Why did add me when I unfollowed him then un add me?

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I’ve been talking to this guy for 4 months things were going good he was so full on with me and texted. So after he got distance he was also really attracted to me. We face timed and called a or. So I can tell he was a bit off with and we spoke on face time and he said to me he doesn’t want a relationship and he doesn’t think our convo flows and stuff. I was really annoyed because he kept on telling me how much he missed talking to me and how he wil make me his girl as soon as we meet and stuff now he’s saying this. So I put him straight for wasting my time and leading me on he also said I can talk to any other guys and he’s going through something personal. So I left it and texted him again on how long his been feeling like that blah blah after I unfollowed him on snap as I didn’t want anything to to do with him next morning he sent me a friend request again after I unfollow him on Snapchat then deleted it. Why did he do that and he did say how he will still check on me but I’d rather him not. He also kept on saying how I’m beautiful on FaceTime.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

This is my take on it..
He was interested initially. Very attracted.
He wanted to get to know you, but as he did, he started thinking and suddenly (or gradually) he realized he didn't feel the chemistry he was looking for and so he changed his mind.
He decided to tell you about his doubts, he was being honest. He could have ghosted or played you. But he decided not to.

But he also had doubts about his own judement. So he tried to 'damage control' and stay open as a friend with potential to change hid mind.

Just trying to clear it up. Ni faults or judgments on your part

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

I honestly don't know 🤔 ...
The dude seems a little indecisive and emotional... It's almost like he has bipolar or depression of some kind... To fall off the grid and then come back and then react in strange and quirky ways... I'd say, you are dating someone else and actually date someone else, let him make the next move. Tell him you got impatient and you wanted someone that was going to respect you and pay attention to you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Block that bitch girllll i hate this kinds of guys the most thats why i don't prefer talking on social media to guys a lot ( well i am even not allowed to talk personally either lol ) so yeah block get the most attitude you could ever had let him regret it hih (hope it helped )

Account · Accepted Answer

He simply decided he wasn't feeling it. I see nothing wrong with it. People are allowed to change their minds.  He might have clicked follow by mistake. It happens to people who stalk.

ohshee · Answer

I think I would love on there is no reason to do what he's doing not unless he adds you to chst with you and after finished chatting with you he deletes his page so someone else can't see it if they get in to his phone or he's just being a little crazy

Browneye57 · Answer

"I’ve been talking to this guy for 4 months things were going good..."
No they weren't, you just thought so. You really had/have nothing.
You can't forge a relationship via electronic communication. You have to actually meet up IRL and spend some time with them face to face. It's called DATING.

ItsjussZack · Answer

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Savage_Wisdom · Answer

Sounds like he's obsessed with you, almost dangerously so. And that sounds like the relationship could easily have turned abusive. You did the right thing leaving now.

JPrez · Answer

He's hesitant for a relationship but he wants to keep you in his orbit and come back to you at some point. He may be involved with another girl or talking to another girl and doesn't want you to know.

scholastic_vibez · Answer

Maybe he’s just an attention whore that likes getting attention from girls so he can get the self confidence he needs to go after the girl he wants, which isn’t you apparently.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

He only wants you when you don’t want him. I hate guys like that.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Just ditch him and move on. he is either messing or making you chase him. either way find a better guy.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Maybe he didn't take the hint, so you need to tell him straight. 'I don't like you, don't bother me anymore.' If that doesn't work, he's deranged.

ManHater · Answer

Turn the page, next! It's pretty clear that once the head between his legs gets to hint, there is a lag time for it to send the bad news up to his brain. So you can understand that's probably why.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Maybe there is another woman and he has some internal conflict about pursuing you.

SirJohn42 · Answer

There is no point trying to make it work. Im sorry you just dont need that mess in your life. there's plenty of fishes in the sea of life. He may of not liked the face time thing.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Just block him if you don't like him, mind games and dishonesty aren't part of working relationships.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think he shouldn't lead you on and make things right with you

JEndigoBleue · Answer

Ignore him. And, move on to someone that's going to give you the relationship you are looking for.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Probably he's going through something that makes him confused about his choices.  He obviously don't know if he should leave you, but you are not obliged to stay with him

14brittneyk · Answer

he's an idiot dont waste your time on him... there are other better guys out there!!

originalemerald · Answer

To play games. Urgunna end up pulling ur hair out over a fuck boyyy

Chris_u006 · Answer

He is like a little child, wants something he can't get.

TheAfrikan · Answer

He changed his mind once he lost the chemistry at first, and then later he felt it arise and wanted you back close.

Why did add me when I unfollowed him then un add me?

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