Is it inappropriate to let your cousin massage you?

[Anonymous]

He’s years older than me and I’m almost 18, so I see it as an older brother-little sister kind of thing. Anyways, we recently got super close and he came over to my house. Basically I let him massage my neck, shoulders, and lower back. We also hugged really tight but... it’s only because I love him. Later on my mom was on me about how I shouldn’t let my male cousins touch me or hug them like that because it’s weird. I don’t understand why. Did I do something wrong?

[btbc92]

It is inappropriate. Men are sexually sensitive, and you could have actually caused them to see you in a sexual way. It is not the same for a young boy before 10. But even that, it can affect them sexually. The intent may have been innocent. But you have to be careful. She is not shaming you. She is just warning you to be careful. So please be careful. Not every man even if family, has the right intent.

[HartleyB]

Really? A massage and a hug are sexualized now? That is so sad... me and my sisters and even my step brother which is almost a stereotype in pornography now all have eachother back rubs and hugged

I think as long as he isn't trying to touch you sexually or be suggestive of anything else and you are sensible enough to recognize if something was off then who cares it is good to be close with family because not everyone gets that opportunity

[ColHathi]

You know, massages aren't normally supposed to be a sexual thing, even if sometimes we make it sexual. There's nothing wrong with your cousin giving you a normal massage. Tight hugs are fine too. I'm sure your mother is just extra worried about it becoming something more sexual for one or both of you.

[KingChris08]

Do you think it would be inappropriate if that was your older brother and you were his little sister? I don’t understand why people think that just cause it’s their cousin that whatever happens is okay. I have so many cousins that are “FAMILY” and that’s just weird

[Hannah_le]

AAaa well no i mean no lmao it’s jus the parents worrying about such things. U guys could be close who knows and I guess it’s diff vs wit my male cousins n all they hit me (as a joke ) m all instead but I guess u guys r close. I’d jus maybe not do the massage thing if it’s awkward yk but it’s ok lamo ur mom Is jus being protective

[Zhisad]

She probably see's it as incest or something I wouldn't let him touch you that close though unless you're 100% comfortable.

[Mikelaughs]

Its probably no big deal at all, just being friendly.
But it depends on a few details.
Hit me up if you want to talk about it

[Prof_Don]

Your mom is a pervert!


Nothing wrong with cousins massaging each other or hugging each other!

[Wise4myage]

I think your mother is right, because massages can turn sexual really quick, and that's probably why she said what she did. You'd be wise to say no from now on.

[Anonymous]

no it's totally fine. I let my cousin touch my pp but I didn't feel anything until people told me it was weird. I just thought he wanted to massage me to make me feel gooder but definitely never thought of it sexually too.

[chriscdi]

pornography is a strong influence in our society nowadays just sounds like percautions

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine. A massage doesn't have to be sexual

[Anonymous]

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[gandolph3]

She is worried about incest

[gandolph3]

How did it make you feel

[Asker]

Well I didn’t feel anything until she got on my case about it. I’m completely comfortable with him and I don’t think he’s like that at all. I’ll try not to let it happen a second time I guess.

[In_Trance]

Yeah that's fkn weird

[Yourman86]

If your comfy with it.. dont let it bother you..

[GermanGuy87]

I think it’s fine

[Anonymous]

It can be.