If a guy says he doesn’t want to lead you on, that 100% means he has no interest in you and doesn’t like you... right?

[Juicyred921]

[ohshee]

Know if I say that it means that I do like you and I probably like you too much but I know down deep it just wouldn't work out and it means me knowing that that I wouldn't want to get you in bed and pretend everything is good but I know it's not going to work out just because I don't want to hurt you that's all but that doesn't mean that I would want to be friends though the matter fact sometimes it makes a bond and a friendship even stronger

[Juicyred921]

But we have slept together. We are sexually active with each other.

[ohshee]

Yeah so basically he wants his cake and eat it too well I can tell you this basically what he saying is that I want to have sex with you but I don't want to lead you on as far as it's going to go and that really sucks I mean sex because I can feel this guy and I don't know I guess there's a couple of different ways to look at it I can only look at it one way and I would have to say I'm not going to say that yet sorry I'm just starting to feel you and I want to Fillmore before I say anything I think it would be more better I don't know I think like I said there's something very special about you all I see is a little hump in front of you did if you can get over that hump you're going to soar I think and I'm not talking about your boyfriend sorry LOL I didn't I didn't mean that oops wrong wording for the wrong timing you know what I think if you start learning about your energy with him like I said I think I think I should wait I want to know if you're an empath or if you think you could be or are you gifted I'm so curious about you and when I feel

[Ripper_E]

Pretty much. Either that or he isn't ready to make that call and he would rather not waste your time.

[Juicyred921]

What call?

[Ripper_E]

whether or not he likes you or wants to be with you.

[Highpriestess]

Correct. Or maybe he likes you, but not as a partner/girlfriend. He might like hanging out with you and flirting and getting physical but sis whatever you do DO NOT GET EMOTIONAL with a man who says “I don’t want to lead you on”. He is straight up telling you “I don’t want anything beyond this level with you” whatever that level may be.

[Juicyred921]

Basically girlfriend boyfriend type friendship.. with sex and cuddling.. but no title.. no commitment

[annebbb]

From what I'm reading your situation sounds so much like mine... (live together, have sex, and his confusing behavior). I've decided to give up on him because it was hurting too much. It sucks because it's always you who's hurting and not him. Why do they have to act like that it sucks

[Juicyred921]

I guess he just says enough to keep me hooked but says things to let me know he’s not interested

[annebbb]

Exactly the same situation as me! I've asked him multiple times and his answer's never definite always leaving me confused. Making it hard for me to just let go

[Juicyred921]

And it’s even harder now.. cause he’s in the hospital. It’s nice he wants me here with him. Especially sense he can only have one visiter a day. I’ve Ben his visiter 3 out of 4 days he’s been here. His sister came the other day. If he didn’t like me.. why would he want me here so badly?

[annebbb]

I think he has a feelings for you it's just that he might be afraid to accept it because he's too scared to do so, because my guy doesn't care if I dissappeared next day lol

[Juicyred921]

I tried ignoring him for a day.. just to let him miss me (my friends stupid idea) .. in only a couple hours he was freaking out. Cause we haven’t gone a day without talking in 6 months

[annebbb]

Yeah I think he definitely has at least some feelings for you he's just too scared to accept it or doesn't know yet

[Cynicaldreamer]

Bingo! Don't read too much into it, or assume there's any hidden meaning behind it. Most guys are fairly straightforward: he's probably not interested, or if anything, just wants sex from you.

In other words, move on now before you get hurt.

[SashaAMB]

I think that means he wants you for sex, but not a relationship. He’s good enough to tell you that, because if you pursued him sexually, you might get attached to him.

[Juicyred921]

I love him and I’m pretty sure he knows it. It just sucks cause we act like boyfriend girlfriend. We spend most of our time together. We don’t see other people. We live together. We don’t even have sex that often.

[SashaAMB]

Sounds like all his current needs are met but yours are not...

[Juicyred921]

He says he cares about me as much as I care about him

[jasco]

No if i say that than either A i am interested but i just don't want to date you right now because i am busy with my life so please fine someone else. B i am not interested

[Juicyred921]

He says.. you couldn’t have come into my life at a better time.. I appreciate you more than I show.. I’m so lucky to have you in my life.. etc

[jasco]

Than he likes you

[Juicyred921]

But then why say.. I don’t wanna lead you on

[jasco]

who knows

[bowenw]

It could be his way of saying he's not interested in a long term relationship.

[Juicyred921]

I know he says he’s not ready for a relationship yet. He’s working on himself right now. He’s not even looking for anyone.

[bowenw]

He probably just wants to be friends for now and not get your hopes up.

[Juicyred921]

I just wish I knew If he liked me as a friend or more than a friend

[bowenw]

I'd try being friends with him and see how it goes.

[Juicyred921]

We have been friends.. for over 6 months

[bowenw]

After six months a guy should know if he's sees you as a friend or more than that. You may just have to come out and ask him if he ever sees you as becoming more than a friend. If he continues to say he doesn't want to lead you on I would say he only wants you as a friend.

[Juicyred921]

Anytime I try talking about it.. he says he doesn’t want to talk about that right now

[bowenw]

I think it's safe to assume he only sees you as a friend and that won't change.

[Juicyred921]

He just keeps saying he doesn’t want a relationship with anyone right now. He’s trying to focus on getting his life together

[bowenw]

In my experience a guy would do anything to be with a girl he is into. It sounds like he is making excuses so as not to hurt you.

[Juicyred921]

We’re always together.. he doesn’t have to do anything for us to be together we just are

[bowenw]

You may want to have a serious conversation with him to find out why he doesn't want a serious relationship with you.

[Juicyred921]

He doesn’t want a relationship at all with anyone. He says he’s not ready. He broke up with his girlfriend 7 months ago. He’s trying to get his life back together

[bowenw]

If you think you may have a future with him all you can do is continue to hang out with him and see if he gets his life together.

[Juicyred921]

And I’m trying to help him in any way I can. I always try and make him happy. Cause I love him. I just want him to be happy.. even if it sucks for me.

[anylolone]

Pretty much yes.

It mostly means he doesn't want a relationship with you, but it can definetely mean he doesn't want to even sleep with you or be your friend, depending on the context.

[Floppy2112]

Probably. Yeah, he's got options.

[Wise4myage]

No, he might just be after casual sex.

[sheikalana]

Yes.

[HuTao]

No. Not 100%

[Juicyred921]

What do you mean?

[HuTao]

I mean that I would ask him directly if he has interest in me or not

[Juicyred921]

I did.. he doesn’t wanna talk about it.. I asked him if he had feelings for me and he said he wasn’t going to answer.. the most I got out of him is that he likes me but I think maybe he bent as a friend.. I dono

[HuTao]

He sounds like a waste of time "I don't want to lead you on, but I won't give you a clear answer"

[Gedaria]

Possible...

[In_Trance]

Yea, pretty much

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily.