Why Do Guys DM Me With False Intentions?

[JEndigoBleue]

Since I've been on GAG, giving an honest opinion about sex "Oh, Boy!" opens the flood gates of men DMing me trying their hand. Or, using my opinion or question as a long drawn out discussion only to sneak a flirtation comment to show why they are really talking to me. To be honest, I call them on it before they get started. They all do the same chuckle and jive "lie" their not trying me for that. Uh, huh... Sure. I'm being me. Just like you're being you. I read opinions. Some I'm very intrigued by. Curious. But, I don't see it as green light to DM guys to see if we connect on that level. "Sex" that is. I'm sure some women do. So, I understand somewhat. But, it amazes me, I give my honest opinion and I'll have 2-3 men in my DM. Some with no intelligence to intelligent. Can I give an honest opinion without a guy trying his hand? Damn! I wasn't born yesterday when you come with the fake conversation. I'm very discerning. I don't miss nothing. And, I know when a man takes pride in his skill to seduce and manipulate. I can read that he does this all the time with women. Sooo, not interested. My daddy didn't raise no fool. I don't have a problem enjoying a decent conversation with men on GAG. But, when your intentions are "false" and not genuine "I'M GONE!" [DELETE] AND [IGNORE].

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Both are. But wouldn't say men often say women are naive? Women don't really say that about men.

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[ChrisMaster69]

It’s one of a number of downsides to the internet.

likely 99% of those that PM, would never do it in real, where they have to walk over to a girl and actually talk to them without hiding behind a desk.

in an ideal world people should not have to change their settings or put very clear warnings on their profile.

you can guarantee that what ever platform is popular in 10 years times will have the exact same problem the every internet chat programme or website has.

[JEndigoBleue]

So true Mr. 69... LOL! I see 👀 you! And, no, I'm not flirting. Just messing with you. But, I agree with you.

[ChrisMaster69]

Lol, I find flirting is limited if the intelligence and or imagination is lacking.

At times it’s like a Caveman on the other keyboard.

‘ZOG want wohman, ZOG tell her his has big club, he send Wohman of his Club, she now worship him’

[ChrisMaster69]

Damn my Caveman is rusty lol.

ZOG want wohman, ZOG tell her he has big club, he send Wohman drawing of his Club, she now worship him’

[JEndigoBleue]

LOLOLOLOL! Wait a minute! You speak "Caaavvvmaaannn!" You remember that cartoon character?

[ChrisMaster69]

Yep, I am old you know lol

[JEndigoBleue]

And, so true. You gotta have the ability to "think" and be "creative". Sex is more mental like communication is more physical. Both work together if you are perceptive.

[JEndigoBleue]

Aww, man! C'mon! We're forever young!

[ChrisMaster69]

Lol, yep definitely forever young.

And agreed, it’s more mental fencing than sexual comments.

[MrWolf]

Like really they do that ohhh. So sorry to hear the times I've as men experienced this from woman you and me sister we on the same boat.

Like yo I'm here to write not hookup lmao.
And you I'm married imagine.

People are people i say it is what it is. But looking for that on GAG lmao 🤣

[JEndigoBleue]

You right! It is what it is... And, I got their is to their "it"

I love chatting but not when men assume they will get lucky by having a fake conversation to engage me into having a
sex with them. It happens all the time.

[MrWolf]

True story there. So i understand this thing ain't nice as it is getting out of hand really.

[Smashingdoozy]

Oh oh my fav one from today apparently talking about foreskins is an important topic for men. 😐

Yeah I hope you see this and feel embarrassed 😂

The amount of "hey babe"s 🤢🤢🤢

I really don't mind talking to people at all but I think since I've come back on here I've had maybe 3 conversations ever with people that have never turned sexual. It's ridiculous.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well said... And exactly why my pm is now set to private for only those I follow and why don't follow everyone that follows me, especially the ones that follow right after posting or answering a sex question, and then low and behold, I'll get 3-5 new followers... Like you said, I'm no fool either...

