Why do guys act so mean just to turn around and try to sleep with me?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

Okay, Okay, I am glad I spotted this question so I can actually get you on the right track... so don't listen to the rest of these people.

First off you are 36 to 45, so you are a grown woman... so this shit is not cool for a man, I am presuming is your age. This literally some schoolboy aged BS. So being a guy who was very arrogant and cocky as a youth... I did this shit because I had this high level of self-esteem and ego, so by treating girls like shit, then romancing her later feed my ego, and gave me great sense of self-worth and value.

In grade school guys do this because they have no idea how to treat woman in general, because like a girl stirs emotions up you have never felt before. Like crushing on your playground crush so hard and feeling like loser if she doesn't feel the same about you. So as a teenager is do this shit, as a defensive mechanism... because being mean to her gives you reason to talk to her, and if she rejects you then you can play if off like you never liked her anyway. But if she like it and kept messing with you back then, eventually you got one of the love / hate things going, and that was really fun and exciting. But again, you are so young, most of this is accredited to just being naive about woman, your own emotions and relationships in general.

But for a guy your age to still be acting this way, is because he is emotionally immature and lacking in emotional intelligence. I mean at 18 or 22 I would say it is totally nature and most guys grow out of it, after they have their first real and true relationship. But at your age, this guy is just emotionally stunted and immature, and it probably related to some previous relationship trauma he never dealt with in a healthy way or got past like a real man would have by now.

[ManOnFire]

Guys do this as a cover for the fact that they have already wanted to sleep with you. By acting mean towards you they want you to believe they don't like you, when deep down they really do and want their meanness to puzzle you or make you come after them. Once this happens that's when they go in for the kill. In reality this has worked on many women, and a lot of guys know it, that's why they do it. It goes back to that whole thing about a guy acting coldly or uninterested in a woman to attract her, which sadly does make many women go after them.

However, you also have a lot of women who try to act bitchy because they think it's sexy and will intrigue men, but this doesn't work on most men like men acting cold towards women seems to work on them.

[_Maya_]

Because that's what they got on their mind presumably. Some guys will do anything to get in your pants even if they acted mean before. If they think they have a shot they will take it. Not all guys are like that though. In my experience they tend to take their shot at getting me in bed and when they fail then get pissy not the other way around but this somewhat doesn't surprise me what you're saying.

[ManOnFire]

Do not be fooled. A lot of guys do this as a cover for the fact that they do want you.

[Anonymous]

Well those are the guys that attract women to them. So it works. So a guy sees that works for the other guy they are going to do the same thing to get you interested and get you attention.

The boring nice guy you don't care about.

[In_Trance]

what are you doing to provoke these actions? this doesn't happen to everyone so it must be something you're saying or doing (or not)

[Anonymous]

That's like asking why does a tiger want to eat me? You need to entertain better men. Don't want to do that? Then expect this to continue.

[andy530]

They are trying to sleep with you and don’t care too much for you

[Cheerfull009]

You are too sexy and seductive, so guys like to sleep with you

[jahaims]

They don't respect you but still want sex

[Anonymous]

Because you don't have anything else to offer

[Moniinmiddle]

Wrong. she doesn't have anything else that they're interested in. Everyone has SOMETHING to offer. Wow