My boyfriend checks my pad?

[Anonymous]

Ok so ever since me and my boyfriend started dating , every time I’d get my period and would be with him he’d feel my underwear to check if I’m wearing a pad. I don't know if him being Haitian has anything to do with it , if it’s a cultural thing but can anyone tell me whyyy he does this? He doesn’t literally look to see it there’s blood he just feels my underwear every day (if it lasts 4 days he’s check for each day etc)

[Mark83]

That's super weird. I've never heard of anyome doing that before. The only reason I could think of is that he wants to check whether you are still on your period or if you can have sex again (assuming that you don't have sex during your period). But why not simply ask? Same question for you, why not simply ask him why he does it?

[Asker]

I do ask him but he just says to stop asking him , makes me think he doesn’t even know why he does it but nobody does something for no reason

[Mark83]

Sounds like he's too shy or embarrassed to tell you the real reason. Does he have trouble talking about sexual things?

If it makes you uncomfortable you can just tell him to stop doing that.

[Asker]

Yesss he has trouble but I’ve been trying to get him to talk to me more because he isn’t really too much of a sexual person. Like one time I saw him googling something pertaining to our sex and I was like I’m right here why not just ask me.
And no I don’t feel uncomfortable just curious as to why he does it cuz no other guy ever did this w me.

[Mark83]

Yeah I've never heard that before. It's probably a good idea to get him to be more open with you, it'll make your relationship easier in the long run.

[Avicenna]

Very strange. Do you feel comfortable asking him why?

[Asker]

I’ve asked him why he just tells me to stop asking

[larry69]

Seems invasive. Try tampons or menstrual cups. More discreet.

[Iron_Man]

That’s too weird

[Asker]

I ask him why all the timeee and he’s just like “stop asking” lmaooo I find it weird but funny as well cuz wtf?

[Iron_Man]

He wants to make sure you’re not getting pregnant but still weird.

[jimmy2]

Thats so odd