[JEndigoBleue]

"BBB" Yeah, it looks like that's what I gotta do. Go "Private". Honestly, here lately, I have been getting a lot of DMs like that. I often wonder if it's GAG? LOL!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nah it's just people.. I walked 3 blocks to store the other day and on way back dude pulled over and kept beeping horn, I just kept walking and he drove stand block and pulled over again, offered me rude, I politely declined and then the idiot had the nerve to say "50 bucks to suck my dick" WTF... and regardless of what some idiots say, it's not how women are dressed trying to call attention to themselves, cuz I was wearing joggers, a sloppy sweatshirt, no make up, bags under my eyes that looked like two black eyes, so yeah 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*around "ride friggin typos lol

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh, yeah, men seem to talk to you the most when you're looking haggish... Maybe they think we're desperate for the attention and time. "Nooot!"

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lololol right! Dammed if so and dammed if don't lolol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*do..

[JEndigoBleue]

Yup!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh

[JEndigoBleue]

Welcome!

[coachTanthony]

Thirsty dudes all over GAG. Should of came with a release form when you signed up. LOL

[JEndigoBleue]

Yeah..."Release form?" To release what? To release your honest opinion?

[coachTanthony]

Well it was tongue and cheek but you can go private on GAG also. Many do if they get overwhelmed with craziness.

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh, I see. Well, I may have to consider going "Private" ... That's crazy, man! I want the full experience of "GAG!" Wait a minute... How does that work? The "Privacy" doodad thing? 🤔 Like, I can control who I want to talk to me... Like, they have to send a request to chat?

[coachTanthony]

Yeah they won't be able to message you if you go private unless they follow you which you can control by accepting follow requests or not. If you do accept a follow and they act stupid then you can just block them.

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh, ok. Well, I already delete and block. Now, I will delete, block and be "Prriiivaaate!" Hehe. Yeah, man😊 Thanks!

[coachTanthony]

No problem LOL

[Holisticapproachsara]

It doesn't work to go anon. Dont u know? There is a stigma here for pink anons, they are seen as troll and u will never get ur questions answered. its i am damned if i go anon and damned forsure if i didnt😂

[This_is_my_username]

Welcome to G@G! On a serious note, I'm sorry this is happening. This is a big downside to the internet. People just have so much gall to act on their impulses because there's a screen and a log out button.. that'll make everything disappear. There are no consequences for their actions and they think it's a big fun game and that the women they are messaging are just profiles and not **real** human beings. Reality and fantasy interplay, in some sick way I guess. So they continue on with messaging inappropriately.

[Holisticapproachsara]

Well i feel ya sista! But some guys on here are sweet and became my friends too. It can be both positive and negative experience

[JEndigoBleue]

True. I only had 1 positive DM.

[Bethann40]

Good for you seems like they are just pigs trying to get off on something which is gross... hl watch some porn stupid and ignorant dumb jack ass !!

[JEndigoBleue]

Right!

[IAMNathanael]

Interesting that you point that out. I imagine it does look pretty sus if you share a sexual opinion and they immediately flock to you. I think it could also make normal guys self conscious of the way they talk to you if they knew that this is a thing that happens.

[JEndigoBleue]

Well, it's GAG... "Girl Ask Guy" right? It's what you do, right? You give your opinion. Why give false opinions? Yes, I can't help what people say or do with the opinion. It's mind blowing that "men" no matter what platform I'm on (YouTube, etc) And, I give an honest comment or opinion, someone will see it as an invitation. Do you experience this with women? I'm sure women do it too.

[IAMNathanael]

Well not exactly the same way. Not in dms but sometimes women follow me only to immediately invite me to an attention seeking or compliment fishing question. Or maybe even a sexually explicit question and I'll be frank about it, I'm not very keen on responding to any of those.

[JEndigoBleue]

Hm? What do you "Normal guy self conscious of the way he talks to me?"

[JEndigoBleue]

I see it the same. Their being seducive and manipulative... If you're weak enough, you'll fall for it. I'll say "lustful" enough you'll fall for itm

[IAMNathanael]

Yeah, I probably could've phrased it better. By that I mean the guys who's goal is to have a real conversation instead of being fake

[JEndigoBleue]

I can tell the difference. You can't be someone you're not for long.

[JEndigoBleue]

On another note... The intelligent ones or men who know how to carry a conversation do get a conversation. But, I give them a chance to see if their intentions are true. To be "A nice guy" I already know there not. But, prove me wrong. Why do I continue to talk to them? Like I said they know how to carry a conversation, so we talk and I give fair warning up front... They usually slip up within days. They can't help it.

