Why is my husband so self conscious?

[Happilymarriedmom]

Whenever I'm on my phone he wants to see what I'm doing. Yesterday I turned my phone off quickly when he came in the room and he assumed I was up to wrong doing. We had an argument and I told him I was watching a video. I like to spend ME time sometimes and watch videos. My husband told me that marriage is open communication and I shouldn't be hiding anything. I apologized to him and I told him not to be so skeptical of me. He told me im a very beautiful woman and he's afraid to loose me but I keep telling I only have eyes for him. I don't like how untrusting he is of me. It makes me wonder if he himself has a guilty conscious.

[Floppy2112]

You're on here. That's a bad sign. People here are dating and you are supposedly happily married and a mom. However, your in a place for singles. This indicates to me that you are keeping an open mind about your options and his fears are absolutely justified. How many guys could you call up right now and have sex with, if you wanted to? I am betting at least 2.
I suspect price charming comes along and is willing to take you and your kids on, you are out of there like shit through a goose.
You are playing dangerous games with your marriage and I suspect you don't value your husband as much as he values you.
Just you being here justifies all his worst nightmares coming true. I am sure you will deny it, but the facts speak for themselves. You are voluntarily participating in a singles activity, supposing yourself to be a 'mentor', but secretly hoping something better comes along.
When spouses starting closing laptops, or hiding phones its a virtual guarantee that marriage will be short lived. If a husband cannot see his wife's phone, or a wife can't see a husbands phone there is a 100% chance that person is engaging in behavior damaging to the marriage. There is no right to privacy in a marriage, and there should be no expectation of it, you are sharing a life together. I learned that lesson the hard way.

[slatyb]

Why? Deep-rooted insecurity. His behavior is on the verge of becoming abusive. Does he understand this is abnormal and problematic?

"It makes me wonder if he himself has a guilty conscious" That's a possibility. People who would never cheat assume that their partner wouldn't either. People who would cheat assume their partner's would too.

[abc3643]

" I like to spend ME time sometimes and watch videos. "

This is why God gave us bathrooms with lockable doorknobs.
I ride the pot in the morning and have lots of me time free from my wife and hyperactive dogs.