When a guy says he didn’t want to lead you on, is it because he actually did?

[Anonymous]

Why say this line unless there was actual truth to it? Why would a guy seem keen and then use that line?

[Twodogs0525]

I'm sure he knows it appears that way to you. That's a chance people take when dating or wanting to date, it may not have been his intention to "lead you on" but if he ended it, it's gonna appear that he did. It's no different than, "The last thing I wanted to do was hurt you." No one intends to hurt someone but tell that to the person that's broken.

[Asker]

Thank you, that helps to understand more. Yes he did end it, so I does that mean he did lead me on then. So he knows he hurt me?

[Twodogs0525]

Yes, I'm sure he knows you're hurt but I'm just as sure he didn't want to hurt you. When break ups happen, someone is usually on the receiving end.

[spartan55]

Doesn't mean that at all. Why would it matter?

[Asker]

Why say it then?

[spartan55]

To calm you down, chill you out.

[spartan55]

How would we know, since, you gave zero context or details.

[In_Trance]

Either that or he's going to