[IAMNathanael]

Okay but what you mean by holding a conversation? I'm not good at keeping one but I think that's because I'm generally not good at communication (whoops, my bad lol).

[JEndigoBleue]

LOL! My friend your holding one now a"Conversation" Somewhere in the conversation it goes left real quick... And, I'm like "Here we go..." Can men and women just talk about anything without someone crossing the lines. 🤷‍♀️

[IAMNathanael]

What lines am I crossing? Or where did it turn? I was trying to agree with you

[JEndigoBleue]

Your cool. Mr. "IAM" I'll definitely let you know when your not. We just got our signals cross... but I agree
too. We're on the same page.

[IAMNathanael]

Great, I'm glad we're on the right track!

[spartan55]

Yeah, there will always be an endless supply of those types of guys. I wish more women handled them like you do. That would cull them out a bit.

[JEndigoBleue]

Yeah, unfortunately, one bad apple spoils the rest. And, they say women are naive. (No, offense to the good men)

[spartan55]

When it comes to this particular topic can you agree that women are fairly naive?

[JEndigoBleue]

Both are. But, wouldn't you agree men say it more often about women being naive

[spartan55]

Of course, but explain why you think guys are naive about it? Because they believe the tactic of sending a DM after a post actually works?

[JEndigoBleue]

Yup! They meet enough women to help them believe that. Immaturity as well plays a role with a lot of men and women these days.

[sidh69]

Hey... That's really a lengthy one and looks like you're pretty offended with guys hitting you in dm

Honestly... I do like talking to women here... About lot things which include sexual conversations

That said, I try to make sure that they are okay with that before hitting it on. With this question of yours, I feel like those messages (dm or replies) have offended a few and if I have been one of those men to you, I apologise!

[JEndigoBleue]

I like talking about a little bit of everything too. And, yes, I have engaged in flirting, sexting too... But, that was an organic flow and not "Here I am baby... Signed, sealed, delivered I'm yours" Some men assume and read into one's opinions as "Oh, she's freaky"

[JEndigoBleue]

And, though you've never offended me. I'll accept your apology for all the knuckleheads out there.

[sidh69]

Good to know I have not offended you ever!!

I fully agree that any communication had to be an organic flow without a pre thought trajectory

Initially I felt that all those DMs have been bothering you... Glad to know all aren't

[Jahizamy]

Guys actually do that on here?

Just skim over your inbox tbh, there is almost nothing a stranger on the internet is going to say on this website that will be worth the time of responding to.

[JEndigoBleue]

🙂 Yes. They do it on all platforms. If I make comment on YouTube and I speak a truth that involves a relationship with a man or sex, there's always someone or more trying their hand.

[Avicenna]

GAG is a sausage fest , so presumably there will be some guys with no game thinking you might be willing to talk to them. It’s just being opportunistic.

[JEndigoBleue]

You know for some I do feel for them. They say their lonely. I don't know if that's a lie or not
But, I'm not your human "blow up doll!" But, I have a heart, so I feel for the one's that admit such. Unfortunately, I can't do nothing about it.

[Elena_the_Star]

They have been doing that since time immemorial, just ignore them or change your relationship status to not single.

[JEndigoBleue]

You're right! These platforms are just extension of what happens on the streets (The Real World)

[D4nielv]

The streets are less anonymous, which is why it happens here more often and blatantly.

[Apope16]

Its because sometimes peoples replies turn us on. I try hard not to be a creep dm ing you or others. But the responses by women is a turn on for sure

[JEndigoBleue]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to turn you on (Singing the song). But, I get it. I said it myself replies, comments, statements, opinions draw me in or have me curious too. But, it's not an invitation to shoot your sexual shot. Masking it like some cheap cologne over a dirty body. Ewww! We can smell you, man! Your not hiding the funk, Sir!

[Dnice1]

It's just full of perverts here but there are some guys on here are actually good guys that are just naughty, pure or a mix of both. I know because I met my soulmate on here. 😊

[JEndigoBleue]

Nice.

[Kaneki05]

You should already know the answer. Kinda a mudane question tbh.

