guy ignore you when you reject him?

[Anonymous]

Why does he ignore you all of a sudden if you kindly rejected him? Is there anything you could do to win him back?

[wingattebaby16]

you will have to go after him and keep going after him.. be blunt and tell him you were wrong for rejecting him and want to go out with him.

If you are just wanting to be Friends, then you already Friendzoned him.. it is too late.

[Asker]

I'm following after him. I've been chasing him. We live in the same complex but he just pretends like he doesn't know me.😓

[wingattebaby16]

time to put cards in his mailbox or under his door...

express your desire to be with him..

show up at his door with a bouquet of chocolate flowers and tell him you are sorry.

Chasing him around the complex is borderline Stalking.. and if he ignores you, then either he is interested and making you suffer, or he does not like you and is afraid.

[spartan55]

She won't do it.

[Asker]

Here you are again lol

[Asker]

Should I let him go then?

[spartan55]

I see you are claiming that you are 'chasing him' which is simply not true. How many times have you talked to him? Let me guess, none.
To answer your question, it's up to you if you let him go or not. You don't want to put in any work to get him back even though you rejected him. Everyone is giving the same type of opinion. So who is right? You? Or all of us?

[ColHathi]

Insist that you still wanna be friends? I can imagine that some guys might just want nothing to do with you if you reject them, because how dare you 🙄 but I can also imagine others that will just assume that you don't want anything to do with them and/or can't really imagine just having a friendship. Especially after being rejected. In those cases I would insist on still being friends if I valued their friendship, even despite rejecting them.

[Browneye57]

Well let's see... you made it clear you didn't want him. Was he supposed to assume you were lying or what?
And since you did this already, why would you want to win him back? You already killed anything you had going. Did you change your mind? And if so, why?
What are we missing here?

[Asker]

Because I made a mistake and now I regret it.😫😪

[Browneye57]

Next time spend a little more time pondering, and accept people at face value, rather than making a quick judgement as to their worth and worthiness.
Guys don't take rejection lightly - it hits their ego big time. You don't really recover from that - he'll always hold that against you. Once burned twice shy. ;)

[AllieOops]

I don't follow. If you rejected him why would you want to win him back unless you were playing games? For a person who has feelings for someone and is rejected, it is natural for them to break all contact with someone in order not to continue being hurt further. I'm sure you are not stupid and know this so why are you asking this question?

[DavidFox]

Confused me as well, but the asker didn’t explain it.

[Asker]

Because I'm an idiot.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[John_Galt]

I’m assuming you mean “win him back” as a friend. But your just going to have to give him some space. No one likes rejection and we all deal with it in our own way. Often people need space and time to get over someone. Even if you just really want to be his friend... that would probably be bad for him at first, he needs some time.

[Anonymous]

It's like if someone told you they didn't like you, you probably wouldn't want to talk to someone knowing they dislike you.
He probably needs time to think it through, but I wouldn't count on him wanting to be friends if he wanted to be exclusive.

[DaModernDaVinci]

The answer to the first question is because he takes you seriously when you “kindly rejected him” and he knows there are plenty of fish so to speak. He moves quickly.
The answer to the second question, given the answer to the first, is if he already has found someone else who is into him then there is a slim chance of getting him to notice you. At this point, he may believe you are playing games if you jump in front him.

[winterfox10]

I don't understand what you are expecting? You and the guy aren't on the same page about what you want. You don't owe him a romantic connection, and he doesn't owe you a friendship. He doesn't have to like the fact you rejected him, even if you did it nicely... it's not a pleasant experience, ever...

[slatyb]

He’s hurt and it’s painful to keep seeing something you want but cannot have. Leave him alone. He may return when he’s over it or when he’s dating someone else.

[Vviiccttoorr]

Why do you consider it a mistake? If you genuinely like him then explain why you honestly rejected him and see what he says. However, I think I could give a better answer if you explained how you made a mistake.

[Hangry22]

Because you rejected him. Only a clingy would hang around a girl who rejected him. If you want to win him back, why did you reject him?

[spartan55]

I told you why, and you won't listen. So, of course, you repost your question... and look... same answers.

[AllieOops]

@spartan55So this is a duplicate question then?

[spartan55]

Not verbatim, but about the same situation. She just doesn't want to hear reality.

[EclecticEmapath1111]

What sort of game are you playing here, babe? First you reject the guy and then question why he's ignoring you... Uh do you even know what you want here? Or is it a game you are playing with guys?

[sheikalana]

If you rejected him why do you want to win him back? Are you playing games or what? If you rejected him and if you didn't show any interest then his just moving on with his life. Let him move on don't play with people's feelings please.

[DavidFox]

Because you rejected him, he moves onto someone else. If you reject someone it means you don’t want them right?

[magiusX26]

thats what i was taught and one of tge definitions of it are in every English dictionary i know of

[Giggltr0nn]

He ignores you because you told him you didn't want him, that was what he was after so why would he stick around to not get what he wanted?

[bowenw]

Explain to him you made a mistake. Tell him why, for example that you were nervous or afraid and hope that he understands.

[Anonymous]

Why should he bother with you, when you reject him? So he can see you with the guy you liked, more than him? Why would any guy want to even know one that rejected him?

[NatalieFerrara]

Men are just like women. They have feelings. When you reject them, it hurts their ego. If you want him back, be honest about your feelings towards him. If not, you are just playing psychological games. Which intern will hurt him more.

[magiusX26]

why would you try "winning back" someone you rejrcted already?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

What you mean win him back? You rejected him. How does that make sense?

[iFarted]

his feelings are hurt and needs time to get over it..

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Why do you want him back? As a friend?

[Anonymous]

nope the damage is already done