[JEndigoBleue]

If you read the question in detail, I know the answer.

And, No question or reply is mundane. It all spark conversation whether you're mundane response agrees or not.

[Kaneki05]

Shrugs just sharing my opinion. Mudane question, to an answer you already know to spark a convo about something you already know the answers and responses to. And won't ever stop it. Might as well talk to a wall. But freedom to ask anything i guess. Just as freedom to respond this way.

[JEndigoBleue]

😴 Why do I bother replying. 🙄 I can hear your voice dragging.

I digress.

[Tomtom9090]

They see you are sexualized and those men are lonely and for whatever reason believe showing you their cock is the way to get you to send them photos in return

[JEndigoBleue]

Please do not show me your cock or dick pics... Why in the hell would I wanna see that little "Thang!" I will definitely deflate your ego if you show me and think I suppose to ride that!

Right, society at large is too sexualized!

[Tomtom9090]

I wasn't offering

[Tomtom9090]

im gay my dick is small gross and smelly and i have no ego or confidence.

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh, no! LOL! I wasn't referring to you. I was talking about the perverts.

[JEndigoBleue]

And, don't talk about your dick like that. You believe in the power of "your" "dick" You have the best dick in the world. That's how you suppose to feel about "you"

[Tomtom9090]

well i might be a lot of things but delusion is not one of them

[JEndigoBleue]

Delusion? You don't have to be. Think "BIG" my friend.

[ChocoBrowny]

Lol you fell for his reverse psychology 😭😂😂😂 thinking of his dick in less than a few comments. MHO RIGHT HERE

[JEndigoBleue]

Seems like you're thinking of it too... Eww... Sucker!

[ChocoBrowny]

Justice for Tomtom. The people's MHO

[Tomtom9090]

@ChocoBrowny Ill show her if she's curious in some young big new dick

[ChocoBrowny]

she awards MHO to women who have 1k male followers, but she only wants a BIG follower like you who takes care of her bleue waffle

[JEndigoBleue]

SMH... I'll leave you two to enjoy each others company.

I digress.

[Tomtom9090]

@ChocoBrowny lmao

[ChocoBrowny]

Lol you can't handle the attention? But you love the attention

[JEndigoBleue]

Don't we all. I can handle it. And, "I DO" But, all attention is not good attention I rather not entertain. Attention like that is annoying. Delete.

[ChocoBrowny]

Oh dear, you know we are all sexual beings right. It's natural to desire the one in their proximity over time who gives them the attention they desire, if say you had interest in one of them and they didn't show their hand you'd be here asking why he hasn't 😭😂 and wonder if you're undesirable ugly then etc. You probably are talking to some lonely men, weirdos, and creeps of all sorts. It's part and parcel of the internet. Do whatever but if the tables were turned and you were male, youd realise just how lonely it is. Yet you judge a male for feeling the way he does. Girls just having boobs and ass will get all the attention with zero effort.

[JEndigoBleue]

Next.

[Diversity_Hire]

I mean, if it bothers you so much just change your settings. 🤷‍♂️

I wish I got PM'd more often; even if they're an idiot it's still something to take me away from mind numbing boredom.

[JEndigoBleue]

I hear you... But, the point is one shouldn't have to change anything by way of someone else nuisance.

[JEndigoBleue]

Nonsense is the word... but they are a nuisance.

[Iron_Man]

When you talk about sex a lot in the Questions its like ringing the dinner bell to invite them all in thirsty guys

[JEndigoBleue]

Iron_Man you ain't never lied. It's an answer to a question dammit! Not an invite! 😒

[Iron_Man]

No but they see your sexual questions thats like ringing the dinner bell so then they try you in private message so they can try to Sext with you

[JEndigoBleue]

Epic fail!

[Iron_Man]

Don’t blame me I’m not making all the sexual questions left and right

[JEndigoBleue]

Yeah, you're pretty cool. Enjoy your reading your opinions.

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Yawnnn. Another broke down feminist. Yawnnnn.

[JEndigoBleue]

LOLOLOLOL GOTTA LOVE YOU!

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't know. I never do that, though. I have plenty of sexual conversations with people without hitting on them.

[MrCreep]

I don't even read all that why do you expect anything diffrent but it's just how I am mostly if I speak to long lol

[JEndigoBleue]

Coming from someone 121 years old and goes by the name "MrCreep" ... You gotta love people on GAG. Very laughable. 😅🤣😂

[JEndigoBleue]

And, MrCreep... What are you saying? I can't understand a word you just typed. I'm not being funny as I would like to reply to your comment as you so desire.

[MrCreep]

Most men are pathetic why u expect no different they like to pray you know

[JEndigoBleue]

I wouldn't generalize "most" men. Let's say some. And, I don't judge until you step into my court and plead your case. You will definitely be overruled if you come out your mouth wrong.

[MrCreep]

Most do nothing when they can help people in need nearly all blame drink for sick behaviour and cause nothing gets done by outher men or law it's all shit getting much worse all the time

[MrCreep]

Your very naive along with most gals you might be in for a nasty surprise if you spend to much time in the real world

[JEndigoBleue]

Trust. I know "men". The men in my family taught me well of the "game". If I fail, it will be because I wanted to and not because I was "naive". I don't live in fantasy land about "men". I don't generalize people because their are good decent men that you can talk to about anything and not get a reaction to pursue you for sex. It's called self-control. Online or people you meet in-person will put on a different mask to get what they want. That's why you take your time with getting to know people or asks the right questions before pursuing any relationship with them. Male or female. If you proceed to continue dealing with them after seeing and hearing red flags, you should have no problem dealing with the consequences to follow afterwards. People can't fake who they are not for long. They will show their true identity if you weigh them out. They always do from my experience with men. I'm never surprised when they do. I just count the days when they decide they can't win and become a ghost.

[MrCreep]

If you you know why ask

[MrCreep]

Unless you think your bragging or showing off somehow that it might tease or annoy someone you talk to or get more attention from men that will be like you say lol

[JEndigoBleue]

It's not asking a question because I don't know. It's a question to get the opinion of others. If you read the question in detail "which" you said "I don't even read all that" you would have noted my observations and reason behind the question.

[MrCreep]

I was going to say I wasted my time reading it you just basically repeated the same thing untill you got a massive sentence but thought you might be annoyed by me already to say it. And your question asks so yeah it's s question you even ask why and if you know why, why are you confusion here why?

[JEndigoBleue]

MrCreep.

Why?

I digress.

[MrCreep]

Yeah

[Waldoe]

lol... I'm an old flirt, (70), and I hope I am not guilty... But id I am... hubba-hubba

[msc545]

There are a lot of very immature guys on here.

[JEndigoBleue]

RIGHT!

[JEndigoBleue]

Grow up!

[Protein_mate]

Simps and losers basically

[JEndigoBleue]

Don't tell them that... Shoot. They will declare their ALPHA" status.

[Protein_mate]

And big D status

[JEndigoBleue]

RIGHT!

[Anonymous]

I believe you said you didn't have sex until you were 31?

[TheFlak38]

so what's the problem?

[JEndigoBleue]

It's annoying. Do women do it to you?

[TheFlak38]

sometimes. I dont think it's annoying. it's unfortunate to be open and talk about sex.

[JEndigoBleue]

What do you mean unfortunate?

[TheFlak38]

I meant "fun" but the autocorrect wanted to embarrass me once again

[JEndigoBleue]

Oh? Yeah, it is. But, not an invitation to bid your way into seeing it could happen with an individual. We can converse all day. But, it doesn't mean I want to have sex with you. It's a "con-ver-sa-tion".

[JEndigoBleue]

They don't flat out say that but they eventually will slip a flirt... or some type of sexual undertone.

[TheFlak38]

I do that too. Again I dont see a problem.

[JEndigoBleue]

Yeah, I'm sure there are women that don't either. That's why they try their hand.

[wittymilf]

Amen to this

[Jmmmfi4]

guys are predictable

[JEndigoBleue]

Love the pic... It always crack me up! I don't know why.

[Jmmmfi4]

Lol !!!

[Jmmmfi4]

At least some one appreciate the humor in it

[OddBeMe]

Oh, you’re absolutely right. So you up?

[In_Trance]

because you let them

[JEndigoBleue]

Now, "In_Trance" you gotta explain in detail your reply. C'mon, man?